Hey what's up players? I want to vent a little, not sure if anyone will have any golden tidbits of advice or wisdom for me, but I feel like I need an outlet to share my frustrations.
First of all, I don't know if anyone read my thread post entitled "Psychotic Girlfriend... Epic Fail", but I am just coming off kind of a bad break up with a girl that I was at one time very into, but acted like a total bitch on my trip to Thailand where she met up with me for two weeks. Now in the aftermath, I'm trying to get my head right, but I'm in the weird headspace, where I'm glad to be done with it, but strangely I still have some feeling for her, despite all the bullshit, disrespect, and psychotic behavior she put me through.
Now, I am trying to deal with getting over her, but also getting back on my feet and getting back in the game, and this is where my rant comes in. I feel like before starting to date her, I hit my stride as far as confidence and game goes. I don't know if anyone remembers my past posts, but I got into the game about a year ago, after years of not trying, and having zero game, I found Roosh's site, bought bang, and got out in the field. Progress and success were slow to come, but at the end of last summer/early fall I felt like everything started to click, I overcame approach anxiety, would get make-outs and phone numbers easily almost every weekend going out, and I got 4 notches in 1 1/2 months prior to dating my ex girlfriend.
Then I started dating the "psycho bitch" and admittedly she was one of my first serious girlfriends and I got really into her. We were dating for like the past 4 months, and during that time I didn't make any effort to approach or game any other girls. Now that I'm back to being single again, I feel like I've regressed and my game is absolute shit again. I'm currently in a small town in Thailand, so not the best nightlife or pick up scene, but I do see girls around, but I feel like I have approach anxiety again, whereas before I would approach strongly with ease, and wouldn't really feel that awkward nervous energy.
Now, it's like I'm back to a newbie stage, where I feel nervous, and almost scared to approach. I feel like I rack my brain for openers and don't know what to say. Maybe my confidence has just been shaken by the experience with this girl, but I feel like game is a skill that you need to keep sharp, especially if you're not a natural, or are a shy, kind of intraverted person like I am.
Before, when my confidence was high, I kind of enjoyed the process of gaming, and it was almost like a high that I would get from it. Now I just feel like it's such a chore and a hassle. I guess I just need to get my head right and get back into the game and start doing approaches. Maybe it will take a while and incremental steps towards success and getting back to where I once was.
Has anyone had this experience or anything similar, where they felt like there game was strong, but then after months/weeks of not trying, regressed and got weak again? I'm just frustrated with myself, because I feel like I have the knowledge and the tools to be successful again, but I just lost my swagger. I guess guys' like Roosh, Mixx, etc., are constantly gaming and their shit never drops off. It sucks to know that you were once on top and running shit, only to drop off and be back where you started.
First of all, I don't know if anyone read my thread post entitled "Psychotic Girlfriend... Epic Fail", but I am just coming off kind of a bad break up with a girl that I was at one time very into, but acted like a total bitch on my trip to Thailand where she met up with me for two weeks. Now in the aftermath, I'm trying to get my head right, but I'm in the weird headspace, where I'm glad to be done with it, but strangely I still have some feeling for her, despite all the bullshit, disrespect, and psychotic behavior she put me through.
Now, I am trying to deal with getting over her, but also getting back on my feet and getting back in the game, and this is where my rant comes in. I feel like before starting to date her, I hit my stride as far as confidence and game goes. I don't know if anyone remembers my past posts, but I got into the game about a year ago, after years of not trying, and having zero game, I found Roosh's site, bought bang, and got out in the field. Progress and success were slow to come, but at the end of last summer/early fall I felt like everything started to click, I overcame approach anxiety, would get make-outs and phone numbers easily almost every weekend going out, and I got 4 notches in 1 1/2 months prior to dating my ex girlfriend.
Then I started dating the "psycho bitch" and admittedly she was one of my first serious girlfriends and I got really into her. We were dating for like the past 4 months, and during that time I didn't make any effort to approach or game any other girls. Now that I'm back to being single again, I feel like I've regressed and my game is absolute shit again. I'm currently in a small town in Thailand, so not the best nightlife or pick up scene, but I do see girls around, but I feel like I have approach anxiety again, whereas before I would approach strongly with ease, and wouldn't really feel that awkward nervous energy.
Now, it's like I'm back to a newbie stage, where I feel nervous, and almost scared to approach. I feel like I rack my brain for openers and don't know what to say. Maybe my confidence has just been shaken by the experience with this girl, but I feel like game is a skill that you need to keep sharp, especially if you're not a natural, or are a shy, kind of intraverted person like I am.
Before, when my confidence was high, I kind of enjoyed the process of gaming, and it was almost like a high that I would get from it. Now I just feel like it's such a chore and a hassle. I guess I just need to get my head right and get back into the game and start doing approaches. Maybe it will take a while and incremental steps towards success and getting back to where I once was.
Has anyone had this experience or anything similar, where they felt like there game was strong, but then after months/weeks of not trying, regressed and got weak again? I'm just frustrated with myself, because I feel like I have the knowledge and the tools to be successful again, but I just lost my swagger. I guess guys' like Roosh, Mixx, etc., are constantly gaming and their shit never drops off. It sucks to know that you were once on top and running shit, only to drop off and be back where you started.