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Background:
Young lady was sitting by herself in the cafeteria, I walk up to her table and run my corny clown game. I tell a joke, she's laughing at how lame it was, I take a seat, we're talking. I do some palm reading, and things are going fine, but not great. I get the vibe she's being entertained by me as opposed to attracted (not a lot of obvious IOI's outside of her having a smile on her face and laughing the whole time, never really asked me a personal question). Not the end of the world, I end the conversation without asking for her name or number at any point.

A few days later, I'm talking to another girl outside the cafeteria, and I was told by my friends that girl from earlier tried to get my attention, but I was deep into conversation with this new girl and I completely ignored her (number close with a meet up planned for tomorrow!).

Now I have a buddy who was admittedly very smitten with this chick, and he begged me to help him out with her. So I find her sitting with her friend in the cafeteria and she's immediately on me about wanting me to finish her palm reading like I promised and stuff. I wave her hand off, and tell her about my buddy she has to meet. (Sidebar: I can't remember exactly where in the conversation I said this, but I said "Well I'm out of your league" to her) She seems reluctant (as she should) but I bring him over, we sit down and I flirt with her friend (being fun clown making her laugh) while my friend can barely muster up the courage to ask her basic shit. So they both get up to go and she looks kind of annoyed. So I see her the next day as I'm going back to my dorm and say "that wasn't too bad right?" and she definitely seems bothered and says "well it's a dead end because I'm already kind of talking to someone".

So my question is, there seems to be (or was) some attraction there I missed. Any chance I can still make something of this, or should I close this case and get on with my life? What would be the best course of action?

(Edit: My apologies, I messed up and didn't put this in the Newbies forum)

[Donkey_Riding]

(08-16-2014 02:28 AM)dads Wrote:  

Young lady was sitting by herself in the cafeteria, I walk up to her table and run my corny clown game. I tell a joke, she's laughing at how lame it was, I take a seat, we're talking. I do some palm reading, and things are going fine, but not great. I get the vibe she's being entertained by me as opposed to attracted (not a lot of obvious IOI's outside of her having a smile on her face and laughing the whole time, never really asked me a personal question). Not the end of the world, I end the conversation without asking for her name or number at any point.

Couple of points:
1) Your approach seems a bit direct for day game. Also the palm reading seems like oldschool outdated PUA material (and is probably more appropriate for night game). Perhaps try toning down the energy of your approach and doing more ramble/small-talk to ease in until she asks you a personal question. Overall it seems like you're trying too hard to force the conversation rather than letting it flow naturally.

2) If you're interested in the girl, always ask for the number before you cut off the interaction (unless she outright walks away or tells you to fuck off). You really have nothing to lose by doing do.

(08-16-2014 02:28 AM)dads Wrote:  

So my question is, there seems to be (or was) some attraction there I missed. Any chance I can still make something of this, or should I close this case and get on with my life? What would be the best course of action?

I'm not sure what your question is. First you were trying to introduce this chick to your friend and now you're wondering whether to pursue her yourself even though she's "talking to" someone else? From what you've said it seems clear that she isn't into your friend at all, and her claim that she's "kind of talking to someone" is obviously just a lame excuse to reject him.

Course of action? If you want this chick, next time you see her say hello, make a bit of smalltalk, then tell her, "We should hangout sometime. Put your number in my phone." That's it. If she agrees to hangout, chill, kino, escalate.

[reaper23]

Should any discussion about one particular girl or instance moved to newbie section?

if you're worried about this thing like this, then you need to really develop the abundance you're mentioning.

[xpatplayer]

Abundance mentality means not caring about one individual rejection. When you start forgetting about individual approaches because they're insignificant in the big picture, that's when you know you have abundance.