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Struggling with Rambling
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Struggling with Rambling

Hey, so I'm trying to just work on my conversational skills by talking to everyone. Unfortunately, after they initial 1 minute I go blank.

I definitely need some help/tips/drills advice regarding rambling just to keep it going. I was adept my whole life at making everything concise and cutting out superfluous talk. Now I have to do the opposite.

I met with this hot realtor agent and i couldn't continue other than
Her: it's cold outside haha
Me: Yup, its definitely nippy, had to throw on the jacket.
Me: So where were you before this
Her: Another leasing agency. at blah blah.
Me: where were you before leasing?
Her: Still leasing haha, yea all the time (smiles)

she was being nice cuz i was a client, but I still stood there for 3-5 minutes without being able to think of something. (waiting on another person)

I've already read Roosh's books and been browsing the forum.., any practical drills, advice would be greatly apprecciated
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Struggling with Rambling

I asked the "How To Ramble" question once and was directed to these two threads which are pretty thorough:

http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-25975.html
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-14643-...#pid243186
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#3

Struggling with Rambling

There's a 100% chance she was just being nice because you're a client. That's like trying to practice game with a hooker. Forget that situation.

Next time you see a random girl just go talk to her and say whatever interesting thoughts you have. Don't ask questions unless it's a smart ass question. Just try to entertain yourself with your own conversation. Talk about your surroundings, talk about how weird her shoes look, whatever. Just make it interesting and opinionated.
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Quote: (03-27-2014 11:59 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

she was being nice cuz i was a client, but I still stood there for 3-5 minutes without being able to think of something. (waiting on another person)

Avoid girls that sell you shit especially as a newbie. I had a cute israeli girl sell me some adore stuff and gave me her cell number. I texted; no response. LOL.
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#5

Struggling with Rambling

One practical thing you can do no matter where you are is to sharpen your observational skills for future conversations

Beyond the weather, let your current surroundings work for you.

Does she have a sports team logo on her bumper? ask about her team pride. Ramble and Transition

Is she wearing an Autism Speaks shirt? ask her if she volunteers or participates in their charity races. " "

Is there a big news story that's relevant, let her express her views and have a view of your own etc. " "

In a situation like the one you described, you did try a follow up question (good rule of thumb) to get her talking about herself and more personal history, but she didn't bite instead she kept it short and sweet. Since she was on her business she probably wasn't going to open up anyway.

MDP
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Quote: (03-27-2014 11:59 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I've already read Roosh's books and been browsing the forum.., any practical drills, advice would be greatly apprecciated

Did you really read Daybang?[Image: dodgy.gif] Roosh's daygame model encourages you to learn a few rambles in which you drop bait. You keep it going and going however unreal it feels until she asks you a personal question. From there you run galnuc.
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Quote: (04-02-2014 12:08 PM)RougeNoir Wrote:  

Quote: (03-27-2014 11:59 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I've already read Roosh's books and been browsing the forum.., any practical drills, advice would be greatly apprecciated

Did you really read Daybang?[Image: dodgy.gif] Roosh's daygame model encourages you to learn a few rambles in which you drop bait. You keep it going and going however unreal it feels until she asks you a personal question. From there you run galnuc.

Yea I've actually read it. I've run galnuc. Just wanted to reach out if there are any more tips or resources. I'm really bad at it, even after using Roosh's ideas and templates
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Quote: (04-02-2014 12:08 PM)RougeNoir Wrote:  

Quote: (03-27-2014 11:59 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I've already read Roosh's books and been browsing the forum.., any practical drills, advice would be greatly apprecciated

Did you really read Daybang?[Image: dodgy.gif] Roosh's daygame model encourages you to learn a few rambles in which you drop bait. You keep it going and going however unreal it feels until she asks you a personal question. From there you run galnuc.

Maybe, just maybe, he asked for additional drills?

Maybe, some people, like to learn as much, as possible?

[Image: idea.gif]

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Quote: (04-02-2014 02:00 PM)mental Wrote:  

Maybe, just maybe, he asked for additional drills?

Maybe, some people, like to learn as much, as possible?

[Image: idea.gif]

I did not want to come off condescending to the guy but if he had really used the material from Daybang, which has loads of information for this very issue, then I don't see why he would be struggling so bad.

Quote: (04-02-2014 01:43 PM)Blackliter Wrote:  

Yea I've actually read it. I've run galnuc. Just wanted to reach out if there are any more tips or resources. I'm really bad at it, even after using Roosh's ideas and templates

I've sucked at starting and maintaining conversations throughout my life, especially with women, but Roosh's model has given structure to what a conversation can ultimately be. If the day bang model is not working for you then you can check out what El Mechanico said on rambling. I'm just to trying to help you blackliter:

http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-19878-...#pid353648

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I'm not sure Jason about rambling but before I read this post I was on mugshots and saw my old book-keeper got busted for organized fraud. She stole some of my tax money and I got paid back. Can you believe the check was drawn off the salvation army? They must have something to do with her probation but anyway she looked like hell or like she's been cooking meth in her bedroom for the last 6 months..When I saw her get busted the first time I called the place she ripped off and told them she did the same shit to me..the girl that answers the phone there sounded cute so I left my number with her..I'm not sure if anything will come of it but why not? We talked again today and I sent her the link to the meth pics..Maybe I should run by the office sometime I don't know..I noticed her husband got busted a couple times for bad checks which I thought was odd because they seemed to have their shit together and were allways at the dragstrip pounding out good times..I guess drugs will do that ya know..The last time I was at her office her little sister was helping her she's an 8 all day long...She flooded the office a few years back and swamped all my paper work (I was happy) in case of an audit I have decent proof that my shit is gone..My younger cousin went to school with her I'm going to ask if he runs into her next time I see him..About him..he's a bit of a player but insists he needs to fuck strippers so he doesn't have that desperate look on his face at the bars..he says "they know" and you'll never get laid if you have "the look" sometimes I think there's some truth to that..I've noticed my hot-streaks are hot so maybe he's right..he 's owned busy nightclubs and pounded through shit tons of sluts..the last club had a promoter and got into a niche for black dudes up in a white redneck county the sheriff was threatening him all the time and they falsely arrested him for suspicion of something and he called it quits..he had two partners and they were a little geeky but club ownership put them in the big leagues puzzy-wize and both got married..I worked on one of the wives cars and she had a giant clock some porn and stripper heels in her trunk I think she was escorting for coke money or some shit..when she came in I had her trunk open and said the lock was messed up or something and made pretend not to notice all the hooker shit and her face was priceless we were dying that day..I think her older sister is could probably win some guiness book thing for most consecutive days or years working in a strip club..I was at a bachelor party when I was 18 and she was there I'm 43 now and that's the only place she's ever worked. I seen her the other day looking rough and was wondering how long this is going to last...What would she write on future job apps? 1986-2013 dancer at mons venus? haha..
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Quote: (04-02-2014 05:12 PM)RougeNoir Wrote:  

Quote: (04-02-2014 02:00 PM)mental Wrote:  

Maybe, just maybe, he asked for additional drills?

Maybe, some people, like to learn as much, as possible?

[Image: idea.gif]

I did not want to come off condescending to the guy but if he had really used the material from Daybang, which has loads of information for this very issue, then I don't see why he would be struggling so bad.

Quote: (04-02-2014 01:43 PM)Blackliter Wrote:  

Yea I've actually read it. I've run galnuc. Just wanted to reach out if there are any more tips or resources. I'm really bad at it, even after using Roosh's ideas and templates

I've sucked at starting and maintaining conversations throughout my life, especially with women, but Roosh's model has given structure to what a conversation can ultimately be. If the day bang model is not working for you then you can check out what El Mechanico said on rambling. I'm just to trying to help you blackliter:

http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-19878-...#pid353648

Quote:Quote:

I'm not sure Jason about rambling but before I read this post I was on mugshots and saw my old book-keeper got busted for organized fraud. She stole some of my tax money and I got paid back. Can you believe the check was drawn off the salvation army? They must have something to do with her probation but anyway she looked like hell or like she's been cooking meth in her bedroom for the last 6 months..When I saw her get busted the first time I called the place she ripped off and told them she did the same shit to me..the girl that answers the phone there sounded cute so I left my number with her..I'm not sure if anything will come of it but why not? We talked again today and I sent her the link to the meth pics..Maybe I should run by the office sometime I don't know..I noticed her husband got busted a couple times for bad checks which I thought was odd because they seemed to have their shit together and were allways at the dragstrip pounding out good times..I guess drugs will do that ya know..The last time I was at her office her little sister was helping her she's an 8 all day long...She flooded the office a few years back and swamped all my paper work (I was happy) in case of an audit I have decent proof that my shit is gone..My younger cousin went to school with her I'm going to ask if he runs into her next time I see him..About him..he's a bit of a player but insists he needs to fuck strippers so he doesn't have that desperate look on his face at the bars..he says "they know" and you'll never get laid if you have "the look" sometimes I think there's some truth to that..I've noticed my hot-streaks are hot so maybe he's right..he 's owned busy nightclubs and pounded through shit tons of sluts..the last club had a promoter and got into a niche for black dudes up in a white redneck county the sheriff was threatening him all the time and they falsely arrested him for suspicion of something and he called it quits..he had two partners and they were a little geeky but club ownership put them in the big leagues puzzy-wize and both got married..I worked on one of the wives cars and she had a giant clock some porn and stripper heels in her trunk I think she was escorting for coke money or some shit..when she came in I had her trunk open and said the lock was messed up or something and made pretend not to notice all the hooker shit and her face was priceless we were dying that day..I think her older sister is could probably win some guiness book thing for most consecutive days or years working in a strip club..I was at a bachelor party when I was 18 and she was there I'm 43 now and that's the only place she's ever worked. I seen her the other day looking rough and was wondering how long this is going to last...What would she write on future job apps? 1986-2013 dancer at mons venus? haha..

Nobody, not you, not me, knows what is "best" for him;

As you have clearly seen, how much improvement happened, this Way helped him a lot more...

However, I am glad, you gave advice in this post - Self-improvement, it is one of the most precious things in life;

If one Way does not help much, then, seek another one!

Learn, ask for advice, instead of remembering;
You will get very far...

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Quote: (03-27-2014 11:59 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

I've already read Roosh's books and been browsing the forum.., any practical drills, advice would be greatly apprecciated

The following drills may sound stupid, but have been useful to me. I chose/developed them based on the neurology of rambling, which is a long topic I'll go into some other time.

1) Get Rory's story cubes (http://www.storycubes.com/) from your local toy/games shop. These are cubes with random pictures on them, and you are supposed to string them into a story. Roll them once a day and come up with a story. I find this particularly useful to do before going out, especially if I've had a rather quiet day where I haven't talked to people - playing a round or two of storycubes seems to warm up the speech centres of my brain.

2) Get the major arcana of the tarot deck. You can buy a deck or be a cheapskate like me and download the images and then print them on cardboard paper. (I can upload the images as a pdf, if anyone wants). Then pretend that you're going to read someone's future (imagine a hot chick in front of you), and shuffle the deck, then draw 3 cards. The first card represents the past, the second the present, the third the future. Look up the meanings on http://www.tarotteachings.com/tarot-card-meanings-of-the-major-arcana.html. Now make up a fortune based on the meanings, and ramble on to the imaginary person all that will happen to them. (Once you get good at this and remember the meanings more or less, you will even be able to do actual tarot readings on real-life girls. The one time I did this I added a kino element - I put the cards in the girls hand and I put my hands around the cards and her hand to charge it with 'psychic' energy.)

Both these drills are hard to do at first - I certainly struggled at times to say anything - but they've definitely improved my rambling in general, it takes less effort for me to talk. Again, this relates to the neurological wiring of the brain's speech centres, being able to ramble about tarot or about random pictures on cubes gives some skill transfer to being able to ramble in general.

Hope this helps.
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Direct the conversation to anything you notice. You can be funny about it. Rambling is just talking shit consistently. I'm sure you do this with your friends.

Pick up on what she is saying.

For shits and giggles:

Quote:Quote:

Her: it's cold outside haha

There are so many things to be said.

cold? like that time I was in x and did z funny thing? or "feel my hands" i would touch her with my cold hands just to be annoying.

Quote:Quote:

Me: Yup, its definitely nippy, had to throw on the jacket.[quote]

boring, fact. she probably said this in response to noticing what you were wearing or temperature? it's a lead.

[quote]Me: So where were you before this

statements better than questions

Quote:Quote:

Her: Another leasing agency. at blah blah.
Me: where were you before leasing?

Boring, she is at work, the last thing she wants to do is talk about work.

Quote:Quote:

Her: Still leasing haha, yea all the time (smiles)


Rambling is to just talk bullshit and take over the conversation. Therefore take it in a positive direction and one you will both enjoy. If I am going to spend 5 minutes talking to her I sure as fuck don't wanna talk about her previous 'realtor' job and I don't care about her leasing arrangement or whatever it is.


I like Russell Brand, he is a fine example of rambling.
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Quote: (04-03-2014 12:31 AM)Thomas the Rhymer Wrote:  

Hope this helps.

Helps a ton, thanks. Getting both of them and will be doing drills all day.

Thanks Kikz, I'll prob watch a little of Russle Brand now. I get the idea though finally.
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Quote: (03-27-2014 11:59 AM)Blackliter Wrote:  

Hey, so I'm trying to just work on my conversational skills by talking to everyone. Unfortunately, after they initial 1 minute I go blank.

I definitely need some help/tips/drills advice regarding rambling just to keep it going. I was adept my whole life at making everything concise and cutting out superfluous talk. Now I have to do the opposite.

I met with this hot realtor agent and i couldn't continue other than
Her: it's cold outside haha
Me: Yup, its definitely nippy, had to throw on the jacket.
Me: So where were you before this
Her: Another leasing agency. at blah blah.
Me: where were you before leasing?
Her: Still leasing haha, yea all the time (smiles)

she was being nice cuz i was a client, but I still stood there for 3-5 minutes without being able to think of something. (waiting on another person)

I've already read Roosh's books and been browsing the forum.., any practical drills, advice would be greatly apprecciated

This thread has some good practical ideas

http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-32170.html

MDP
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