[orko]

Hi guys

i feel like shit after what happened to me yesterday.
Long story short:

Yesterday a girl that i'm dating told me that she was going we a group of friends to a disco pub at midnight and that she would like me to go there too. I told her that it would be fine but that i would be arriving a little late, like 30 minutes - 1 hour later.
I arrived after 1 hour to the place(1am) and i called her. ( she and her friends were already inside). She went out the disco to meet me and we kissed. As we were going to enter the disco, the bouncer told us that i was not allowed to enter, "only women allowed". That they were "going to allow more people to enter in 30 minutes". She said well lets wait outside. We walked to a private place a few steps from the disco and started making out and after 45 minutes or so we returned and there were more people in line. The bouncers didnt allow me to enter the disco again. I told her that i was not going to wait here forever, that we should go somewhere else. She agreed and we started walking down the street to grab a taxi. Then murphy's law came into effect: NO TAXI AVAILABLE IN THE WHOLE F*cking city. No buses either. We waited for a taxi like 30-40 minutes, called every single taxi company to no avail.
The weather was not bad,(summer) and i thought of just walking to her place(25 blocks from where we were) but she was wearing high heels, so bad idea. In the end the worst: She told me "i'm going to return to the disco with my friends". I said "ok i will go back with you to the disco so you can return safe". We returned, kissed goodbye, she entered the disco and i had to return walking to my place feeling like the biggest loser of all time..

Comments? what's your opinion on her behaviour? should she have stayed with me no matter what happened? was it ok that i allowed her to return to the disco with her friends without telling her to stay with me no matter what?
What would you have done different?

Thanks

[WanderingSoul]

That's the worst night you've ever had?

Bro, you better pull up them britches, because life is going to throw a whole fuck load of way worse nights at you than that.

[orko]

(02-16-2014 09:06 AM)RioNomad Wrote:  

That's the worst night you've ever had?

Bro, you better pull up them britches, because life is going to throw a whole fuck load of way worse nights at you than that.

Hi rionomad

I agree that the title is too dramatic. Still i would like to know how you guys would have handled what happened to me last night...

thanks

[RXB]

Hey man,

While that does sound like it sucked I think things could have been worse. The whole time I was waiting for you to say something like she'd been hooking up with another dude or you got robbed on the way home.

From what it sounded like the girl was still into you and the only really bad part was the fact that you had to walk home.

Next time arrange a ride ahead of time or have an alternative option in case you can't get in.

[shotgun]

No taxis available in the whole city? Did you try those smartphone apps like EasyTaxi or 99taxis?

For me it sounds like you didn't have your logistics in place.

[WanderingSoul]

Sounds like you were just shit out of luck that night. If she is just a girl you're dating, and not your actual girlfriend, you can't blame her too much for going back with her friends. Sounds like she waited with you for over an hour and tried to do everything she could do go with you, short of standing on the curb all night.

You said you walked back to your place. Why couldn't she go back with you? Was it closer than walking the 25 blocks to her place?

Honestly, it sounds like just a shitty set of circumstances. A lot of girls wouldn't have wasted a large part of their night standing around outside with you like that, so I wouldn't give her too much shit for it.

[RenewalMan]

Sounds salvagable.. She probably still wants you, but apparently logistics and luck were not on your side.
This doesn't sound like "the worst night ever." I've had many nights that were far worse. As someone previously said, I was waiting the whole time for you to catch her leaving with some other dude or something.

[orko]

(02-16-2014 09:13 AM)RioNomad Wrote:  

Sounds like you were just shit out of luck that night. If she is just a girl you're dating, and not your actual girlfriend, you can't blame her too much for going back with her friends. Sounds like she waited with you for over an hour and tried to do everything she could do go with you, short of standing on the curb all night.

You said you walked back to your place. Why couldn't she go back with you? Was it closer than walking the 25 blocks to her place?

Honestly, it sounds like just a shitty set of circumstances. A lot of girls wouldn't have wasted a large part of their night standing around outside with you like that, so I wouldn't give her too much shit for it.

My place was like 30 blocks from the disco. I didnt tell her to walk all the way to my place or hers because a) we were really in a bad mood with all the circumstances going around and b) she was wearing high heels....

I do think that i was not prepare in terms of logistics.... that could have made a difference...
ALWAYS HAVE A BACKUP PLAN BROS....

[orko]

(02-16-2014 09:12 AM)shotgun Wrote:  

No taxis available in the whole city? Did you try those smartphone apps like EasyTaxi or 99taxis?

For me it sounds like you didn't have your logistics in place.

Indeed, i failed in logistics 101...
Still, this is a small city in a 3rd world country. Heck even in Paris you can have trouble with lack of taxis ( Although you have other options there like metro and better transportation infrastructure...)

[Masdinero]

How did you get home? How did she get home? Give the bouncer some money to let you in.

[TheDealCloser]

Yo. Sounds like you have already hit the pussy that's why she waited so long. You are already in there so don't worry about it. Shit happens. I was also waiting for you to say the chick was making out with another dude something. You will live my e-friend.

[orko]

(02-16-2014 10:18 AM)Masdinero Wrote:  

How did you get home? How did she get home? Give the bouncer some money to let you in.

I went back to my home walking... i guess she went back to her home later with her friends..

[soup]

This belongs in the newbie forum.

You should read as much as you can there and then you will find several adjustments you can make that will make nights like that have a very low chance of occurring again.

In general, you need to be calling the shots and not having shit "happen to you".

You are the one that needs to be happening to the world. The world is one giant pussy waiting to be fucked.

Player rules 101:

Don't let her make the plans. Girls need to be led, and will disqualify you and possibly resent you putting them in the leader position.

Don't go hanging out with her and her friends. Girls are social and will chose the group over you if haven't built enough attraction to tear her away from the groups gravitational field.

If you were cool with door guy ahead of time, he would have let you in. Either get friendly and grease up the staff at your venues or get into promoting or djing or something that will give you power in the clubs.

Also, if you have a lot of shit going on- other ways to meet girls, other girls numbers you can text etc., one rejection will mean a lot less to you. Go fuck ten girls and you will see how insignificant one instance of failure like this is.

If you really want to get good at this you probably need to pump up the amount of interactions you are having with girls. A lot of this a numbers game. To give you a sense of what I'm saying, I do a lot of online game and have over 150 girls numbers in my phone at any given time. A very small percentage of those translates into bangs, but it's better to have a small piece of a huge pie than a big piece of a small one.

[el mechanico]

Or maybe left in a car.

[Icarus]

I wish my "worst nights ever" had been like that!!

Mine usually involved waking up hungover and wondering:

"Whose house is this?"

"Who the fuck is this chick?"

"Why do I have blood on my face? Did I faceplant myself last night?"

"Do I have all my teeth? Better count them..."

[eradicator]

(02-16-2014 09:00 AM)orko Wrote:  

Comments? what's your opinion on her behaviour? should she have stayed with me no matter what happened? was it ok that i allowed her to return to the disco with her friends without telling her to stay with me no matter what?
What would you have done different?

Thanks

This doesn't sound like the worst night ever.

As for the woman's behavior, if she had any sort of girl game at all, she should have said something along these lines to the bouncer, "hey, he is with me, let him in with me and my friends". And then you would be in. That said, people who work at a club are generally paid to be assholes(not all of them are assholes, and mostly they are just doing their job)

Granted, I generally hate night game at this point in my life, but yeah, this is how it should have gone down.

As for what should you have done differently, I guess you should have told your woman 'talk to the bouncer, tell him to let me in". That was the only real problem I had with how you handled this.

[orko]

(02-16-2014 11:24 AM)eradicator Wrote:  

(02-16-2014 09:00 AM)orko Wrote:  

Comments? what's your opinion on her behaviour? should she have stayed with me no matter what happened? was it ok that i allowed her to return to the disco with her friends without telling her to stay with me no matter what?
What would you have done different?

Thanks

This doesn't sound like the worst night ever.

As for the woman's behavior, if she had any sort of girl game at all, she should have said something along these lines to the bouncer, "hey, he is with me, let him in with me and my friends". And then you would be in. That said, people who work at a club are generally paid to be assholes(not all of them are assholes, and mostly they are just doing their job)

Granted, I generally hate night game at this point in my life, but yeah, this is how it should have gone down.

As for what should you have done differently, I guess you should have told your woman 'talk to the bouncer, tell him to let me in". That was the only real problem I had with how you handled this.

Well, i forgot to say it but she insisted several times to the bouncer that i was with her and her friends but it didnt work...

Now i have a question, what should i do now? radio silence? should i wait for her to initiate contact with me again?? should i instead contact her?

[soup]

(02-16-2014 11:39 AM)orko Wrote:  

(02-16-2014 11:24 AM)eradicator Wrote:  

(02-16-2014 09:00 AM)orko Wrote:  

Comments? what's your opinion on her behaviour? should she have stayed with me no matter what happened? was it ok that i allowed her to return to the disco with her friends without telling her to stay with me no matter what?
What would you have done different?

Thanks

This doesn't sound like the worst night ever.

As for the woman's behavior, if she had any sort of girl game at all, she should have said something along these lines to the bouncer, "hey, he is with me, let him in with me and my friends". And then you would be in. That said, people who work at a club are generally paid to be assholes(not all of them are assholes, and mostly they are just doing their job)

Granted, I generally hate night game at this point in my life, but yeah, this is how it should have gone down.

As for what should you have done differently, I guess you should have told your woman 'talk to the bouncer, tell him to let me in". That was the only real problem I had with how you handled this.

Well, i forgot to say it but she insisted several times to the bouncer that i was with her and her friends but it didnt work...

Now i have a question, what should i do now? radio silence? should i wait for her to initiate contact with me again?? should i instead contact her?

Her her her...

It's got to be about you you you.

What about the other three girls you are talking to?

[eradicator]

(02-16-2014 11:39 AM)orko Wrote:  

Well, i forgot to say it but she insisted several times to the bouncer that i was with her and her friends but it didnt work...

Now i have a question, what should i do now? radio silence? should i wait for her to initiate contact with me again?? should i instead contact her?

then you could have tried to bribe him. Again, part of why I hate night game is the bullshit you get from staff.

And yeah, do like soup says and try gaming other women in the meantime. (day game, night game, online game, whatever). I am not saying you should cut her off, but you seem to be getting emotional over this when the reality is that you just roll with the punches.

[Manwhore]

I probably would have caused a slight ruckus with the bouncer, make him feel a bit of my discomfort over the situation, your girl gets to see you a bit pissed and "handling" the situation. Then either you take her somewhere else or home. You can't let yourself be the only one experience the "bad" situation. Got to distribute the wealth. It is called "delegation" and it's an alpha quality

[LaserBear]

Orko, laugh at these nights and carry on. Last weekend I got in an argument with a girl who I'd went back to her dorm with (big mistake, never should have left my venue for hers, gave up control) and ended up telling her to fuck herself, putting on my clothes, and then having to run a mile and half back to my house in 2 degree Fahrenheit weather in a tank top and shorts (we'd left a party at my house).

I got home on the verge of tears from laughing at the situation so hard. Getting honked at. Etc.

Take your failures, learn, and laugh. Women will never make sense. Just roll with the punches and smile.

Also, she's clearly crazy interested and you just earned points in her book by a)leaving and b)not caring if she was out without you.

That carefree approach will serve you well.

Should have invited her back to your place for drinks and dancing 'We'll have our own party". She was clearly interested.

Next time.