[Tarleton]

So I was in a sporting goods store (DICK'S) checking out some replica jerseys. I noticed a cute brunette walk past me to my left, and I tried to surreptitiously check her out while she passed. About 10 minutes later, I hear someone ask: "hey, are you interested in buying a jersey?" I turn around, and it is the brunette who is standing facing me, at the outer edge of the section I am in, about 10 feet behind me. I said that I was merely looking at the jerseys, and she says, "Well I just wanted to let you know that The Sports Authority is having a buy 1 get 1 50% off sale. I just came from there." I just gave her a quick thank you and then walked away before she had a chance to walk away from me.

So, what do you guys think? Was it a gambit to get me to talk to her, or was she merely being a courteous shopper engaging in a random act of kindness by telling a fellow shopper about a sale she had just seen? As always, your BRUTALLY HONEST thoughts are appreciated. Thanks.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

While I would place the chance of her "just being nice and not flirting" at a meager-but-not-impossible 10%, the moral of the story isn't the chance, but that you should always assume that she is and act accordingly. What do you have to lose?

Still, don't beat yourself up. This used to happen to me too.

[Tarleton]

(06-09-2014 10:17 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:  

While I would place the chance of her "just being nice and not flirting" at a meager-but-not-impossible 10%, the moral of the story isn't the chance, but that you should always assume that she is and act accordingly. What do you have to lose?

Still, don't beat yourself up. This used to happen to me too.

HandsomeCreepyEel, thanks for the response, but I am confused. Can you please explain what you mean by that? IN your best guess, gut instinct opinion, was she genuinely flirting with me or not? yes or no.

Thanks.

[eradicator]

(06-09-2014 10:24 AM)Tarleton Wrote:  

(06-09-2014 10:17 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:  

While I would place the chance of her "just being nice and not flirting" at a meager-but-not-impossible 10%, the moral of the story isn't the chance, but that you should always assume that she is and act accordingly. What do you have to lose?

Still, don't beat yourself up. This used to happen to me too.

HandsomeCreepyEel, thanks for the response, but I am confused. Can you please explain what you mean by that? IN your best guess, gut instinct opinion, was she genuinely flirting with me or not? yes or no.

Thanks.

We have no idea, we weren't there, but his point is that you should always assume that if a girl opens you, is friendly, and offers to help, and is hot and feminine and you want to fuck her, then you should definitely follow through on the interaction.

It's not tough, you stick your hand out and say "Hi, I'm Tarleton. I'll have to check the sale out. What's your name?" and go from there. If she continues to respond postively, you can say "give me your phone number, we should meet up later"(or something along those lines). Maybe go for the insta-date or insta bang in this case. The worst that happens is that she says 'no'.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

@Tarleton: you can't reliably know why she's talking to you (and I don't know either), but you should always assume that it's flirting and escalate accordingly. It's pointless to wonder why she's doing what she's doing - instead, just make the best use of it.

Again, what do you have to lose?

[Tarleton]

I just want to know if she liked me...: _ (

[heavy]

We've all been there before, probably many of us at least once a day, so I'm not bashing you, just being realistic...

You are the action, she the reaction. She neither liked nor disliked you before. You were merely a potential (like every other guy out there). For her there was no before. For her there was only after.

"Did she like me?" - ?? (a pointless question, like asking if you liked a woman before you've seen her or know anything about her)
"Does she now like me?" - No. She has no reason.

But if you want, to her you're still like every other guy out there, so go back in and make a move.

[Ardbeg]

Brutal answer: no she was not flirting with you.

Giving you a smile and asking if you want to buy a t-shirt is not flirting. She is doing her job. Walk into a strip club and hot women will smile at you, wink, and ask if you want them to grind against your crotch. Guess what? They are not flirting; they are doing their job.

If she asked follow up questions like, "oh do you like that Cowboy's Jersey, because your from Dallas or because you have a body like a linebacker?" then that would be flirting.

[eradicator]

(06-09-2014 11:33 AM)Ardbeg Wrote:  

Brutal answer: no she was not flirting with you.

Giving you a smile and asking if you want to buy a t-shirt is not flirting. She is doing her job. Walk into a strip club and hot women will smile at you, wink, and ask if you want them to grind against your crotch. Guess what? They are not flirting; they are doing their job.

If she asked follow up questions like, "oh do you like that Cowboy's Jersey, because your from Dallas or because you have a body like a linebacker?" then that would be flirting.

I don't think she worked at this store, she was telling him to go to another store because there is a sale on the shirts he was looking at.

But again, that is the wrong question. She was a woman, talking to him, and at least potentially open to having a guy with game run game on her.

[Tarleton]

(06-09-2014 11:33 AM)Ardbeg Wrote:  

Brutal answer: no she was not flirting with you.

Giving you a smile and asking if you want to buy a t-shirt is not flirting. She is doing her job. Walk into a strip club and hot women will smile at you, wink, and ask if you want them to grind against your crotch. Guess what? They are not flirting; they are doing their job.

If she asked follow up questions like, "oh do you like that Cowboy's Jersey, because your from Dallas or because you have a body like a linebacker?" then that would be flirting.

Ardberg, I appreciate both your BRUTAL HONESTY and the fact that you provided me with a clear-cut response. However, just to be clear, she didn't work there. She was just another shopper. Does that change your opinion as to whether or not she was flirting with me or not really?!

[Tarleton]

I don't think she worked at this store, she was telling him to go to another store because there is a sale on the shirts he was looking at.

But again, that is the wrong question. She was a woman, talking to him, and at least potentially open to having a guy with game run game on her.
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Eradicator, you are correct. She did NOT work for the store; she was merely another customer. I respect your opinion, Eradicator, so IF you HAD to guess/choose one (with a gun to your head)...would you say she:

A-was PROBABLY trying to start a legit conversation with me

OR

B-Merely sharing quick tip to be nice to a fellow shopper.

[Ardbeg]

Well...I missed that part about her not working there.

Yeah, she was probably flirting with you. Women might initiate the conversation, but will rarely (unlike men) push the conversation to a hook point. That's your job.

But you just walked away.

[robreke]

(06-09-2014 10:07 AM)Tarleton Wrote:  

So I was in a sporting goods store (DICK'S) checking out some replica jerseys. I noticed a cute brunette walk past me to my left, and I tried to surreptitiously check her out while she passed. About 10 minutes later, I hear someone ask: "hey, are you interested in buying a jersey?" I turn around, and it is the brunette who is standing facing me, at the outer edge of the section I am in, about 10 feet behind me. I said that I was merely looking at the jerseys, and she says, "Well I just wanted to let you know that The Sports Authority is having a buy 1 get 1 50% off sale. I just came from there." I just gave her a quick thank you and then walked away before she had a chance to walk away from me.

So, what do you guys think? Was it a gambit to get me to talk to her, or was she merely being a courteous shopper engaging in a random act of kindness by telling a fellow shopper about a sale she had just seen? As always, your BRUTALLY HONEST thoughts are appreciated. Thanks.

Don't walk away from them ever if you can help it. Let them walk away from you....in other words push every interaction instead of trying to save your ego. I know it's easier said than done and I don't always do it.
Ideally, you would have bantered with her more....like "thanks for the inside info." smile " so...I guess you're pulling the weekend shift?"...etc. Ask about her then ask for her to meet you after work for drinks or something or grab the number.
Don't walk away "before she could" that's gaming in a scared state of mind. You gotta drop that before it costs you more potential women.

[kaotic]

She probably works for Sport's Authority.

[Tarleton]

(06-10-2014 02:15 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

She probably works for Sport's Authority.

come on kaotic, please be serious. I am trying to obtain honest opinions here.

[eradicator]

(06-09-2014 12:03 PM)Tarleton Wrote:  

would you say she:

A-was PROBABLY trying to start a legit conversation with me

OR

B-Merely sharing quick tip to be nice to a fellow shopper.

I have no idea. And you really haven't been paying attention, because it doesn't matter what I think. You were talking to a girl you were attracted to and walked away without trying to escalate things at all. You should have asked her out, then you would have got the answer to all of this. The next time you find yourself talking to a girl and you are attracted to her, you ask her out for drinks or coffee.

And.... he's banned.

[RexImperator]

This is a bit OT but I recently discovered that my local Sports Authority has a plethora of young cute girls working there. Not sure what's up with that.

[eradicator]

(06-10-2014 04:11 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

This is a bit OT but I recently discovered that my local Sports Authority has a plethora of young cute girls working there. Not sure what's up with that.

the manager is probably a perv who will only hire young hot girls. perhaps he is a forum member.

[cerodragon]

(06-09-2014 10:32 AM)eradicator Wrote:  

(06-09-2014 10:24 AM)Tarleton Wrote:  

(06-09-2014 10:17 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:  

While I would place the chance of her "just being nice and not flirting" at a meager-but-not-impossible 10%, the moral of the story isn't the chance, but that you should always assume that she is and act accordingly. What do you have to lose?

Still, don't beat yourself up. This used to happen to me too.

HandsomeCreepyEel, thanks for the response, but I am confused. Can you please explain what you mean by that? IN your best guess, gut instinct opinion, was she genuinely flirting with me or not? yes or no.

Thanks.

We have no idea, we weren't there, but his point is that you should always assume that if a girl opens you, is friendly, and offers to help, and is hot and feminine and you want to fuck her, then you should definitely follow through on the interaction.

It's not tough, you stick your hand out and say "Hi, I'm Tarleton. I'll have to check the sale out. What's your name?" and go from there. If she continues to respond postively, you can say "give me your phone number, we should meet up later"(or something along those lines). Maybe go for the insta-date or insta bang in this case. The worst that happens is that she says 'no'.

^ I feel like worst case scenario is not "no" but if she says yes and just being super nice and you lead yourself into a roller coaster ride of wasted time and money to find out shes just being nice in the end . (happened) sucks .