Quote: (04-15-2011 09:36 AM)Gmac Wrote:
There's something to said for earning notches. That's why hookers don't count... Where is the effort? Not to knock anyone who does, it's just not my thing.
I agree that there can be something to be said for "earning" notches non-transactionally, which is why I suggested the "asterisk" next to notches with hookers.
At the same time, however, I find there to be a disturbing lack of distinction between the cost of most of these "earned" notches and the price of a call girl. Unless you have very good game (and often times even then), the indirect cost of these "earned" notches can often exceed that of a common escort's rate. Sex is expensive, especially in the US.
In spite of this(and this is the perplexing part), these men who carry this cost often adopt a stance of self-righteousness when faced with men who go the direct route. Because they paid indirectly, they behave almost as though they incurred no cost, when in fact they invest more for their notches (and even more for continued access to said women in relationships). As I said before, it is common for men to insist on never paying directly and adopting almost a sort of cult/pride/badge of honor from that basis while still paying these exorbitant indirect prices in time, money, resources, etc.
One strategy does not seem to necessarily be head and shoulders above the other in terms of practicality, yet only one seems to gain approval. I'm not saying the direct route is for everyone and that it should not be promoted with some caution (like I said, put asterisks next to those notches with hookers/escorts) but I don't see why they shouldn't be counted as notches all the same. I haven't yet heard a really good reason for this.