[Cheetah]

(06-14-2014 07:36 PM)OneIdea Wrote:  

I've come to realize that I want more children than my wife can physically provide—a lot more children. If I'm honest, I'd like 10 or 12. It's a need that I have, and it started with the successful, happily uneventful birth of my first child. It was like a first shot of heroin—and it hooked me. So like any addict, I need more hits.

Even if this was a confirmed troll I would have treated it as it wasn't as I like the subject.

Why wouldn't your wife be physically able to give you 10 to 12 children? She's like 23 and there are only 9 to 11 children to go. If you don't use contraceptives this should be achievable. In families where contraception isn't used this isn't unheard of, having like 12 children all born by the same mother.

If she thinks that it would be too much work to take care of all those kids, just hire one or two au pairs.

[OneIdea]

(06-15-2014 09:04 AM)Cheetah Wrote:  

Why wouldn't your wife be physically able to give you 10 to 12 children? She's like 23 and there are only 9 to 11 children to go. If you don't use contraceptives this should be achievable. In families where contraception isn't used this isn't unheard of, having like 12 children all born by the same mother.

If she thinks that it would be too much work to take care of all those kids, just hire one or two au pairs.

Good question—the answer is, time.

I'm 46. Realistically, I have until 60 to have all the children I'll ever have. Assuming I have one at 60, s/he'll be graduating from college at 22—when I'm 82, assuming I'm still alive and have all my marbles. So having children after 60 would be irresponsible.

Second, my current wife, M., is adamant about four children being her limit. Having a kid every couple-three of years means we'll have the last one (at the earliest) when she's 29, possible 32, 34 or even 36 if every 3-4 years or 30. In her mid- to late-30's, she might decide to have another, maybe. So four kids, maybe five, by the time she's 38 and I'm 60, if I stick with just one wife.

Also (and I can only say this while safely hiding behind anonymity), what if it turns out the kids have a genetic problem because of M.?

I'm betting all my genetic chips on M., re. children. Wouldn't it be smarter to diversify my portfolio, as it were? I mean, I hedge my bets even with things as trivial as playing blackjack for $5. But my procreation—something far more important—should be unhedged? Doesn't strike me as rational.

However, having multiple wives each having three-four of my children maximizes my success, and keeps them within a range band whereby I can enjoy and provide for them.

Thus, having many children with only one woman is not an attractive option for me.

OneIdea

[Cobra]

^^^OneIdea I wholeheartedly hear what you're saying.

It's funny how society and culture dictate that procreation must be unhedged and most of us live on that notion and don't challenge it.

I'm looking forward to updates to your endeavors and good luck!

[Cheetah]

From a legal standpoint there shouldn't be any problem, as you pointed out. You are married to one and cohabit with the rest. If you want to you should in most cases be able have the 'marriage ceremony' without actually marrying. A will and other types of legal agreements might make the arrangements reasonably similar to actual marriages.

The tricky part should be to

a) get your current wife to agree with it.
b) find new 'wives' who agree with it.

a) what would happen if you tell your wife that you understand that she doesn't want to give birth to more than 4 children, while also telling her that it makes you sad only having 4 children. Ask her if she could think of any way to solve your dilemma? Having her suggesting what you want might be the key...

b) be up front with what you want so you don't spend unnecessary time gaming someone, as naturally you will have to look harder.

[jtteop]

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Second, convincing my wife to let this second woman into our household.

Yeah, I can see that as a problem given that Ukrainian women tend to be conservative on things like that.