[carter]

End of last year I made the beta move and told a girl at High school that I liked her. Got rejected and my new year just begun. Really don't know what to do when I see her.

[ThePianoMan]

You treat her like she's unimportant. You have to convince yourself that you've moved on to better quality conquests. Sulking or feeling awkward only makes you less attractive. Treating it like she's one of 15 girls you're fishing makes you more dominant and more attractive.

Never concede your thoughts directly to a girl. Make a move and get rejected that way, otherwise they have control.

[simondice]

(08-19-2014 01:39 AM)carter Wrote:  

End of last year I made the beta move and told a girl at High school that I liked her. Got rejected and my new year just begun. Really don't know what to do when I see her.

If you don't make a big deal about it, she won't either. Pretend you never said it, and she'll do the same, meanwhile practice game and work on other girls.
Worst case scenario you'll never hit it again

[puckerman]

Go after her best friend or sister. Work on other girls.

Go to a place where you can approach girls from outside your school. Approach. Approach. Approach. Get rejected so much that rejection becomes meaningless to you.

Go two or three years younger if you want less of a challenge.

This is the most abundant time for pussy in your life. If you have a scarcity mentality now, you always will.

There is no failure, only feedback.

[20Nation]

You have to accept the reality that you are a man and she is a woman. It's natural. Every guy who spends time with her has some sort of attraction to her. If you accept that reality that it's perfectly normal, you will handle any heat you get for it with ease. You will become nonchalant about it. With experience you will accept that reality, but the sooner you do it the better off you will be, especially in high school.

[Frank Rook]

No shame here. All part of the learning process.
Credit yourself for actually stepping up & giving it a shot.
Remember that young women/girls almost never have to risk this type of rejection. Things change when they hit their 30's.

Meantime, keep honing your craft & getting better. I'm in agreement with the advice about ignoring her. Bear her no ill will. Just treat her the way you would any average acquaintance.

[bojangles]

Game other girls, even in front of you, you can say 'hi' to her but don't think of the rejection but anything more than it is, a rejection. It's not an important part of your life, shit happens, there's plenty of bitches willing to bounce on your dick, it's her loss.

[Dantes]

First off, nice job for putting yourself out there

If you can learn to deal with rejection now, you will be way ahead of the pack. This is a difficult lesson to learn but a necessary one. Not all girls will like you.

The best way to respond is to be lighthearted and fun. Be cool about it and act like it is no big deal because it isn't. Don't take one girl too seriously. I know it may not seem easy at your age. Enjoy time with your friends and game other girls. The best revenge is to live well. Let her see you having a ball in life.

[kinjutsu]

(08-19-2014 02:41 AM)puckerman Wrote:  

Go after her best friend or sister. Work on other girls.

Go to a place where you can approach girls from outside your school. Approach. Approach. Approach. Get rejected so much that rejection becomes meaningless to you.

Go two or three years younger if you want less of a challenge.

This is the most abundant time for pussy in your life. If you have a scarcity mentality now, you always will.

There is no failure, only feedback.

All of what you said is golden Puckerman but the part in bold is on the money...and not necessarily for a reduced challenge.

Most of the girls in high school are dating older guys. Whether it be a grade or two higher or outright a guy in college/university.

High school is all about status and value you can bring. Most of the popular kids have some form of value i.e they drive, they have access to drugs/alcohol, they have a house where the parents aren't home much. If the girl is in the same grade as you are there's a strong chance that your value/status is equal to her. Or even less depending on her attractiveness as well as what value you can or cannot bring.

Once school starts go after the freshman girls. They don't know many people and they are a blank slate to the social hierarchy of your school.
You can be that cool older guy they know. You can build a harem fairly quickly by doing this.
You'll notice a few senior guys doing this because they know nobody is fighting over these unpopular girls. Let the beta's and losers fight over the popular girls.
The freshman girls have zero social status. They are more likely to do things to be cool/popular because they have to prove themselves to the older kids.
Use this to your advantage.

Do you want to get a girl because you want to fuck/be in a relationship or because you want to show her off to your friends??

Also never tell a girl you "like" her. It will always fuck you. Without fail the vagina will dry up so fast once you tell her you like her.

I've been mentoring a friend's younger brother lately. You'd be surprised how well just being that cool older guy works with girls a few years younger.

[carter]

Thanks for all the replies guys. It worked for my friends this way so I thought Id give a shot too but I certainly won't do it again. I guess I wanted to fuck/be in a relationship kinjutsu.

[Sonsowey]

I got dumped in HS by this girl. First time anyone ever dumped me, and I was of course bummed and shit. Didn't stop me from dating her friend later that year

I remember in high school, the number one way to get a girl curious about you is to bang some other girl she knows. Could be someone she knows well, or someone she doesn't really know at all but simply knows who she is.

Any rumors or talk that you banged some chick, as long as she isn't busted, will be good for your future.

Hell, even just talking with cute girls gets the attention of other girls. I remember I was trying to mack to this one new girl who was cute, it didn't go anywhere. But this other chick was like "Hey I saw you talking to that new girl, she's cute" and later I ended up fucking that other chick.

If there is negative talk about you in a certain social group, you can always bang someone from a different social group or a different grade. In fact, it can often be best to get with girls outside your typical social group. You never know who may be curious about you among people you don't talk to all the time. I was really surprised to find out that girls who, at the time, I thought were out of my league were really interested in me. They were just shy. You have to be the bold one and get out and talk to people, you never know who is into you, and HS girls are shy as hell despite their fake bravado.

[AneroidOcean]

A lot of good advice in this thread.

Realize early on that the way people treat you is how you allow them to treat you and that even more importantly, if you internalize and treat yourself well and are unphased by other people's day to day drama, people will respect you more.

Remember that risking something and failing, then getting back up and trying again is intensely scary to most people. Keep doing it.

I was rejected MUCH, MUCH earlier in my school career and I let it affect me hugely. Don't make the same mistake so many do.

You have immense power if you choose to harness your ability to have great mental fortitude. Learn to network and become friends or at least good acquaintances with multiple groups. Networking/socializing is one of the most important things in the world.

[Sombro]

Display higher value or go the (perceived) bad boy route.
Playing some sports didn't get me much attraction. Clown game worked better at the time (I did wicked caricatures of teachers & other students).
When chicks heard I was in some bands it was smooth sailing from there.

[Avon Barksdale]

Watch the Last American Virgin, some good red pill truth in there.

[carter]

Thanks to anybody who gave advice! Even watched the movie. All day I had in my mind the things you guys have said like there are plenty other bitches who want to bounce on my dick and that girls are shy as hell, at the same time my confidence got high as hell haha. And when I saw her she always avoided eye contact so I guess it was more than a big deal to her lol

[carter]

More than not a big deal*

[Impulse]

In my experience High School girls can give you a nice glimpse into what awaits you once you graduate. I've witnessed girls turn into dykes, bull dykes, feminists and sluts, likely due to all of the influence by pop culture..but that's beside the point.

Sadly my discovery of the manosphere came late into my 11th year(now going into 12th). Majority of my time was spent being beta to girls to no success. My rejections range from the dreaded 'Friend Zone' to straight up 'I Don't Like You Like That'. Following my last rejection, much like Roosh in 'Bang', I grew enraged and sought to change.

I've learned that High School rejections should be taken with a grain of salt. It's likely there's a girl who's an improvement. The wide range of females you're dealing with should be enough to hold you over, be thankful that you're in an environment with so many females. If anything, try to observe their behavior(like on some Nat Geo type shit), it'll do you good once you graduate.

[KC4]

Just don't let it get you down. Take this as a opportunity to learn. Learn where you messed up and improve on that area. Just be higher value than what she is. Work out, do exciting things. My best advice would be to just to improve your value as much as you can. Think of this rejection as a shield that gets stronger for every rejection.

[carter]

Thanks but how exactly do I improve my value?

[KC4]

(08-21-2014 09:25 AM)carter Wrote:  

Thanks but how exactly do I improve my value?

The best explanation would be just be the better man. Be the guy the guys want to be but girls love to fuck. Change up your wardrobe , workout more . Be more social or be the guy that's the highlight of the party. Just improve on a mental and physical level. Don't forget to check this forum since it offers great advice.

[little wing]

[HawkWrites]

It's all about abundance mentality. Make sure she doesn't even register as a blip on your bitch radar (henceforth referred to as "bitchdar") and focus your energies on other women.

The bitchdar may actually start going crazy with displays of interest if she's actually into you. The bitchdar actually relies on social proof so you can use it to your advantage here.