[Chewbacon]

Got a crush on this girl that I know in my social circle, which is weird because I usually don't emotionally invest until AFTER i've at least done something romantic/sexual with a girl. I recently found out she's single, so I'm going to give pursuing her a shot. However, I'm not exactly sure how to proceed. She has a ton of guy friends and most seem to be orbiters, so flirting with her in a group setting can be somewhat risky. Moreover, I'm not sure I gave the best first impression. I was so taken aback by her presence that I pretty much lost my mojo. Seriously, I was too polite and nice, and I completely held back on any teasing, tension, banter, or the like. I was also celebrating my law school acceptance and got piss drunk, which in my memory resulted in me saying some goofy things. I'm worried at this point if I even try anything I will be starting from LJBF territory. The one plus side to this crush is that it has infused my interactions with other girls with a certain nonchalant and aloof attitude. What do you all think?

[Kickb]

I would simply call or text her and set up a time to meet up. When you do meet up with her just dont make the mistakes you made earlier.

[FretDancer]

If she's on your circle and you just got to know her, then just stay close to her while "in the circle". This might arouse some confusion in her to wonder wether you're up to something or not. Game with her with good conversation like any girl, I wouldnt ask her out until you've manage to create some good trust and kino.

Good luck man

[Chewbacon]

Thanks for the advice guys. Once I've established some attraction, comfort, and kino (I think I had a tiny bit of attraction, because I invited her and a mutual friend to my celebratory pre-drink - i got into law school - with a bunch of my friends and she got to see me at the center of attention among some cool guys and decent looking girls), how should i work logistics? She's 18/19 (not sure how they calculate it in south korea), smokes a TONNNN of weed. I'm worried that if I ask her to hang out one on one doing something she'll think it's awkward/weird and flake. Should I invite her out to another group outing with my friends? College girls can be fickle (I'm 22 btw).

[FretDancer]

If you go out with the whole circle and remain to distant from her during the "group date" you might just end up in the friend zone. I think the best idea would be to just talk to her for some minutes everytime you see her at campus. Create variation by having great conversations to generate attraction but also apply some time constraint when you see her, like saying you're in a hurry or something, that way she'll want to be with you more.

If you've ran good game just tell her you want to go out and ask her when she's free, remember to lead.

[Duke Castile]

Get a joint and keep it in your pocket next time you're out when she's around. Start talking to her and this time be cool. After a certain point when you have her feeling comfortable ask her if she wants to burn a spliff with you. She will want to, you to go together outside or something and create a connection.

You can thank Kona for that advice, I don't smoke myself.

[Kona]

(01-19-2011 02:48 AM)Fisto Wrote:  

Get a joint and keep it in your pocket next time you're out when she's around. Start talking to her and this time be cool. After a certain point when you have her feeling comfortable ask her if she wants to burn a spliff with you. She will want to, you to go together outside or something and create a connection.

You can thank Kona for that advice, I don't smoke myself.

I'm glad I could help.

Aloha!