[AJ]

Everyone's dealt with them before

That girl who attacks you like a hungry bear but later in the night dances/talks with guy to guy.

I usually don't have the patience to deal with them and ignore them after they start showing signs of being a cocktease and enjoy myself elsewhere.

Note that this is separate issue from the jealously move where they're obviously interested, start talking/dancing up any random guy, and sneaking peeks to see what you're doing.

My question is what does one do to get the best outcome in this case. Chase relentlessly until she caves? Play aloof and increase your value aside? I've only seen the chasing work once where one guy followed her incessantly like a homeless man after some bread. Playing aloof almost never seems to work.

[Chad Daring]

I dont bother. I saw a girl about a month ago that did this. On the dance floor she came up to me, attractive probably an 8, started dancing, I went to put my hands on her hips and she stepped back and gave me the finger wave "no no no" We kept dancing then she looked at me and kinda spun off and went up to another guy. This happened all night long. Two guys tried chasing her down, literally they ran through the bar and knocked shit over. Surprise, surprise they guys get kicked out, she got to stay. End of the night she left alone.

[Caligula]

Happened to me recently.

Redhead 7 with massive knockers kept looking over at me and making eye contact. I shouted "mind your manners, talk to me if you're going to stare." I beckoned her to come over. No go. Ignored her for a bit, talked to my friend, and then went over and opened. Went well, her hands were all over me within a minute, shoving her tits in my face. I kinoed big time too and she seemed into it. Then five minutes in she stopped abruptly and pushed me away telling me to go back to my friend.

Within 20 minutes she was hooking up with some other guy. Don't know if they knew each other already or if they'd just met.

I think my mistake was letting her set the pace and not taking control. I imagine it's better to tell her to back off when she starts pawing at you so soon in the set?

Other times I've lost control like this is when girls amp up the sexual tension ridiculous levels very quickly by saying very sexual things (eg. 'my girlfriend and I like licking each other clean'). Feels like a shit test and usually I'll just say something like "that's cool", act unimpressed and switch topic, but it can be tricky when they keep at it.

How do you deal with this sort of behaviour?

[oldnemesis]

(04-16-2011 03:29 PM)Caligula Wrote:  

Other times I've lost control like this is when girls amp up the sexual tension ridiculous levels very quickly by saying very sexual things (eg. 'my girlfriend and I like licking each other clean').

Say "thanks for sharing" with the same intonation and face as if she told you she takes a shower daily. She didn't say anything valuable or interesting to you. If she is American, you can also neg her with something like "I bet your GF is happy you're talking about it with strangers in the bars. What happened with good old morals of 'what happens in bedroom should stay in bedroom'"? This wouldn't work with non-Western girl, but American girls always fall into the "I am not a slut" trap.

That happens often in the online game if you talk to an attention whore over IM, and losing control over the conversation. A common trap here that it seems like a lot of guys settle for virtual sex instead of real one. Don't. The only times I did NOT get laid online with a girl I built rapport was when we started talking about sex online before we even met.