I've been reflecting on something recently and thought I'd add it here and see what you guys think.
I've always been skeptical of using the term love because it's so thrown around and shaped in different ways, exaggerated, used improper etc. Especially since 'redpill' and game if you may.
I've seen Heartiste mention before that to be in love is something along the lines of:
Being temporarily reprieved from wondering if you can do any better
I thought about this a lot, and I agree with it and can see how it's relevant.
Here are some thoughts:
- The average guy falls in love for more girls because he has less options, is less abundant, and doesn't work on his game
- A player/guy with game or a guy with options will fall in love less, even if that means he has a lot or little girls in his life, because he knows he can do better as he is constantly self-improving and he is abundant.
However, even a guy with strong game and options will find times where they temporarily stop wondering if they can do better. That's most likely a girl that is higher quality than what he is accustomed to. He just stops thinking about doing better at the moment because he is satisfied with his current girl. Also:
- A guy with many options that 'falls in love' means she is a higher quality girl for him to be 'temporarily reprieved from wondering if he can do better'.
Since all relations between a man and a woman end, although time is varied, the love may end different ways. Either way, a player will move on much easier and quicker, because he has more options (also because he puts in more work) + abundance. He ends that reprieve quicker because he remembers although that was a cool girl, he can improve as he is always improving.
- The more work you put into self-improvement in general, not only game, the easier it will be to move on from girls because you are increasing your value and your options. This means you will fall in love less, but also when you do it will be a higher quality girl, that means it will be more fruitful for you.
When I recall my past experiences recently with girls, I think how there are very few girls that I've felt 'temporary reprieve from wondering if I could do better'. Out of these, only one did I have sex with and have a relationship with, and since feelings without having sex is just infatuation, I think I've only been 'in love' once so far. I've also been with a few girls sexually that I did enjoy their company and had a mini-relationship of some sorts as well, but I wouldn't have been remotely close to being 'in love' because even when I was with them I knew I could do better and get cooler girls.
Reality is you always can. Since no girl is perfect and values are always subjective, there is nothing set in stone. It's just that temporary reprieve.
/End thoughts. How do you guys relate to this?
All in all, a further reason to learn and develop your game. Fall in love less means more control of your emotions, and the rare times you do ensures it's a quality girl. Overtime, you are going to be getting better girls for you and having more satisfying results from your relationships.
I've always been skeptical of using the term love because it's so thrown around and shaped in different ways, exaggerated, used improper etc. Especially since 'redpill' and game if you may.
I've seen Heartiste mention before that to be in love is something along the lines of:
Being temporarily reprieved from wondering if you can do any better
I thought about this a lot, and I agree with it and can see how it's relevant.
Here are some thoughts:
- The average guy falls in love for more girls because he has less options, is less abundant, and doesn't work on his game
- A player/guy with game or a guy with options will fall in love less, even if that means he has a lot or little girls in his life, because he knows he can do better as he is constantly self-improving and he is abundant.
However, even a guy with strong game and options will find times where they temporarily stop wondering if they can do better. That's most likely a girl that is higher quality than what he is accustomed to. He just stops thinking about doing better at the moment because he is satisfied with his current girl. Also:
- A guy with many options that 'falls in love' means she is a higher quality girl for him to be 'temporarily reprieved from wondering if he can do better'.
Since all relations between a man and a woman end, although time is varied, the love may end different ways. Either way, a player will move on much easier and quicker, because he has more options (also because he puts in more work) + abundance. He ends that reprieve quicker because he remembers although that was a cool girl, he can improve as he is always improving.
- The more work you put into self-improvement in general, not only game, the easier it will be to move on from girls because you are increasing your value and your options. This means you will fall in love less, but also when you do it will be a higher quality girl, that means it will be more fruitful for you.
When I recall my past experiences recently with girls, I think how there are very few girls that I've felt 'temporary reprieve from wondering if I could do better'. Out of these, only one did I have sex with and have a relationship with, and since feelings without having sex is just infatuation, I think I've only been 'in love' once so far. I've also been with a few girls sexually that I did enjoy their company and had a mini-relationship of some sorts as well, but I wouldn't have been remotely close to being 'in love' because even when I was with them I knew I could do better and get cooler girls.
Reality is you always can. Since no girl is perfect and values are always subjective, there is nothing set in stone. It's just that temporary reprieve.
/End thoughts. How do you guys relate to this?
All in all, a further reason to learn and develop your game. Fall in love less means more control of your emotions, and the rare times you do ensures it's a quality girl. Overtime, you are going to be getting better girls for you and having more satisfying results from your relationships.