[kaotic]

"Why 20-Something Women Need To Stop Thinking Like 30-Something Women"

http://elitedaily.com/women/20-something...en/634789/

I’m never getting married. I’m never going to have kids. I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life. I am never going to be in love again.

Ladies, don’t deny that these thoughts haven’t crossed your mind at least once this month. At your loneliest, weakest (and probably drunkest) points, you’ve either thought, shouted or cried into the arm of your best friend these exact sentiments. Why can’t I find a boyfriend!? Will I ever settle down and get married?

You yearn for the answer the same way you wonder about life after death or the existence of the universe. Am I going to be alone forever? Should I get some cats now?

I won’t deny that at my lowest points, I’ve also expressed these thoughts. I’ve thought about ending it all before I turn 40, crossing off love and becoming one of those women who’s closed off and bitter to anything romantic or associated with a Nicholas Sparks title. I’ve wondered how long it would be until my next boyfriend and if I should have ever broken up with the last.

However, I’ve recently started getting tired of it all. I realized the dark-clouded thoughts, worries and constant stressing were making me groggy, depleted and utterly exhausted. I’ve felt out of the moment for too many months, worrying about my future rather than enjoying the present for too long. I was expending all this extra energy on all this premature worrying. I was a 20-something, worrying about the problems of a 30-something.

Believe it or not, your twenties are still considered very young, and so are your thirties. But if you’re still in your twenties, I hate to break it to you — you’re still a baby. Still don’t believe me? Think about it this way…

Where were you 10 years ago? In your teens, preteens? You were either in middle school or just cusping high school. You were at your most immature and irresponsible age.

It’s an age you scoff at and shudder to think back to; it’s an age that warrants no respect, admiration or fond memories. However, you still have a lot in common with your prepubescent self. Like that middle school self in those cut Abercrombie jeans, you are trying to grow up way too fast.

Think back to all those irrelevant and idiotic worries you had at 14. You were worrying about boys, clothes and reputations when you should have just been enjoying your youth, getting away with all those childish things you only had a few years left to experience.

You were stressing about college when you should have been trying out for the play and worrying about boys who just wanted to play Call of Duty and touch their first tit. When you look back on it, don’t you feel kind of foolish?

Think back to all the time you wasted stressing about college, only to later realize it didn’t really matter and you could have been going to football games instead of SAT prep class.

Think back to all those stupid boys you cried over whose name you can’t remember now and the fights you got in with your parents over curfews and movies. Think back to those things you thought were worth getting grounded over, or those things you wouldn’t do because you thought you were too cool for them.

Unfortunately, we still haven’t grown out of these middle school mindsets and are still chasing boys like crazed pubescent teens. We’re cutting our shirts and putting on makeup when we should be playing in the creek and watching PBS.

We’re shaving when we don’t have so much as peach fuzz and walking into Victoria’s Secret before we’re fully developed. We’re fighting with our parents when we should be getting piggy backs. We’re wasting the best years of our youth worrying about things that shouldn’t be an issue for another 10 years.

So for all you 20-somethings, worrying about finding a husband and having kids — stop. Stop before you look back on your twenties the same way you look back on your teenage years… wishing you spent more time enjoying them rather than trying to grow up.

Your twenties are for being young, single and completely uninhibited. Stop trying to lock down a “man” who still just wants to play Call of Duty and touch his hundredth tit. Enjoy yourself and your rapidly receding youth and worry about those adult things when you get there.

Finding Love
Despite what Nicholas Sparks tells you, you’re not supposed to be madly in love at 25. You’re not supposed to have found that “perfect love” before you have a checking account. Love is messy, complicated and many times impossible to find. It’s something that people spend their entire lives looking for and don’t find until they have stopped worrying about it and started pursuing the love of other things.

Your twenties aren’t about finding a man to love you, but finding something to love. Focus on your career, your hobbies, your passions. Start to love yourself before you can think about finding the love of someone else. Because your twenties are about loving yourself and your thirties are about spreading that love.

Getting Married
If you haven’t already noticed, there are now more divorced couples than married ones. They say you are supposed to learn from the mistakes of your elders, and if rushed marriages aren’t the biggest mistake of the Baby Boomers, then we’ve learned nothing.

All those stories of college sweethearts and first loves are cute anecdotes until 20 years later, when they are tales of caution. Because getting married in your twenties is now an outdated notion, like scrunchies and VCRs, unnecessary and unproductive. Your twenties are for the one-night stands, the bad first dates and all those mistakes.

Having Kids
Do you even like kids? Do you really want kids in your twenties? Do you even want them in your thirties? Think about what you’re asking for. It’s one of the most life-changing events known to man and will assuredly commandeer your future and leave you wishing for those uninhibited single years again.

So why ruin the most carefree and exciting years of your life worrying about something that shouldn’t happen for at least 10 years from now? Do your future self a favor and take advantage of these years because you will never have them again.

Being Your Most Successful Self
Success, like a relationship, does not happen overnight. It’s something that needs time, a little bit of luck and dedication. Your twenties are not supposed to be the years you’re taking jets to St. Barths and enjoying the perks of a car service.

Your twenties are for paying your dues, learning the ropes and climbing all those ladders. Your thirties are for reaping the benefits.

Stop stressing because you’re not in your dream job or making that six-figure salary just yet. You need time to create your brand, build your dreams and look forward to the good life.

[Vitriol]

(06-18-2014 10:31 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

Stop stressing because you’re not in your dream job or making that six-figure salary just yet. You need time to create your brand, build your dreams and look forward to the good life.

It's laughable that the author is selling pipe dreams in terms of both career (opportunities for everyone to get a six figure job don't really exist anymore), and the type of man a used up carousel rider on anti-depressants is going to be able to attract.

Women never have it easier than they do around the ages of 16-25.

[Christian McQueen]

"Your thirties are for reaping the benefits."



There are going to be some seriously depressed chicks coming out of this generation.

And the best part?

Being a man and hitting 30yo is just the beginning of really taking the world by storm.

How many 20yo guys truly have a strong desire to date a 30yo woman?

How man 20yo girls love dating guys 30yo+?

I turn 30 in 2 months and the girls I find most attracted to me are around 19-20.

Proof is in the pudding.

Being a man is the fucking shit. Being a woman has its perks...from 18-25, then it doesn't.

[RawGod]

The delusions of a rapidly decaying society. Millennials both male and female are buying into the idea that adolescence lasts until 30. Don't they realize how weak and pathetic it is to desperately hold on to "child" status?

Case in point: the use of the word "kid" to refer to college-aged adults (which I've heard a lot on this very board). I've only heard it very recently, like this year - a new development symptomatic of further juvenilism. No. Elliott Rodger was not a kid. Your college buddies are not kids. You are doing yourselves a disservice by referring to yourself as such.

[StrikeBack]

Blue Pill title: "Why 20-Something Women Need To Stop Thinking Like 30-Something Women"

Red Pill translation: "How 20-Something Women are being trolled by 30-Something Women"

[scorpion]

Has anyone else ever noticed that when women write things like this, it's glaringly obvious that the only person they're trying to convince is themselves?

Every time a woman gives advice she's actually just saying whatever will make her feel better about her own choices.

[El Chinito loco]

Misery loves company. This dumb cunt fucked her own life counting sheckels and riding the cock carousel too long so she's trying to justify it in a long "womansplainin'"* editorial piece.









*I hate the millenial baby talk splainin' term and am being sarcastic.

[Feisbook Control]

TLDR? Here's the summary:

Crab in a Bucket Wrote:

You go girl! Get (back) on the carousel, waste your most productive years in a make work career. Shit, that was close. Almost had to put my id and hamster on hold and think five minutes into the future about the consequences of my actions. Did I mention you go girl and how much men suck? Don't worry, when you end up with four cats at 37, that will be because men suck then too.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

Apart from the carousel-riding being good for you this part is gold:

"Success, like a relationship, does not happen overnight. It’s something that needs time, a little bit of luck and dedication. Your twenties are not supposed to be the years you’re taking jets to St. Barths and enjoying the perks of a car service."

Frankly - most pretty girls from 18-25 have bigger chances of enjoying that lifestyle than as a "career wo-man" in their 30s. But again that 30+ female "coach" quickly eliminates her younger competition from chasing the same kind of men she does who can give her jet-set-trips to St.Barths. Feminism is indeed partly a mating-strategy of older women who are getting rid of the competition - raise the age of consent again to 28 best you crazy fucked-up bitches!

[soup]

One thing that I think we do share in common with feminists is that we started by questioning the prevailing power stuctures. For them it seemed like men were that. For redpill guys it appears that that feminism is the encroaching power structure or threat.

The concept of questioning power structures, parhessia, isn't a new thing.. It dates back to Ancient Greece.

I think it would be interesting if both sides could get together on some common ground issues.. At least as a place to start, and try to work from there instead of playing into the antagonist frame.

The feminists would have to start be conceding on issues like this thread: women age differently than men. It's a very real difference in our actual genders.

If trannies really want to imitate women then they should take pills that make them age like women too: "wall pills" that make their skin go loose after they hit thirty.

If they are against that, than they shouldn't get public funding to have their genitals cut off or fake penis' attached.

[Constitution45]

Hehe why do these women proclaim that this is the life to live of an empowered female. Being free from the "oppression" that a husband and children will give you. Instead opting for a corporate 9 to 5 job for some faceless corporation.

True point made, being a man is fucking excellent in the long run, only if you work at it and acknowledge this fact. Otherwise you will be meat for the grinder. This is the harsh reality of being a man, is that ultimately you are on your own. You have the ability to rise to the top and fall to the bottom because of this act. I have this epiphany last year.

[It_is_my_time]

(06-19-2014 07:26 AM)soup Wrote:  

One thing that I think we do share in common with feminists is that we started by questioning the prevailing power stuctures. For them it seemed like men were that. For redpill guys it appears that that feminism is the encroaching power structure or threat.

The concept of questioning power structures, parhessia, isn't a new thing.. It dates back to Ancient Greece.

I think it would be interesting if both sides could get together on some common ground issues.. At least as a place to start, and try to work from there instead of playing into the antagonist frame.

The feminists would have to start be conceding on issues like this thread: women age differently than men. It's a very real difference in our actual genders.

If trannies really want to imitate women then they should take pills that make them age like women too: "wall pills" that make their skin go loose after they hit thirty.

If they are against that, than they shouldn't get public funding to have their genitals cut off or fake penis' attached.

The fallacy you are making here is thinking that women think/want/see the world the same as men.

They don't. They have a body and mind derived for a different purpose in life.

At one time feminism was about fighting against the power structure. But that was 30+ years ago. That fight was nearly two full generations ago.

Yet more and more women are buying into it needing to be expanded. In the end, with women having the right to vote and feminism in full mode, we see exactly what women do want...

They want to have the same rights as men without the responsibilities.

In fact, I believe most women if given a choice between equal rights to men with equal responsibilities or less rights than men and less responsibilities would run for the less. Women hate responsibilities, they don't handle stress near as well as men, their emotions get in their way during times of disaster/high stress, and hard work takes a tougher toll on them.

So there is no real way to negotiate with them. It is up to men to realize what women want, and then realize that a society simply cannot afford to have 50.1% of its population to play by a different set of rules and not be held accountable. No society can function like this for the long term and in the end we are simply stealing from our own kids and grand kids.

[Renzy]

(06-19-2014 07:26 AM)It_is_my_time Wrote:  

They want to have the same rights as men without the responsibilities.

In fact, I believe most women if given a choice between equal rights to men with equal responsibilities or less rights than men and less responsibilities would run for the less. Women hate responsibilities, they don't handle stress near as well as men, their emotions get in their way during times of disaster/high stress, and hard work takes a tougher toll on them.

I always thought envisioning what a truly gender-egalitarian society would look like would make a fascinating movie, when done in a sort of Twilight Zone fashion where women finally get to be treated exactly like men.

I think it would essentially be a dystopia for women, with a tiny fraction of women being very successful, and a much larger share suddenly sharing space with men on the very bottom rungs of society.

No longer being able to evoke any sympathy or support from society at large, they'd have to claw their way up just like men get to do. We'd see many more of them filling up homeless shelters, and living under causeways, and nobody would pay them any more attention than they do your average bum.

They'd have equal representation in industries like logging, construction, the oil industry, and deep sea fishing - and their deaths in these lines of work would evoke as much sympathy as men's deaths when doing these sort of dangerous jobs - ie, none at all.

Forced to sign up for Selective Service just like men, they'd get drafted off to wars where you'd see them die, Saving Private Ryan style, while storming beaches in far away countries.

Men, no longer conditioned to see women any differently than they see other men, would no longer hesitate to use force when they felt physically threatened. A man slaps another man and he gets decked in the face for doing it. A woman slaps a man and she gets decked in the face for doing it. No more white-knights to come in and protect you anymore. Just like it is for men.

You could go on and on creating scene after scene, and I think it would be a frightening spectacle for women if they got a glimpse of what it would really be like to live life without the pussy-pass.

[Ingocnito]

(06-18-2014 10:59 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  

"Your thirties are for reaping the benefits."



There are going to be some seriously depressed chicks coming out of this generation.

And the best part?

Being a man and hitting 30yo is just the beginning of really taking the world by storm.

How many 20yo guys truly have a strong desire to date a 30yo woman?

How man 20yo girls love dating guys 30yo+?

I turn 30 in 2 months and the girls I find most attracted to me are around 19-20.

Proof is in the pudding.

Being a man is the fucking shit. Being a woman has its perks...from 18-25, then it doesn't.

At least twice a week I consciously think the following thought: "God damned I'm glad I wasn't born a female."

About once or twice a month I actually say that exact phrase to a friend in an auto-response to something.

It's the baseline in my self-affirmation list. Haha.

[assman]

[AnonymousBosch]

(06-19-2014 07:42 AM)Constitution45 Wrote:  

Hehe why do these women proclaim that this is the life to live of an empowered female. Being free from the "oppression" that a husband and children will give you. Instead opting for a corporate 9 to 5 job for some faceless corporation.

Because Feminism was created by women who believed in Marxism, and simply used appealing-sounding terms to sell their communist agenda to women, which is why they're obsessed with redefining language.

They systematically-destroy every support structure for a woman:

- husband / boyfriend

'All men are rapists, abusers';

- children

'Don't breed in your 20's - breed in your late 30's after you've established your career, when you're most likely to be unable to fall pregnant, or spit out an autistic kid who is going to require constant government handouts';

- parents

'Don't listen to their advice or wisdom. They're restricting your freedom. Be who you really are!';

- community

'You're not safe on campus. You're not safe on the street. Men are all pedos and rapists. This group or space must be made safe for women';

- religion

'patriarchal misogyny restricting your freedoms!';

- and any sense of personal agency

'You're a child, not a woman, you're a victim, you can't make decisions for yourself, you need protection!'

All that's left for them is love of Big Brother support from the government, meaning they vote for more collectivisation, and the Marxists achieve their ends by throwing every woman under the bus to do so.

[Switch]

If you don't have a plan for your life it's going to pass you by and you're going to regret it later. By the time you're 25-26 you better have a damn good idea of your goals, especially if you're a woman and those goals involve kids, or you're going to miss the train.

[Galnuc69]

Another good article could be, why 30 year old men need to stop acting like 15 year old boys. Both sexes are becoming androgynous. Men becoming more feminine, women becoming more masculine, both intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually immature. Our society is in decline.

[kaotic]

(06-19-2014 06:01 PM)Switch Wrote:  

If you don't have a plan for your life it's going to pass you by and you're going to regret it later. By the time you're 25-26 you better have a damn good idea of your goals, especially if you're a woman and those goals involve kids, or you're going to miss the train.

Honestly, that's exactly where I'm sitting. I don't have many goals besides physique and places I want to go.

I need a better career than my 9-5 cubicle life.