Looking for some suggestions here. I used to have longer hair, nothing crazy long but maybe a little above shoulder like Mathew Mcconagay length. Been either shaving my head or wearing it short for a while but am growing it out. I hate the part in between when you go through those awkward just look goofy stages. Looking for suggestions on how to cut it while its growing out. I read something on GQ about keep the sides short and grow out the top but thought that would look goofy. If any of you guys have long hair or have grown out your hair looking for suggestions on what to do during those awkward lengths. Thanks.
What to do with hair during awkward stages when growing it?
What are you going for now? I'm assuming you want shoulder-length hair again.
Don't cut it. If you're growing it out, don't mess with it. I used to have much shorter hair, but then I went without a hair cut for a over a year. That's what it took to grow out my hair. My look was not optimal during this period, but I embraced the messiness and made it work for me. The only real change I made during this stage was that I started putting a side part in my hair. After reaching a good length (around my jaw), I went to have it cut and styled. I kept growing it after that, and now my hair and beard look more or less like this:
![[Image: Jesus.jpg]](http://terrillthompson.com/blog/images/beards/Jesus.jpg)
Don't cut it. If you're growing it out, don't mess with it. I used to have much shorter hair, but then I went without a hair cut for a over a year. That's what it took to grow out my hair. My look was not optimal during this period, but I embraced the messiness and made it work for me. The only real change I made during this stage was that I started putting a side part in my hair. After reaching a good length (around my jaw), I went to have it cut and styled. I kept growing it after that, and now my hair and beard look more or less like this:
In the beginning stages just use a light or medium gel to style it or slick it back. It'll take almost 2 years to get it long enough to tie back in a tail. After that it's easy. Just keep it tied back and let it grow. Keep a hat in your car for driving. Long hair sucks when driving in a convertible or with your windows down.
Trim the ends every 2 months. Use a leave in conditioner to keep it healthy looking. It takes a lot of time to wash and style your hair. Sometimes I go to work in the morning with it wet and tied back. You might be better off showering the night before. Blow dry it, tie it back and go to bed. In the morning just comb it out and spray in some leave in conditioner. I use Infusium. It's light and watery.
Trim the ends every 2 months. Use a leave in conditioner to keep it healthy looking. It takes a lot of time to wash and style your hair. Sometimes I go to work in the morning with it wet and tied back. You might be better off showering the night before. Blow dry it, tie it back and go to bed. In the morning just comb it out and spray in some leave in conditioner. I use Infusium. It's light and watery.
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I've got you man. I went from having a buzz cut to looking like surfer jesus during my mid 20's. There is an endless amount of dumb info out there on a super simple topic.
First and foremost you must under all circumstances resist the urge to cut or trim it for at least 6 to 8 solid months. If you can go a year. The awkward or "gay" stage you are referring to is an unavoidable pain process that one must go through in order to reach full on jesus mode. The problem with cutting it that hair only grows 1/2 inch per month and getting it cut all the time prolongs this period by continually keeping it in the growing stage.
The problem lies in the fact that the back of you head will begin to appear like its longer than your bangs, giving you a mullety appearance.
During the growing out stage spike it upward for as long as possible. Go for the the wild messy bed head dude thing.
If you have curly or wavy hair invest in a flat iron. This way you straighten bits of your hair in strategic places to make it appear longer. Having wavy / curly hair myself when it was full on shoulder lenght I straitened it for a Jesus halloween costume and holy shit if I didn't suddenly have chest lenght hair.
The flat iron can also help cut down on fly aways and frizzyness. I'm not talking about going full emo hair - just simply using the tool to help you contain unuly bits and make it seem longer.
I'm not going to lie your attractiveness to women will plummet during this period. I remember it was like someone flipped a switched and the pussy just stopped. It makes sense though since you'll look like Michale Cera or any of those other nerdy holly wood super beta archetypes.
![[Image: Michael_Cera,_2012.jpg]](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/3/3c/Michael_Cera,_2012.jpg)
Other ways to deal with this phase are to rock a bandana,
The Big Hair Cut
After about a year to 8 months you will have finally entered semi-long hair dude land. It's now time to get your haircut. DON"T GO TO A BARBER. They have no idea what to do with long hair. Barbers churn out clipper cuts all day long.
You'll have to find a salon that has someone who cuts longer guys hair regularly. Ask around if you see a dude with cool hair. Chances are he went through the same shitty process and will be super stoked to help. Then make sure you get yourself somethign that looks cool.[b] Hair is only the ultimate accessory if you look cool[/b]
Also keep in mind long hair can make some dudes look like a super creepy molester pony tail dude. Roosh started looking this way towards the end when he grew his shit way too long. The nerdy computer guy who loves middle ages shit is also another strong negative archetype. They have frizzy nasty unstyled straight long hair. Often worn in a creeper tail
Don't be this guy:
![[Image: TTMY]](http://s.mlkshk.com/r/TTMY)
At this point you can prolly rock something like Keith Urban has. Keep in mind he flat irons it to get that extra lenght and for it to lay the way it does.
![[Image: images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQVix_uD224IdoG4mXvKrQ...sQfT1ZsTVz]](https://encrypted-tbn1.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQVix_uD224IdoG4mXvKrQq4HvG6F3r5zIh76Qd0IsQfT1ZsTVz)
From here on out all you have to do is let it grow to the desired lenght.
Hat will suddnely look cool worn backwards as do beanies. Girls who dig long hair will start to poppping up out of knowhwere etc.
Be prepared for everythign to think you are a drug dealer. I can't remember how many times I'd get approached by women looking for blow and how everyone suddenly starts talking to you about drugs and making casual drug jokes.
Oh and grow a beard. You'll look like a fucking women if you don't. You need it for masculine balance.
First and foremost you must under all circumstances resist the urge to cut or trim it for at least 6 to 8 solid months. If you can go a year. The awkward or "gay" stage you are referring to is an unavoidable pain process that one must go through in order to reach full on jesus mode. The problem with cutting it that hair only grows 1/2 inch per month and getting it cut all the time prolongs this period by continually keeping it in the growing stage.
The problem lies in the fact that the back of you head will begin to appear like its longer than your bangs, giving you a mullety appearance.
During the growing out stage spike it upward for as long as possible. Go for the the wild messy bed head dude thing.
If you have curly or wavy hair invest in a flat iron. This way you straighten bits of your hair in strategic places to make it appear longer. Having wavy / curly hair myself when it was full on shoulder lenght I straitened it for a Jesus halloween costume and holy shit if I didn't suddenly have chest lenght hair.
The flat iron can also help cut down on fly aways and frizzyness. I'm not talking about going full emo hair - just simply using the tool to help you contain unuly bits and make it seem longer.
I'm not going to lie your attractiveness to women will plummet during this period. I remember it was like someone flipped a switched and the pussy just stopped. It makes sense though since you'll look like Michale Cera or any of those other nerdy holly wood super beta archetypes.
Other ways to deal with this phase are to rock a bandana,
The Big Hair Cut
After about a year to 8 months you will have finally entered semi-long hair dude land. It's now time to get your haircut. DON"T GO TO A BARBER. They have no idea what to do with long hair. Barbers churn out clipper cuts all day long.
You'll have to find a salon that has someone who cuts longer guys hair regularly. Ask around if you see a dude with cool hair. Chances are he went through the same shitty process and will be super stoked to help. Then make sure you get yourself somethign that looks cool.[b] Hair is only the ultimate accessory if you look cool[/b]
Also keep in mind long hair can make some dudes look like a super creepy molester pony tail dude. Roosh started looking this way towards the end when he grew his shit way too long. The nerdy computer guy who loves middle ages shit is also another strong negative archetype. They have frizzy nasty unstyled straight long hair. Often worn in a creeper tail
Don't be this guy:
At this point you can prolly rock something like Keith Urban has. Keep in mind he flat irons it to get that extra lenght and for it to lay the way it does.
From here on out all you have to do is let it grow to the desired lenght.
Hat will suddnely look cool worn backwards as do beanies. Girls who dig long hair will start to poppping up out of knowhwere etc.
Be prepared for everythign to think you are a drug dealer. I can't remember how many times I'd get approached by women looking for blow and how everyone suddenly starts talking to you about drugs and making casual drug jokes.
Oh and grow a beard. You'll look like a fucking women if you don't. You need it for masculine balance.
If you're hair is naturally frizzy (like in that Michael Cera pic), long hair is definitely not for you, just my .02. You'll need to iron or relax the hell out of it for it to not look like shit.
Being that my hair is fast-growing (about an inch a month), straight, glossy, soft, and has decent body and presence. It looks great when long, and until I shaved it all off a few weeks ago, it was typically around shoulder length. I get it cut a couple times a year (fast-growing, remember), and here is what I have done:
![[Image: men-messy-hairstyles-medium-hair.jpg]](http://menhairstylesideas.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/men-messy-hairstyles-medium-hair.jpg)
This is a razor cut. (they feel really great to get, btw, makes the scalp all tingly) It's stylish and gets compliments right out of the chair, and the layered choppy look looks great when it grows out long.
Being that my hair is fast-growing (about an inch a month), straight, glossy, soft, and has decent body and presence. It looks great when long, and until I shaved it all off a few weeks ago, it was typically around shoulder length. I get it cut a couple times a year (fast-growing, remember), and here is what I have done:
This is a razor cut. (they feel really great to get, btw, makes the scalp all tingly) It's stylish and gets compliments right out of the chair, and the layered choppy look looks great when it grows out long.
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Voice teacher here. If you ever need help with singing, speech and diction, accent improvement/reduction, I'm your man.
Buy a hat and develop some thick skin. The hat works better if you are younger. If you can pull it off long hair is like catnip for skanks. When I had long hair girls would open me on the streets. Good times...
Quote: (04-28-2014 11:52 AM)faznine15 Wrote:
I've got you man. I went from having a buzz cut to looking like surfer jesus during my mid 20's. There is an endless amount of dumb info out there on a super simple topic.
First and foremost you must under all circumstances resist the urge to cut or trim it for at least 6 to 8 solid months. If you can go a year. The awkward or "gay" stage you are referring to is an unavoidable pain process that one must go through in order to reach full on jesus mode. The problem with cutting it that hair only grows 1/2 inch per month and getting it cut all the time prolongs this period by continually keeping it in the growing stage.
The problem lies in the fact that the back of you head will begin to appear like its longer than your bangs, giving you a mullety appearance.
During the growing out stage spike it upward for as long as possible. Go for the the wild messy bed head dude thing.
If you have curly or wavy hair invest in a flat iron. This way you straighten bits of your hair in strategic places to make it appear longer. Having wavy / curly hair myself when it was full on shoulder lenght I straitened it for a Jesus halloween costume and holy shit if I didn't suddenly have chest lenght hair.
The flat iron can also help cut down on fly aways and frizzyness. I'm not talking about going full emo hair - just simply using the tool to help you contain unuly bits and make it seem longer.
I'm not going to lie your attractiveness to women will plummet during this period. I remember it was like someone flipped a switched and the pussy just stopped. It makes sense though since you'll look like Michale Cera or any of those other nerdy holly wood super beta archetypes.
Other ways to deal with this phase are to rock a bandana,
The Big Hair Cut
After about a year to 8 months you will have finally entered semi-long hair dude land. It's now time to get your haircut. DON"T GO TO A BARBER. They have no idea what to do with long hair. Barbers churn out clipper cuts all day long.
You'll have to find a salon that has someone who cuts longer guys hair regularly. Ask around if you see a dude with cool hair. Chances are he went through the same shitty process and will be super stoked to help. Then make sure you get yourself somethign that looks cool.[b] Hair is only the ultimate accessory if you look cool[/b]
Also keep in mind long hair can make some dudes look like a super creepy molester pony tail dude. Roosh started looking this way towards the end when he grew his shit way too long. The nerdy computer guy who loves middle ages shit is also another strong negative archetype. They have frizzy nasty unstyled straight long hair. Often worn in a creeper tail
Don't be this guy:
At this point you can prolly rock something like Keith Urban has. Keep in mind he flat irons it to get that extra lenght and for it to lay the way it does.
From here on out all you have to do is let it grow to the desired lenght.
Hat will suddnely look cool worn backwards as do beanies. Girls who dig long hair will start to poppping up out of knowhwere etc.
Be prepared for everythign to think you are a drug dealer. I can't remember how many times I'd get approached by women looking for blow and how everyone suddenly starts talking to you about drugs and making casual drug jokes.
Oh and grow a beard. You'll look like a fucking women if you don't. You need it for masculine balance.
Urban's as feminine as it gets. Please tell me you're not shilling for him (her) - even with the mus/beard
Just using him as an example of a guy with decent looking mid lenght hair. He's rocking a pretty dated look by todays standards though.
hats, bandanas, flat iron, hair spray.
A lot depends what kind of hair you have naturally too?
A lot depends what kind of hair you have naturally too?
I'm three months in growing my hair. I have finally hit the stage where my hair goes all over the place when I wake up. It is very hard to tame when I try and style it as well. any tips on how to make it smooth journey? how long does the award stage last? I want to This Spiky Hairsyle If you will be already make your hairs like this. I have thick(dense), straight hair. any information would help!! Thanks guys. Smile
Keep getting it trimmed. clean around the ears and neck but keep the overall length. It will give it shape as it grows. Same thing with a beard
Quote: (02-02-2017 07:06 AM)larabahadur Wrote:
I'm three months in growing my hair. I have finally hit the stage where my hair goes all over the place when I wake up. It is very hard to tame when I try and style it as well. any tips on how to make it smooth journey? how long does the award stage last? I want to This Spiky Hairsyle If you will be already make your hairs like this. I have thick(dense), straight hair. any information would help!! Thanks guys. Smile
Some combination of: shower it in hot water, put a side part in it and comb it side&back, put gell in it, and use hair spray to seal it in place.
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