[Andreas]

I have this weird shitty problem with myself.whenever i sense movement near my head i get easilly startled. I also get startled when guys touch my back or behind my head.i tell my friends to stop hitting me on the back but they find it funny and keep doing it. Im stronger than them but i dont fight because im afraid if i hurt anybody. Now though because i tell them to seriously stop it they keep hitting my back and thinking of using some violence because it looks like they dont understand the words what the word "stop" means.

[YoungGunner]

I know what you mean some people think its funny to see other people get startled or ready to fight when they get touched but its better to have the punch instinct than to not cause you don't know one day if someone sneaks behind the back of your head and they're not joking... Ususally a "f*ck off" or a shove will get the point across, or grabbing them by the collarbone. If they don't stop find some new friends to go out with.

[hydrogonian]

Its funny that you mention this. If someone touches my head in what I instinctually perceive as a violent aggressive act, I have an automatic instinct to throw a punch or otherwise attack them (once it occurred out of sleep - a testament to the 'instinct' rather than this being a conscious choice). Its happened a couple of times. I feel a little bad about it, because my response usually ups the ante, but at the same time don't really regret it. Men shouldn't touch the heads of other men in aggressive ways, even if they thing that they are playing, period. That should be an official Man Law.

The obvious exceptions are when its mutually agreed upon: ie: boxing, wrestling, slap boxing, drunk horseplay, etc..

We've lost a lot of our caveman type of manners that would be necessary not to get ourselves killed by other alpha males. Not touching the heads of other men just feels like that would be on top of the list. It feels like a direct assault on status, in a very primal way. That, and the fact that the head is a very vulnerable target that could mean your demise if hit well, is my just-formed theory as to why the instinct exists to have a very negative primal reaction to getting your head touched in a rough way.

[Tommy]

Just give him a slap man... Everyone should understand the word "stop".

+1 if you break his nose

[Andreas]

haha @ Tommy
thanks for the understanding people.
today one of my friends tried to do that and grabbed him by his neck and squezzed a bit.his hands were shaking everytime he was about to touch me and he was thinking very well of it before he does.

[FretDancer]

(03-15-2011 03:04 PM)Andreas Wrote:  

haha @ Tommy
thanks for the understanding people.
today one of my friends tried to do that and grabbed him by his neck and squezzed a bit.his hands were shaking everytime he was about to touch me and he was thinking very well of it before he does.

Good job Andreas, make those mofos show some respect.

[Tommy]

If you don't like your friends, then why are you hanging out with them?

[Andreas]

(03-15-2011 03:59 PM)Tommy Wrote:  

If you don't like your friends, then why are you hanging out with them?

it's not that i dont like them. When they first found out about my problem i didnt tell them to stop and now that im getting serious they dont stop unless i do something about it. I should have told them to stop long time ago but i didn't because i thought that it would be alright.
I know that using violence on friends doesnt sound good but sometimes is needed to make them realise it's serious. it's a golden rule for me now that no one is allowed to touch near my head or my back in a way that will make me react to it.

[Tommy]

Just tell them to stop or try to do something similar that annoys them the same way