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The 10 Things That Changed My Life Completely
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The 10 Things That Changed My Life Completely

I started reading this forum two years back to the date. Just like so many people here, it completely changed my life. I remained a reader for quite sometime and recently (Dec 2013) registered as a member.

A little bit about myself. I’ll keep it short I promise. I’m from India – the most blue pill and beta country on this planet. Needless to say, I never knew about the concept of red pill, though I have been quite rebellious since childhood.

I’m lucky I got into the habit of reading motivational books from an early age, and that would be the reason behind me quitting a plethora of jobs and making “weird” decisions down the line. The reason I use the word ‘weird’ is because that was what exactly my problem was. I had started to think I was weird because I longed for a kind of freedom that my peers and friends were not even thinking about.

It’s red pill books, videos, people and forums like this one that comforted me because I became aware that I’m not the only one. I think that is why most people love the red pill thing. More than learning something new, it’s about finding people who are doing the same thing that was in your head. It’s like all your beliefs are being validated, and that is an incredible feeling.

Over the last two years, my life has gone a massive and pleasant change and I really want to give something back to this forum. So I’m listing down the 10 important things that changed my life for the better. Note that some of them were being done even when I was blue pill, just not with the same enthusiasm and belief. Most of the points are pretty common and I’m in no way listing down something that is groundbreaking for all of you. It’s just my story. Here we go –

1.Working Out

I’ve been working out for over 14 years now (I’m 27) and without a doubt it’s one of the best decisions I took. I’m not obsessed by it, but I exercise around 4 times a week and play sports too. It enhanced my personality and self confidence like anything.

2.Pick a Sport and get good or at least decent at it.

I come from an army background, so I’ve always been into sports since childhood. The mistake I made was that I was a jack of all trades. When I was in college, one of the best decisions I ever made was to excel in one sport. I chose soccer as I love it more than anything in the world. While my friends were busy studying for entrance exams for MBA, I used to practice soccer alone in the parking lot. It was one of the most joyful experiences for me, and I still remember the feeling I got when I scored a goal in the final of a college tournament. The happiness and joy I felt that day erased any doubts that I had about whether I was doing the right thing or not by neglecting studies in favor of sports. I was not doing this to become a professional, but just for the joy I got out of playing.

I think our animal instincts come to the surface when we play a sport we love. When a soccer game gets confirmed on a whatsapp group, it’s one of the most exciting feelings in the world. I met a shit load of awesome guy friends too. If you’re good at sports, the respect you get from other guys is massive.

I occasionally enjoy playing other sports too but my focus has remained on one as far as improving and practicing is concerned.

3.Always Build a Business or an Investment, no matter how slow you go

This point is so true that whenever I see someone just doing a job and coming back home, I feel they are just wasting their lives. It’s like the reward is just temporary. Whereas, if you build a business, you’re moving towards something that is bound to give you freedom at some point.

18 months back, I dived into affiliate marketing and blogging, and my life went up another level. Even when I was doing a job, I used to come back and work late into the night and the best part is that I loved what I was doing.

I still remember the day when my brother shouted from his room –“there’s some check for you from some bank called Clickbank”. For a second I froze. I knew it was not a bank. For those who don’t know, Clickbank is one of the websites which has different kinds of products and they carry out the payment process when you sell a product. So basically, one of my websites which sells home gyms had made me money and I did not even know. That’s the power of business.

After that moment, I’ve made a lot of sales. Just a month back , I made a sale of my own product. I was working in a café, and got a mail by paypal saying that I had received a payment. I just shouted at the top of the voice “YESSSSSSSS” and the people around got fucking scared. One of those moments where you start to question reality.

4.Work methodically towards quitting your job and go into freelancing


I was always concerned about my work life. Here in India, the thought of quitting a job can be as dread inducing for most as death itself.

I quit a lot of jobs in a short span of time. I think majority of the people cannot be happy in a job. Freelancing, though still a job, is much better and gives you more room to be flexible. What I did was I worked towards a goal of saving a certain amount of money before quitting and going into freelancing. It worked like a charm. I’ve never been happier with my work life. Till now I’ve had absolutely no problems as far as finding clients is concerned. In fact I think that aspect of freelancing scares many people, but I can tell you that it’s over rated. It’s not tough to find decent clients. Maybe someday I’ll post a detailed thread only on this.

Nowadays I design my day and activities according to my own rules. I can travel and work from anywhere. The benefits totally outweigh the little anxiety that comes along with it, which eventually starts to diminish too as you get more experienced.

5.Lead a Minimalist Lifestyle

The concept of a minimalist life completely changed the game for me. When I realized that I never wanted most of things for which I was working towards, I experienced great freedom. It gave me the confidence to leave my last office job. In fact it gave me the confidence to do ANYTHING that I wished. Knowing that I can be absolutely happy with almost no material possessions gave me an advantage over the usual obstacles in life. For instance, finding a better place to rent even though it may cost me little more was perfectly fine because I knew I would not be spending money on anything which I did not value. It also allowed me to make investments like blog advertising, paying for a better gym, internet business related expenses, etc.

The basic rule I follow is that I only spend if something makes me really excited and happy. Thankfully for me, most of these things don’t cost much. And the ones that do drastically improve my life in one way or another.

In India, it’s so stupid that people will whine about their jobs and life, but refuse to quit because they need that money for incredibly stupid expenses like a larger-than-life wedding. As if marriage itself wasn’t horrible, why would they spend an amount that could actually be deposited in an account and form a decent passive income for the couple.

This sort of stupid materialism exists in plenty here. Trust me when I say that India is by no means a poor country. People here are just very stupid in their expenses. And then they wonder why their lives are shit and devoid of any relaxation time.

6.Work on your looks. Yes I’m talking about your face.

This point may sound a bit controversial. Good looking people have it easier than others. Here in India, 99% of the guys are ugly and hairy as hell. One of the best things I did was that right from high school I changed the way I ate. I substantially reduced my soda and junk food intake. This coupled with working out made me at least 2 shades lighter in a very short span of time( I was anyway light skinned). This altered my life in a huge way. I became looks conscious and I still am. I don’t think it’s gay at all to be concerned about how your face looks. I’m better looking than the above average guy and it gets me a lot of respect(and envy) wherever I go.

Needless to say, it changed the game with the women completely. Being light skinned in India is a massive advantage. But in my opinion, being good looking is in everyone’s hands, whatever your skin color may be. It’s just about improving to the best you can naturally. I’m not saying you have to have a “pretty” face, just that doing the right things (eating right and exercising) will get your face to your natural best. In India, guys have such a poor grooming sense that it’s almost appalling. Well, good for me.

7.Become independent

In India, most people stay with their parents till they get married. It’s very rare for someone to live by themselves unless it’s purely work or education related. I think this is one of the chief reasons why Indian guys stay beta.

I knew I wanted to get independent when I was 17, but could not for much longer due to various reasons. Now I live on my own in the same city as my parents. Many friends question this decision on an economic basis as I expected. My only answer to them is that the price I pay financially for this is not even close to the freedom, excitement and growth I get in return.

So, make sure this is one of your priorities. Also, when you move, place the primary emphasis on location. Sweet location = more women.

8.Have the courage to overcome anxiety and fear

I’ve been a great sufferer of anxiety. So much so that around 6 yrs back I had to receive psychiatric treatment for it. But I’ve always done one thing that I’ve been proud of, and that is to fight my fears and anxiety. Overcoming your fear is easier than you think and the power you feel after doing so is just an incredible feeling. I’m still troubled by anxiety but to a much lesser degree.

The method I use to conquer my fears is that I quickly envision a plan to carry out an action, think about it for a few days, and then follow through. Just remember that the plan and method should not be so detailed that they remove the fear completely. This would make you a perfectionist and being a perfectionist sucks the energy out of you. You have to feel that little bit of fear and do it anyway.

The only thing to keep in mind is that you’re taking an action that you genuinely believe in. Courage has to be used in great things, not things that might actually harm you and are stupid.

For instance, 3 years back when I used to gym, there was a massive guy in the gym whom everyone used to hate, including me. I always wanted to have the courage to say something rude to him. One day I went to him when he was doing squats, and as he finished his set, I said –“apni gaand main lele” (“shove it up yours”). 2 seconds later my neck was in his huge hands and my feet off the hair, and my head against the wall. I almost choked. He brought me down and shoved me so fucking hard I almost fell a good 10 yards away. Now this was STUPID. This was not courage, it was bravado and I rightly paid the price. False bravado should be avoided at all costs.

9.Stop Giving a Fuck

10 years back, I used to be the kind of guy who would get enraged because of some political issue or some piece of news that was not related to my personal being in any way. 5 years back I became the kind of guy who would laugh on these things. And now I’m at the stage where I just don’t care AT ALL. It’s not even humorous to me anymore because it is completely and absolutely ignored. In my opinion, as we discover ourselves more and more, we naturally tend to get unassociated with anything that doesn’t benefit us in some way and directly.

Someone on this forum has this quote in their signature – “The less fucks you give, the more fucks you get. “ It’s perfect because it’s as true for the women thing as it is for happiness in life.

10.Don’t meditate, but make your life a meditation itself. Read spiritual stuff.

Most people see spirituality to be related to religion and this keeps them off it. It couldn’t be more inaccurate. Spirituality is anti-religion. It is pleasure. It is courage. It is as red pill as anything out there. And I mean the genuine spiritual teachings. For instance, Osho has to be one of the most crazy red pill guys to have ever existed. His teachings have had a massive impact on my life. In my opinion, he was the most deep, yet simple advocator of happiness. He had lot of guts too to say what he did at the time he did. Some of the lessons of his have completely altered a particular course of action in my life, and for the better. I love ending my day by going to radio.osho.com and just letting the radio stream till I feel sleepy.

Also, about meditation, I’ve tried it a lot but I feel the benefits aren’t worth the effort. Maybe I’m doing it wrong. But I believe that one should rather make their daily life meditative by filling it only with activities that give us some kind of joy and peace. And the aim should be to work towards being able to lead a life which is absolutely full of such activities only like work we love, exercise, sports, sex, etc.


I know this was a long read, but to those who did read a part of it or the full thing, I hope you liked it. If someone benefits from this in anyway, I’d be glad. Cheers.
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Quote: (04-09-2014 11:40 AM)testos111 Wrote:  

I substantially reduced my soda and junk food intake. This coupled with working out made me at least 2 shades lighter in a very short span of time( I was anyway light skinned).

Ive heard that eating lots carrots can change your pigmentation slightly but are you serious about getting lighter skin from laying off Mcdonalds and Coke Cola?

Also good list!

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Quote: (04-09-2014 12:01 PM)bacon Wrote:  

Quote: (04-09-2014 11:40 AM)testos111 Wrote:  

I substantially reduced my soda and junk food intake. This coupled with working out made me at least 2 shades lighter in a very short span of time( I was anyway light skinned).

Ive heard that eating lots carrots can change your pigmentation slightly but are you serious about getting lighter skin from laying off Mcdonalds and Coke Cola?

Also good list!

I'm not quite sure man but I deduced this because this happened within a span of 2-3 months of changing my diet. I was also consuming fruit juices. So I'm not quite sure what exactly made the difference but it has to be due to this change.
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I can vouch for diet changing your skin tone.

Here is a before shot of me.

Then I stopped drinking soda and eating fast food. Now look at the after shot.

You can tell it is obviously the same person from the earring and the haircut.

[size=8pt]"For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.”[/size] [size=7pt] - Romans 8:18[/size]
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Quote: (04-09-2014 01:01 PM)scorpion Wrote:  

I can vouch for diet changing your skin tone.

Here is a before shot of me.

Then I stopped drinking soda and eating fast food. Now look at the after shot.

You can tell it is obviously the same person from the earring and the haircut.

I bet you can vouch for the second point in the list too [Image: wink.gif]
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What line of freelancing are you in? I appreciate if you don't want to share too much.
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Quote: (04-09-2014 01:56 PM)draguer Wrote:  

What line of freelancing are you in? I appreciate if you don't want to share too much.

Social Media Marketing, Content Writing, Online Marketing. Trying to get into teaching too.
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Great list. Now the addendum - find someone who was in your shoes as you were ten years ago, and mentor him to achieve the greatness that he deserves.
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You sir, are an inspiration.
I'm trying to follow the same path, but the beginning is a bit rough. I started freelancing right out of college (web dev and design), but made only peanuts until recently. I would like to learn more about your experiences in freelancing and diet changes. Maybe we could collaborate.

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Financial freedom is my current main goal.
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Great list.
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Excellent write up. #4 is my top choice, and freelancing can be substituted for any entrepreneurial activity. Staying focused on #5 will help you succeed at #4 because you can keep expenses very low.
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Quote: (04-10-2014 07:38 AM)FunctionalPsycho Wrote:  

You sir, are an inspiration.
I'm trying to follow the same path, but the beginning is a bit rough. I started freelancing right out of college (web dev and design), but made only peanuts until recently. I would like to learn more about your experiences in freelancing and diet changes. Maybe we could collaborate.

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Financial freedom is my current main goal.

This is the most common problem in freelancing. But it has the most simple solution - DO NOT WORK FOR PEANUTS.

Because you don't have to. If you feel you have to, then you've got the beginning wrong because you've not saved up enough cash to start off and go fully into it.

You might have to start with lower rates but they should still be able to justify the effort that you will put in. Don't settle.

The only exception can be a very short gig that can give you something to show when you approach a better client.

And since you're an Indian, another tip I can give you is to not work for Indian clients, especially the digital ones. Work on your communication skills, have a website of your own, look smart and look for clients in the US, UK, Australia or South East Asia.

Good luck!
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Yeah another experienced friend of mine told me not to take our fellow countrymen as clients. Chinese seem to be the same to me, as I had a bad experience with one.
I started freelancing on freelancer.com. By peanuts I meant I was hardly getting any work, since I had no reviews. What other platforms would you recommend?
I would like to reach an income of 3-4K dollars per month within a year or so, perhaps following Dusty's Digital Project Manager route (you can search for the thread.)
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Quote: (04-10-2014 01:35 PM)FunctionalPsycho Wrote:  

Yeah another experienced friend of mine told me not to take our fellow countrymen as clients. Chinese seem to be the same to me, as I had a bad experience with one.
I started freelancing on freelancer.com. By peanuts I meant I was hardly getting any work, since I had no reviews. What other platforms would you recommend?
I would like to reach an income of 3-4K dollars per month within a year or so, perhaps following Dusty's Digital Project Manager route (you can search for the thread.)

I've never had any luck with any of the bidding sites. Maybe I haven't been persistent enough. In fact, the only time I use them is for outsourcing work.

Moreover, I just like directly approaching prospective clients as I'm confident I'll leave an impression. For instance, when I started freelancing, I used to work in the mornings from an upscale cafe as I used to hate always working from home. I just casually mentioned to the owner about what I do, and a week later, he called me to promote his cafe on Facebook. This turned into a 4 month gig where I was working just half an hour a day at a great rate.

More people need you than you think. Hell, I even did a month long paid gig for a girl who thought I'll make her and her artwork famous through a Facebook page. What a bird brain!
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Quote: (04-10-2014 03:13 PM)testos111 Wrote:  

Quote: (04-10-2014 01:35 PM)FunctionalPsycho Wrote:  

Yeah another experienced friend of mine told me not to take our fellow countrymen as clients. Chinese seem to be the same to me, as I had a bad experience with one.
I started freelancing on freelancer.com. By peanuts I meant I was hardly getting any work, since I had no reviews. What other platforms would you recommend?
I would like to reach an income of 3-4K dollars per month within a year or so, perhaps following Dusty's Digital Project Manager route (you can search for the thread.)

I've never had any luck with any of the bidding sites. Maybe I haven't been persistent enough. In fact, the only time I use them is for outsourcing work.

Moreover, I just like directly approaching prospective clients as I'm confident I'll leave an impression. For instance, when I started freelancing, I used to work in the mornings from an upscale cafe as I used to hate always working from home. I just casually mentioned to the owner about what I do, and a week later, he called me to promote his cafe on Facebook. This turned into a 4 month gig where I was working just half an hour a day at a great rate.

More people need you than you think. Hell, I even did a month long paid gig for a girl who thought I'll make her and her artwork famous through a Facebook page. What a bird brain!

Ouch...

I always tell clients if I think I can't help them achieve what they want. It's important you guide them towards more realistic expectations.

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To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
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Quote: (04-11-2014 12:15 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

Quote: (04-10-2014 03:13 PM)testos111 Wrote:  

Quote: (04-10-2014 01:35 PM)FunctionalPsycho Wrote:  

Yeah another experienced friend of mine told me not to take our fellow countrymen as clients. Chinese seem to be the same to me, as I had a bad experience with one.
I started freelancing on freelancer.com. By peanuts I meant I was hardly getting any work, since I had no reviews. What other platforms would you recommend?
I would like to reach an income of 3-4K dollars per month within a year or so, perhaps following Dusty's Digital Project Manager route (you can search for the thread.)

I've never had any luck with any of the bidding sites. Maybe I haven't been persistent enough. In fact, the only time I use them is for outsourcing work.

Moreover, I just like directly approaching prospective clients as I'm confident I'll leave an impression. For instance, when I started freelancing, I used to work in the mornings from an upscale cafe as I used to hate always working from home. I just casually mentioned to the owner about what I do, and a week later, he called me to promote his cafe on Facebook. This turned into a 4 month gig where I was working just half an hour a day at a great rate.

More people need you than you think. Hell, I even did a month long paid gig for a girl who thought I'll make her and her artwork famous through a Facebook page. What a bird brain!

Ouch...

I always tell clients if I think I can't help them achieve what they want. It's important you guide them towards more realistic expectations.

You're right BB! Being dishonest with your clients will ultimately catch up with you at some point, and I hold my hands up in this case.

This was one of the initial gigs and seemed too easy, so maybe I got greedy. I was also curious as to whether FB can really work for personal branding (results were ok). But yeah, should not have done that, even if it was for a month.

But the point I was making was that there are a lot of opportunities out there. Only the approach anxiety should be done away with!
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Lack of access to clients makes anxiety irrelevant, not that I have much.
Offline connections aren't really possible for me right now as I'm at home right now, parents anxious to see me clear backlogs and get degree, which is not in one of the big cities, plus I'm aiming for a location independent world traveller businessman lifestyle, so I don't want to be tethered to clients whom I have to meet personally.
You seem to be living in a metro city among upper class people. Could you post links to resources that helped you start your business? Anyone else's suggestions are welcome too.
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I am working on the ''don't give a fuck''.

I am/was the guy who'd read every peice of news he could and have an opinion on everything in the world. To the point it annoyed me.

My resolution is to read the news a lot less and stop giving a fuck, except about the things that effect me and help me.

I think it'll take some time, but working on it.
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Quote: (04-11-2014 08:09 PM)BruceCreatine Wrote:  

I am working on the ''don't give a fuck''.

I am/was the guy who'd read every peice of news he could and have an opinion on everything in the world. To the point it annoyed me.

My resolution is to read the news a lot less and stop giving a fuck, except about the things that effect me and help me.

I think it'll take some time, but working on it.

Stop reading/watching the news. It doesn't affect you at all and doesn't improve you. Only look for info you absolutely need. If someone mentions some sort of current event just say you have heard of it but aren't sure of the situation--you wont come off as ignorant and will open up deeper conversation. News is the male equivalent of celebrity gossip.

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Quote: (04-12-2014 02:54 AM)Switch Wrote:  

Quote: (04-11-2014 08:09 PM)BruceCreatine Wrote:  

I am working on the ''don't give a fuck''.

I am/was the guy who'd read every peice of news he could and have an opinion on everything in the world. To the point it annoyed me.

My resolution is to read the news a lot less and stop giving a fuck, except about the things that effect me and help me.

I think it'll take some time, but working on it.

Stop reading/watching the news. It doesn't affect you at all and doesn't improve you. Only look for info you absolutely need. If someone mentions some sort of current event just say you have heard of it but aren't sure of the situation--you wont come off as ignorant and will open up deeper conversation. News is the male equivalent of celebrity gossip.

and if there's anything really significant, you're going to know about it anyway via all the social media mediums and general discussions
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