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Was hoping for some feedback on a situation I ran into recently. A girl (solid 8.5) I actually like has the last two times not responded to texts sent on the day of a date promptly enough for me to actually schedule it properly. But both times still getting back to me wanting to hang out ... but it feels like a conscious effort in wanting me to wait it out to hear back (shit-test). I let the first one slide but told her that I couldn't hang by the time she got back to me. But when she did it again this past weekend I wrote back to her and told her I couldn't hang because I never heard from her but then added:

"You're coming off kind of flakey. Hit me up if you wanna do something."

Is calling a girl out for being flakey before you boned a bad idea? I just felt like it was necessary to address it. She has not responded, which doesn't surprise me. But I think agreeing to hang out for future dates only tacitly rewards this type of flakey behavior.

But here's the kicker: It's rare that I like a girl and I'm interested in hanging with her again.

[theIVth]

Calling her out is not a bad idea.

The best way to deal with a flake is to not treat them as a priority. Have 3 or 4 other solid 8.5s that your also working on.

You hit a girl up, she flakes. You hit another up, she doesnt flake. You go out with the reliable one and you will probably forget about the flake. The flake will hit you back eventually if she likes you.

Thats how you do it.

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(02-15-2011 05:23 PM)theIVth Wrote:  

Calling her out is not a bad idea.

The best way to deal with a flake is to not treat them as a priority. Have 3 or 4 other solid 8.5s that your also working on.

You hit a girl up, she flakes. You hit another up, she doesnt flake. You go out with the reliable one and you will probably forget about the flake. The flake will hit you back eventually if she likes you.

Thats how you do it.

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Thanks, bro. She actually just texted wanting to hang tomorrow.

[Ausguy]

"I only hang out with people that get back to me within an hour of me messaging them. cya!"

If she wants to play ball, she will play ball. If not, NEXT!!!

Telling a woman in a nice way that you aren't going to take her shit builds allot of attraction! As soon as she plays the shit test, call her out on it "I don't play games."

[hardman]

> Telling a woman in a nice way that you aren't going to take her shit builds allot of attraction! As soon as she plays the shit test, call her out on it "I don't play games."

Agree. I blew off a mid 20s very pretty girl recently who was already an hour late meeting up for dinner. She told me she'd be there in "just 20 more minutes", but I was so annoyed by then, I just got up, paid for my drink, and left (and told her). She could not believe it, but apologized anyway.

A few days later she suggests a second try, and showed up precisely on time and nicely made up. I had a lot of fun undressing her later that night....

[YossariansRight]

(05-11-2015 10:50 AM)Ausguy Wrote:  

"I only hang out with people that get back to me within an hour of me messaging them. cya!"

If she wants to play ball, she will play ball. If not, NEXT!!!

Telling a woman in a nice way that you aren't going to take her shit builds allot of attraction! As soon as she plays the shit test, call her out on it "I don't play games."

Interesting tact. Just tell them upfront "You have 'x' amount of time to get get back to be or you're gone."

I've been using "Texting is gay and lame and I don't do it. I'm an audio type of guy." Talk - it separates you from the doofus sheeple that just incesently text.

But I might try your line just to mix it up.

[heavy]

I don't feel you can deal with "A Flake". Girls, nay people, will flake for any number of reasons (forgetting a prior engagement, tired, something else came up where a relationship already exists, etc).

Just like gaming them, there's no guarantee, no matter how suave you are, you can get *any* girl at *any* moment to go home with you. It's called choice.

The question is, in general, how do you decrease the chances of girls flaking on you.

How do YOU reduce flaking?

[Remington]

It doesn't matter if you meet a girl in person or online, its all about rapport. You need to dive into conversation where the connection is real. I do a great job with connecting with women on a personal level because I'm able to relate to them in that regard. If it is humor based, I tell retarded jokes. If it is adventurous, I talk about the story when I smoked an elk 250 yds out when I was traveling in Montana.

Women are attracted to great stories. Make something up or spend a couple hundred bucks and do something that'll make men jealous.