Quote: (02-19-2014 03:13 PM)Beyond Borders Wrote:
I opened the link anyways (against my better judgement).
Typical annoying shit.
I do agree with her about the nice guys though. I've yet to finish it, but read the book, "No More Mr. Nice Guy." Probably a good one for a lot of guys who are drawn the manosphere, and Glover makes a good argument for "nice guys" not being that nice at all.
Most are just manipulators who haven't learned healthy ways to get what they want.
Not necessarily true. Some people (men and women) take a while to warm to others. I was one of these types when I was young and still am to a degree.
For example, I might meet a woman and think I'd only want to be friends with her. Maybe I think she's nice-looking but too stiff. Or maybe I thought we had nothing in common, but it turned out we did. Or maybe we just didn't click at first but then we "got" each other. But after a few months, a bell would go off in my head and I'd think "Wait, she's really cool! Why don't I ask her out?"
Years ago, this used to be called "Getting to know someone and judging them on qualities other than looks."
Today, feminists have perverted it into the "nice guy" meme. And IMO, the reason for that is that feminists are immature women who never grew up and believe in "love at first sight" -- and now want to enforce that as the norm.
Conversely, I've had this done to me by women. I can't tell you the number of times I'd know a woman for months and she had no interest in me. But eventually something would click and she'd say something like "When I met you I thought you were weird and rude, but I finally got your humor!" Cue up make-out session.
This, by the way, is how real relationships used to be forged pre-hook-up culture. You'd take the time to weigh their good and bad qualities, then decide if you were a couple. And it's why couples I went to high school and college with stayed together: they weren't dating an image of a person -- they were dating someone they actually took time to get to know.
If anything has contributed to the total breakdown of relationships, it's the idea that you need to instantaneously need to know if you want to date someone. Life is never that simple.
But feminists are.