[Levi]

Hey everyone
I have this problem where I literally can't stop thinking or worrying myself for seemingly no important reason and I feel late everywhere and always in a rush....any thoughts

[Beyond Borders]

Read "The Untethered Soul."

Or take up meditation.

Or both.

[Levi]

Thanks for the input keep em comin

[libertad1312]

I can only second meditation. One of the best things I have ever started.

Our mind is creating our reality and based on this knowledge there is nothing more powerful than learning how to control the mind.

[Levi]

Is there a good starter reference for beginning meditation I'm ignorant of the subject

[jamaicabound]

Is there any particular thing worrying you such as future, job, health, etc? Or is it just a general worried feeling for no reason?

I used to be very carefree laid back easyoging didn't care about consequences. Over the past few years I've kind of turned into a bit of a nervous person or uneasy. What I can suggest is basically anything your worrying about that you can do something about take action and that will replace your worry with being busy. IF you're worried about your health make an effort to eat healthier, workout, etc. If your worried about career save more money, find a side income, etc so your not so reliant on a fulltime gig, etc.

[Levi]

I'm glad you asked that bc everything's going great honestly jobs good money's good pussy stream is good and I constantly feel this dread/worry/headache/queesy(sp) when I'm sober

[heavy]

Just reading 10% Happier by Dan Harris. I didn't know anything about the book or author when I started reading it. Turns out he's worked for ABC News for years...Good Morning America (where he had a nervous breakdown on tv), Nightline, etc.

It's one of the fastest books I've ever read, so it's well written (a huge plus). He talks about how he tackles the voice in his head (not a crazy one, just the one all of us has). His raw but articulate style gives you a realistic view of a normal, successful person who finds meditation as a solution. As an example, even after starting meditation, he comments about a meditation retreat "...but there was no way in hell I was going on a retreat." Then he ends up going a while later.

I read a lot of books, and this would be near the top of recent books I'd recommend. You can get the sample for free from Amazon.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00FJ376CS?btkr=1

[Levi]

Good input gents thanks for the insight

[Pinocchio]

Try smoking weed

[Levi]

I smoke about a quarter of loud a week as is

[Beyond Borders]

Levi, I mean this as constructively as possible - I'd go easy on skipping the punctuation. Textspeak doesn't really fly around here, and you're pretty new; probably good idea to put a bit more time into your posts before the moderators drop the axe.

Anyhow, regarding the initial topic, I haven't actually finished "The Untethered Soul," but the first 2 or 3 chapters discussed this idea of how we're always jabbering to ourselves in our heads and made me think about it in ways I hadn't really considered before.

Some choice quotes from the book:

"There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind - you are the one who hears it."

"Your inner growth is completely dependent upon the realization that the only way to find peace and contentment is to stop thinking about yourself."

[jamaicabound]

(09-11-2014 08:55 AM)Levi Wrote:  

Good input gents thanks for the insight

I'm a big stoner myself so don't think I'm advocating against smoking but sometimes when I'm in kind of a worrying mood smoking weed makes me even more paranoid or makes my mind race even more so though I may think it's relaxing me if I really examine myself and break it down sometimes it does more harm than good. Maybe chill out on the weed for a day or two and see how you feel.

Sounds like it's just kinda general anxiety since you said all is good and your really just worrying not really about anything specific. I'd suggest maybe look into doing some medication or relaxing.

One other thing to try out. I always smoke weed before going to bed, literally for years and years almost never miss a night. Before I started smoking nighttime lying in bed before I fell asleep was sorta like going through my day in my head, thinking about things, sorting out life things. I think in part I started smoking weed because Id idn't like that and would prefer just to get high and kinda drift off to sleep without having to think about things, however that is time when I know personally I used to really sort out a lot of things in my head and think about a lot of things. Even if not before bed give yourself sometime at some point during the day just for quiet relection. I bet it will help

With cellphones and tv and ipods it's literally possible to go an entire day without ever being alone with yourself and your thoughts. Kinda crazy, hell even 5 or 10 years ago waiting in line, waiting for an appointment, etc you kinda just sat there maybe halfass read a magazine but actually were alone with your thourhgts. These days I'm as guilty of it as the next person but think about it, anytime you have a second of downtime your probably watchin a youtube video, checking email, tweeting, texting, etc. Give yourself some time to yourself with nothing to do but think.

[Engineer]

"I feel late everywhere and always in a rush"

Recognize this is your inner self critic (You're late/not good enough/should have done better) and just part of human nature. It's why we're on top of the food chain: we've evolved to want to become better. It's perfectly natural and nothing wrong with that.

However, we are also evolved to a high degree of self-consciousness and can recognize: this does not serve me well and I choose not to listen to that advice. Really, what is the consequence of being late? Of course you can piss people off and even lose your job in the extreme case. But 99% of the time there is little consequence and no need to beat yourself up. If the cost of your lateness is too much, commit to whatever time management strategy will work (say no to whatever fills up your calendar, do less, communicate your schedule to whoever you're meeting, etc). Feeling rushed is bad, it's stressful, makes you want to drive crazy fast to get where you're going, etc.

[LemonDrink]

Forget your problems for tonight by hitting the bar and getting totally and utterly drunk.

[Levi]

Oh that's gna happen one of the more poppin nightlife bars is literally on my road

[Euphoric_Breeze]

If you're thinking too much , practice mindfulness . In other words , observe your flow of thoughts without judging them . Move on , and focus rather on your goals . If you don't have any ,jot them down and keep track of your progress. Remember this saying " worrying doesn't take away tomorrow's troubles it takes away today's peace" .

Change your lifestyle , workout , change your eating habits , practice gratitude . Go out there, smell the roses , feel the sun on your face and be happy .

[Levi]

Nice insight brother

[Spectrumwalker]

I can relate to this, happens to me often. One thing I've learned to do is start writing more just for myself. I recommend carrying a small journal type notebook with you and just start jotting down what you're thinking. For me, if my mind is moving at 1,000 mph and I start writing it slows me down. It forces you to concentrate your thoughts and channel your energy. Personally, I write down questions that I'm asking myself, and then answer them. Whether it be politics, girls, career ideas, etc. No matter how irrelevant a thought may be, write it down. As you're writing, and you get a nice flow of words going, soon other thoughts begin to just pour out of you that you didn't know you had. It also helps cement ideas in your head and gives you a better understanding of what you're thinking about. It's like taking a mental shit.

If you have trouble making decisions, and that's a source of anxiety, make yourself a pro/con list. Ask yourself why you're worrying, write it down, and look at it from a new perspective. Trust me man, this helps.

Also, carrying around a small classy leather notebook sparks curiosity in people. It's a bit of an old time thing to do. Say you're at dinner or at a bar by yourself, and everyone is glued to their iPhones except for that man with the notepad. Gives you an aura of mystery almost. Numerous times I've had people come up to me and ask me what I'm working on. It can be a good stimulus for conversation.

[Giovonny]

Exercise.

Walk in nature.

Do something!

"An idle mind is dangerous"

Dance

Fuck

Play

Understand that you are not your thoughts, you are just the observer of your thoughts. Your thoughts are no different from the wind or another person talking, you observe them and act on them if you want to. Or, you observe them and take no action. They are no different from leaves falling from a tree or kids playing in the street. They are just outside occurrences.

You need to find hobbies and activities the allow you to suspend thinking.

[The Lizard of Oz]

(09-13-2014 12:01 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Understand that you are not your thoughts, you are just the observer of your thoughts. Your thoughts are no different from the wind or another person talking, you observe them and act on it if you want to. Or, you observe them and take no action. They are no different from leaves falling from a tree or kids playing in the street. They are just outside occurrences.

WOW. That is so brilliant a way of putting it that it left me in awe.

I wish everyone suffering from an OCD of some kind could read this paragraph. It might cure some cases all by itself, and I'm not kidding. It is phrased in a way that might hit some people with the force of revelation.

Thank you Gio.

[Peregrine]

Giovonny Wrote:

Understand that you are not your thoughts, you are just the observer of your thoughts. Your thoughts are no different from the wind or another person talking, you observe them and act on them if you want to. Or, you observe them and take no action. They are no different from leaves falling from a tree or kids playing in the street. They are just outside occurrences.

You need to find hobbies and activities the allow you to suspend thinking.

[iknowexactly]

Smoking pot doesn't give you more information or self-control/awareness. Ask me how I know.

Meditation does. Ask me how I know.