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Sleeping with an old friend. Advice?
05-20-2014, 01:44 AM
In a similar situation. So back at home after graduating and made plans to see a childhood girl friend.
We made plans to see a movie a few days ago, the night before we see the movie we end up texting each other at late at night and we we up talking about how horny we were. She's always been in some type of LTR like since middle school but isn't now. So I immediately suggested to hook up and she said she'd think about it.
We saw the movie the next night then I awkwardly drove around "looking for something to do" and then finally parked and was just like let's talk about it.
She was like I need to think about it. And I was just like lets forget I ever asked. Then she was like no, I like the idea I'm just not okay with casual sex. I was like okay we'll date in 10 years. She said that she wanted to be chased after. I responded with "well I'm horny and there are other girls so I'm not gonna do that" she then left and was like let me think about it.
No idea how to follow through.
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Sleeping with an old friend. Advice?
05-20-2014, 08:32 AM
I have also found myself in a similar situation, albeit I really don't have much in the way of attraction to this girl. I've known her since I was 19, and I'm now 25. We have a few mutual friends, so we were seeing my boy's band play on Saturday. The night begins to wind down and I'm like, "let's continue drinking or something." I suggest a bar, but she wants to stop by her place first for some reason or another. We get back to her house and I'm thinking she'll just drop off her car as we bounce to another bar.
Instead, she motions for me to get out of my car. We go upstairs to the apartment that she shares with her dad and she's like, "I really don't want to go out right now." So she offers me some molly as an apology. We both sit in her room and watch a movie while rolling. Her room is small, so we're both on the bed and I'm thinking, "wow, it really doesn't get much easier than this." I was a bit conflicted, just because I consider molly to be a sex drug, but I really don't have much of a sexual interest in her. I'd fuck her, but it would legitimately be weird because she has a BF that she tries to talk about and I shrug off any discussion of the guy. Not because I'm jealous, but what the fuck can I really tell her about this aloof doctor of physiology?
Eventually, we go outside to chill and she keeps asking me funny questions like, "so, what do you want to do with your life." Just classic questions to ask to spark my emotions and such. I'm kinda drunk and high though, so it doesn't necessarily work. Her dad wakes up, so she kicks me out, just as the drugs begin to really kick in. Ha.
As I'm walking off, she says something to the effect of, "I'm sorry. We should do this again. Now that you know where I live, you can come over whenever."
I just, "maybe" it and get into my car. THe entire situation felt strange to me. Is this what it's like to have a female orbiter? I mean, if she'll keep buying me stuff, then I'll probably keep hanging out. Lol.
Generally speaking, iI probably could bang if I wanted to, but there wouldn't exactly be a way to go for the bang without putting myself out there. I know her BF, bt we're not very close or anything, so I wouldn't have any feelings about banging her. It's like, the idea of fucking is more attractive than she is. She's 26, looks really young, but nothing really going for her in the sexual department, but that could just be due to how she dresses. I can't tell if she has anything under there. Honestly. It would be like walking into a minefield with a metal detector.
I think The OP is struggling with the fact that he'll have to put himself out there to get the close. I sympathize with this plight, but it sounds like he wanted the close. In fact, I might say that he wouldn't exactly be putting himself out there given that she expressed interest in the bang. I'd say just Hail Mary it.
Hopefully that helps.
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