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11-22-2014, 01:49 PM
There was a girl back in high school who had a big crush on me in senior year. She liked me since sophomore year. She always showed interest in me and flirted with me but I never showed interest back. I pretty much never even looked at her. She might have continued to have a crush on me but we graduated. That was 10 years ago. I decided to google her name recently just to see what she’s been up to and I found out that she’s in grad school. I found her profile on the grad school website (each student has their own profile on the website). The profile has her grad school email. I want to send her an email saying hi and asking her what she has been up to.
Would she be creeped out? Or would she like the fact that I emailed her because she used to have a crush on me in high school? Would she think that I like her? Would she respond?
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11-22-2014, 01:50 PM
It does ping the creep radar, IMO. Doesn't she have Facebook? Do you have any mutual friends, even if its a stretch?
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11-22-2014, 01:54 PM
Who gives a shit if it creeps her out. IT might creep her out it might not... but there is a 100% chance that if you dont do it, then whatever you hope to gain by contacting her will never manifest.
If she ask how you found her email tell her that your cyber stalker skills have improved leaps and bounds since highschool... then just start a normal conversation.
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11-22-2014, 01:55 PM
It might come across as a little "creepy" (see how I put that in quotes), but I guess ultimately you have to ask yourself, do you really give a fuck? Also, would there be any repercussions from her thinking you are a creepy dude, do you have friends in the same social circle, if not maybe there's more potential upside than not, if some how she responds or shows interest it may be worth the risk.
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11-22-2014, 02:11 PM
friend her on facebook. after she accepts.....wait a few weeks or so and send an innocuous message saying "hey, I noticed you were_(some mutual friends name) friend on facebook also back when I friended you. How have you been?"
A little less creepy
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11-22-2014, 04:24 PM
Not that creepy since you can frame it as wondering what had happened to her. But I wouldn't immediately ask her out after reestablishing contact
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12-22-2014, 03:26 PM
I think you want to be sure to not mention that you know she had a crush on you in high school. If you go this route, you need to seem like Dudley Dooright.
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12-22-2014, 03:30 PM
I thought we didn't use the word 'cr**p' around here.
Isn't that girl talk?
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12-22-2014, 04:00 PM
Creep is an over used word that women use to describe men that pursue them but they themselves are not interested in.
Just send her the email. If she's not interested she likely won't respond. Who cares if that's the case. Although I would try to find her on Facebook first before going the email route.
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12-22-2014, 05:16 PM
You could just find her on facebook, no?
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12-24-2014, 06:53 PM
Maybe it does creep her out. Who cares? She doesn't respond, nothing lost.
But maybe, must maybe, she is super excited to her from you. She gets wet just thinking about you. She then responds and you take it from there.
See the logic? You have everything to gain and nothing to lose.
Though, I do agree with some others that you don't want to ask her out in your first e-mail. You want to establish contact and build some comfort. And then ask her to get a drink.
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12-24-2014, 09:23 PM
WIA is right.
Establish contact.
Get number. Gauge interest. Don't spend much time on the phone. Use false time constraint.
Come back here and report on what she said.
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12-24-2014, 09:33 PM
I truly hope you're not doing what I once did, which is trying to go back in the past trying to cling back to someone who liked you years ago when things are not going your way right now. If it's that don't even contact her since you'll come across as extremely needy! If you're feeling good and your life is in order proceed with the advised you received from the previous poster.
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12-25-2014, 09:36 PM
If you were texting with a dozen girls and banging a couple of them you would never have made this thread.
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12-28-2014, 03:22 AM
You've already lost the game. Whether you like it or not, this will manifest itself in your interaction with her.
Get some numbers in your phone, bang a few girls, and then if it so happens to pop in your mind, when you're drunk send a some drunken "facebook" request and go for it. Because at that point you truly won't give a shit and probably won't complete that last step. ()
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12-28-2014, 02:42 PM
Being "creepy" doesn't exist. It was just invented for girls who wanna reject a guy.
I'd go with memcpy's advice and forget about it, perhaps send a request "out of the blue" and "I just saw your name somewhere" or anything that makes you look not needy.