[jpga1983]

We've heard the advice from game experts (Mystery, Roosh, and countless others) and male self-improvement sites in general, that porn is bad news. It saps sex-drive and inhibits one's ability to go out into the world and approach, make money, work out, build things, fill in the blank.

No question that's true, but I also have a tough time squaring this with the argument that aloofness is what gets the girl. We know that women get approached exponentially more now thanks to OKC, tinder, etc. This of course has led to unprecedented levels of flaking from women as they can gain weight, put zero effort into their looks, act bitchy, and still get hit on hundreds of times by needy guys desperate for sex.

Doesn't this ever-worsening "death spiral" make porn a good thing? If having an aloof, outcome-independent attitude is the key element in generating attraction, then porn is most certainly a godsend. If I stop masturbating and watching pornography, which I have carried out for month-long streaks, I find myself becoming a lot more outcome-dependent. I will do whatever it takes to get sex and put up with far more flaking and BS from girls. This "chase anything to get pussy" mindset is definitely not the Don Draper attitude that most pickup artists advise us to adopt.

There is no question that abstaining from masturbation and porn will force me to do approaches, send out hundreds messages on OKCupid, spend money on dates, deal with flakes, and put in lots of effort that may lead to a couple bangs here and there. But what if I replaced that whole mindset with this three-step system:

1. Approach a few girls but have "the attitude" (be outcome-indifferent) with them.
2. Qualify them and hold them to your standards.
3. If they flake or fail to meet these standards (in our culture, with the endless choice they posses, the vast majority of them will flake as they have limitless needy guys knocking on the door), then no problem, their loss: walk away and go watch porn. This releases any sexual tension and creates/maintains the aloof attitude discussed in #1 above. Repeat.

Thoughts/comments welcome.

[mikado]

Suspicious first post...

[shanked]

Hahaha if you fail go home and watch porn. Wait were you being serious? Your post assumes majority of men approach girls ..which they dont.

[jpga1983]

(03-20-2014 09:34 AM)shanked Wrote:  

Hahaha if you fail go home and watch porn. Wait were you being serious? Your post assumes majority of men approach girls ..which they dont.

Not if I fail, if they fail. Read the post.

The last date I went on I noticed the girls' iPhone - within a 20-minute span she had received 12+ new OKCupid messages. Trust me, the vast majority of men of approaching girls in some form or fashion.

[NY Digital]

^^Yeah, ONLINE.

Approach them in real life.

You'll stand out amongst all the Online Losers.

[sox]

Being hornier has never made me more anxious or outcome-dependent, personally. If anything, it just adds an edge to my confidence.

[tawillionaire]

^^
Gonna go with this. I don't jerk off or have morning sex if I'm going to the gym later cause shooting my wad takes away my killer instinct. Same goes for approaching girls. I don't care enough about them to really pursue them if I just came.

[OkStudies]

Great post.

Porn makes you sexually self-sufficient. It's a game changer because you don't need a woman to get off. The second she thinks you need, her, she has the power.

Most guys have'nt realized this and think porn is for "losers", when if you look at it differently, it helps you to have a winning mindset. Shift your mindset to porn (i.e. masturbation) means I become outcome independent and I believe women will pick up on that.

[bacan]

Yeah, as I get a little older my sex drive is dropping. If I have a date or am going out within 24-48 hours I make a point to avoid porn so I have the horniness to not only push the interaction to the finish line (killer instinct, etc.) but also to perform even after drinking with a new girl I might not be super comfortable with.

[bacan]

(03-20-2014 10:48 AM)OkStudies Wrote:  

Shift your mindset to porn (i.e. masturbation) means I become outcome independent and I believe women will pick up on that.

Sorry but I can't help but smiling with the idea of a woman being turned on by the knowledge that you're so outcome independent that at any second you could drop her like a hot potato and go home and jerk it to redtube.

Porn doesn't help me. I remember one of the most awesome moments of pure raw sexual desire being translated into killer instinct / caveman game was when I was traveling in a hostel and had such bad blue balls that I finally had to literally pick this girl up in my arms, bring her out of the bar, put her in a taxi and go home and have some of the best sex of my life with her.

On the other hand, some of my most lazy depressing days are those that I just lay around in my room and watch porn.

[sox]

(03-20-2014 10:50 AM)bacan Wrote:  

Yeah, as I get a little older my sex drive is dropping. If I have a date or am going out within 24-48 hours I make a point to avoid porn so I have the horniness to not only push the interaction to the finish line (killer instinct, etc.) but also to perform even after drinking with a new girl I might not be super comfortable with.

I'll watch porn before I go out on a date if I think I need the boost.

[bacan]

(03-20-2014 11:19 AM)sox Wrote:  

I'll watch porn before I go out on a date if I think I need the boost.

Yeah that might work for me, as long as I didn't fap ha.

[Felix88]

Instead of that mindset I think it would be better if you can make her feel inferior to porn consciously or subconsciously.

[Nomad77]

Porn is like any drug e.g. alcohol. It all depends on how you use it and your own personality and sex drive. If you have a high drive it's quite possible you could watch porn and jack off three times and still go out and want to game women. In the end it's all about balance and just like drinking it all comes down to the individual and how they use it. If you are using porn as a substitute for real sex then that's not good. If you are using it relieve stress then it can be good. Going out all stressed out won't help you in any way. It's like any other drug, it all comes down to using it in moderation and knowing yourself and it's impact on you.

[ddjembe mutombo]

I don't watch porn (or masturbate) anymore because it provides a false filling to a void. If real relations with a woman is equivalent to a $50 steak then porn is equivalent to a McDouble. Sure, it fills a desire, but it leaves you feeling empty on the inside.

[Wahawahwah]

Your post makes me suspect you haven't approached much. It reads very much like a virgin describing a contrarian viewpoint about sex.
Keyboard jockey-ish.
Your post may sound good in theory, but it doesn't work that way.

A) porn desensitizes you to average beauty. You'll no longer get turned on by normal women, after seeing countless perfect fits and asses bouncing away to every one f your fantasies. And if you don't get turned on by someone, ull be less motivated to approach....it is easier to just rub one out and go back to sleep eh?

B) maybe its linked to testosterone, maybe its the whole psychoimmunosexual nexus or whatever, i cant say, but you'll find that you're much better off socially if you abstain from porn. Your spirits will rise, you'll be able to withstand a little more stress, and your social senses will become sharper.
Conversely, an addiction or even a mild excess of porn will usually lead to a corresponding loss of self esteem, motivation and social calibration.


The effects of abstaining from porn are very real, but will vary from person to person depending on their levels of addiction, core behaviors,surrounding environment etc.

[No Habit]

Outcome independence is achieved by the right mindset not through lowering of potencials like sex drive.

It reads like you are rationalizing to evade putting the work in to satisfy your ego and avoid confronting your fears.

[WestIndianArchie]

(03-21-2014 11:54 AM)Sharkie Wrote:  

Your post makes me suspect you haven't approached much. It reads very much like a virgin describing a contrarian viewpoint about sex.
Keyboard jockey-ish.
Your post may sound good in theory, but it doesn't work that way.

I didn't want to be the one to say it.

But male hamster on the loose.

WIA

[jessup25]

(03-21-2014 11:54 AM)Sharkie Wrote:  

Your post makes me suspect you haven't approached much. It reads very much like a virgin describing a contrarian viewpoint about sex.
Keyboard jockey-ish.
Your post may sound good in theory, but it doesn't work that way.

A) porn desensitizes you to average beauty. You'll no longer get turned on by normal women, after seeing countless perfect fits and asses bouncing away to every one f your fantasies. And if you don't get turned on by someone, ull be less motivated to approach....it is easier to just rub one out and go back to sleep eh?

B) maybe its linked to testosterone, maybe its the whole psychoimmunosexual nexus or whatever, i cant say, but you'll find that you're much better off socially if you abstain from porn. Your spirits will rise, you'll be able to withstand a little more stress, and your social senses will become sharper.
Conversely, an addiction or even a mild excess of porn will usually lead to a corresponding loss of self esteem, motivation and social calibration.


The effects of abstaining from porn are very real, but will vary from person to person depending on their levels of addiction, core behaviors,surrounding environment etc.

This guy's got it. Staring at the world's hottest women doing literally anything you can imagine kinda throws you out of reality. I'm still a noob, so abundance mentality is my thing, and it just seems turning yourself off to more chicks leads to less approaches, and it domino effects from there. As for confidence, if you jump right in and start chasing 8+, you WILL get shot down more, and that might not be best for maintaining the aloof game mentality.

[Travesty]

My life has never been better the more porn I watch.

I get more aggressive and my standards go up without because I can't trick my brain into thinking I am having 3somes with 8s by watching porn meanwhile being content with busting on a low 6 here and there.

I do have a contrarian porn view though.

There are only so many 7.5+s to go around, how many thousands have done 1 amateur porn hard or soft or at least erotic nudes playing with themselves? Add the number of escorts and strippers to this...

Many hot girls are whores in pure % I have no doubt.

I often think of shooting porn with amateur girls when I am older and be the old guy screws young girls niche, just POV voice hidden anonymous shot. Why not? If if it lose $ I hope I have enough I won't care.

Something hot about having sex with a new "amateur" on camera that may only shoot a handful and call it quits vs some full time escort...

Again I would do this when I am 50+.

[Pinocchio]

it's 11am here and i've already watched porn. in about 2 hours im going to hit the streets and do +10 direct daygame stops on the hottest girls i can find.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

Forget it!

There is enough scientific evidence to prove that excessive porn consumption/masturbation is too addictive and destructive for the male http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-does-wit...-look-like (nice site and plenty of studies).

Some PUAs also highly limit their porn consumption, some even avoid jerking off to it completely.

All who have abstained from porn and also from masturbation have found a tremendous increase in energy, more alertness and way more aggressiveness and desire to approach girls and get laid for real.

Now of course if you are unaware of Game and the woman is a great mystery to you, then you are fucked. But if you are aware of Game and know the theory then for heaven's sake go out and approach - sooner or later you will get laid more and more.

Living life beats living through other people's experiences via TV/Internet every time!!! Even if you get rejected at first a lot it beats every online/TV experience!

[CaptainCrazy]

I am not saying that porn is good. I kinda don't like it. Doesn't turn me on much as I am not a visual type.

However, I'd be very careful with the whole "scientific" yourbrainonporn.com stuff.

Do you research and find out who created it and for what purpose. I bet you, your sexual wellbeing wasn't on an agenda.

Just have a look at how they conveniently removed all references to a femibitch Marnia Robinson (a wife or a girlfriend of this mangina Garry Wilson) from the website.

They created quite a noise online though. Just do your research and think.

[Seth_Rose]

That's what most guys do.

Let them jerk off to a computer screen, and leave the real pussy for guys like us.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

(04-18-2014 08:50 PM)CaptainCrazy Wrote:  

I am not saying that porn is good. I kinda don't like it. Doesn't turn me on much as I am not a visual type.

However, I'd be very careful with the whole "scientific" yourbrainonporn.com stuff.

Do you research and find out who created it and for what purpose. I bet you, your sexual wellbeing wasn't on an agenda.

Just have a look at how they conveniently removed all references to a femibitch Marnia Robinson (a wife or a girlfriend of this mangina Garry Wilson) from the website.

They created quite a noise online though. Just do your research and think.

There are other sources as well. The destructive nature is certain. The same goes for video-games which lower the killing threshold for men - that's why the military always co-financed video-games.

Now - having said that - I enjoy both violent video games sometimes as well as porn. Keeping it in moderation is key - as with all vices - alcohol, unhealthy food etc. Just don't lie to yourself that doing it daily is good for you!

BTW - my favourite way of watching porn is while getting a blowjob. Nowadays girls can be convinced to do sooo much.