[bradz]

Good stuff guys - thanks. When I wrote that post I had met a young girl (23) and we were texting a little. Long story that's done - went nowhere.
OK but now I'm texting with a very cute 21 yr old that replied to a CL ad of mine. She wants to be dominated by an older man.

She asked if I'm married. I said "ha - would it be hotter if I said I was?" and she replied "I'm just curious - do tell"

I'm thinking she may not care....

[Scorpio Rising]

(10-10-2014 09:40 AM)Carlos100 Wrote:  

I think you kind of have to judge what the woman wants to hear. Some want plausible denial, some don't care, and some find it a turn on to get boned by a high-value, married man. I think most women will communicate to you with their body language the answer that they're looking for, but it probably takes some experience to be able to read it reliably. I've tried all strategies: being open and honest, being evasive, outright lying, and combinations of all three. All three have sometimes worked and all three have sometimes failed.

I've had two rather virtuous-seeming women (one Japanese and one Korean) sleep with me after meeting my wife and having a friendly conversation with her, much to my complete surprise. I've also had apparently slutty women refuse to have anything more to do with me after I told them I was married. I'm still trying to figure it out.

If a woman wants you your status or lack thereof just doesn't matter to her. Even if you are older, married and short of which I am all three. Who knows what goes on in their minds? I sure as hell don't. I do know that if you pick up her signals you need to act fast, or she very well may suddenly go cold on you.

[DannyAlberta]

(11-06-2014 01:23 PM)Scorpio Rising Wrote:  

If a woman wants you your status or lack thereof just doesn't matter to her. Even if you are older, married and short of which I am all three. Who knows what goes on in their minds? I sure as hell don't. I do know that if you pick up her signals you need to act fast, or she very well may suddenly go cold on you.

that's generally correct. my strategy is to admit it outright. i find it does cost me some interest from some women (almost uniformly younger ones), but not always.

i try to say something cocky/funny about it, like (i stole this one):

me: if i wasn't married I'd have to be gay, right?

her: huh?

me: girls like you are always saying, the good ones are either married or gay.