[Tarleton]

Okay, so I am kind of an anti-social weirdo who used to hang out (by myself) in my local Barnes and Noble. One day I am sitting in a chair which is tucked away in the corner of the kids section (since no one was back there), quietly reading a book. One of the girls (upon whom I had a huge crush) who works there came back to start re-shelving books (since it was about 30 minutes before closing time). Anyway, I am still reading my book, head down, when I hear her say "Man, you sure did make a mess back here for me to clean up!" I look up and see that she is standing along the back wall (where I am sitting) about 15 feet away from me. I respond by saying, "oh, that wasn't me, I have just been sitting here reading", and she laughs and says, "yeah I know, I was just kidding."

Long story/short: We "sporadically chatted" for about the next 15-20 minutes. What I mean by that is this: she would walk around the section, re-shelving books for 5-10 minutes, then walk back over to me (I remained seated in my corner chair; she would stand about 8-10 feet directly in front of me/ facing me for 5-10 minutes) to chat with me (about her other job, what she wanted to do with her life, her interest in physics and numerology, etc.) for 5-10 minutes, before resuming her re-shelving, rinse, repeat. This process occurred in about 5-6 cycles before she finally told me that she had to return to the main book floor to help them re-shelve books out there.

Best guess opinion-Guys, please choose one of the following opinions, which represents your best guess as to what happened here. Was she:

A-DEFINITELY/PROBABLY flirting with me and I am an idiot for not escalating (by asking for her number, etc.)
B-DEFINITELY/PROBABLY just being friendly and looking to kill time by chatting with a customer while she worked over the section (in other words, she was NOT flirting with me)
C-Impossible to really tell either way.


You can just type the corresponding letter if that is all you want to do. I just want your brutally honest opinions. Thanks.

[RockHard]

A. She opened you, so she's got some level of interest. I think that A & B are the same, only with different outcomes. You ended up with B, but if you'd acted differently you could have A.

You should've responded less seriously. Agree & amplify:

"Well yeah, I've got my B&N card so this is my personal playground, right?".
"Yep, I've always wanted to have a maid to pick up after me".
"I'm searching for a book on how to pick up chicks. Your selection is lousy".

Just a few ideas. Doesn't mean you have to use them, but any of those would work better.

[heavy]

She threw out interest.

Lotsa material there to work with...use the kids books and make it fun for her...

"I was trying to find Waldo"

[RockHard]

Also - we focus a lot on what you should've said initially. I'm not quick on my feet but can still salvage an interaction if you stay in the convo and tilt it the right way. So don't beat yourself up if you don't come up with the perfect witty response. If you're like me, you're on a 5 second delay and you think "oh, duh, I should be flirting with her". Don't give up if you miss when you first open your mouth. She gave you lots of opportunities to get back in it.