Quote: (12-26-2013 08:48 PM)TheFunto Wrote:
My friend last week had one of the best frame control reactions I've seen... this french girl was zeroing on him for a bit while being massacred by this needy guy approaching her. She slowly maneuvered closer to us and out of the blue took his cigarette from his mouth and started smoking it.
He just slowly reached out for his pocket, picked a new one and lit it up. I was in awe.
He fucked her that night.
If it gets you laid at minimum cost, it gets you laid. That is the bottomline.
maybe your move is "alpha" or "beta" is irrelevant as long as you (a)get the bang and (b) did not suffer indignities for it.
I would have handled the situation with a tease/flirtation/kino. I WILL NOT go with " you didnt have my permission to smoke this cig". No, that wouldnt be my move.
My move would have been a tease/flirtation/kino.
something like this:
My first reaction is no reaction at all. Just a blank expression. (When the unexpected happen, i tends to just pause for a second, access the situation in lightening quick mental calculation, and devise a course of action. that is my default mode.)
Then, i will look at her with a smug smile.... letting her take a drag of the cig.....
I will then take the same cig from her hand before she can hand it to me,.... and say gently "you REALLY want to taste my lips that badly, dont you?" with a smug, cocky, teasing smile...
Right before i take a drag from the same cig... i will pause..., take a look at the cig, then... at her, and ask with a smile " before i taste your saliva, you dont have anything i should be worry about, do you?" (you have to neg that bitch.)
**I have used a variations of that line with girls i am sharing a drink with many times. I always get qualifications from them. I dont see why i should not use this with a girl that is confident enough to walk over to me and take a cig from my mouth w/o permission.**
I will then take a drag from the cig, before handing over the cig to her for another drag... at the last moment, i will pull my hand away, .... i will step closer to her, then, manually put the cig in her mouth with my hand still holding the cig.....
My other hand, will be on her lower backside...(i have initiated kino/breached her personal space). She came over and take a cig from me w/o permission... she had it coming......
I will let her take a drag from the cig, with the cig inbetween my fingers.....
as she is taking another drag from my cig... i will say " i want to see how well you can suck on this stick... i am judging your oral skills...."
I have started sexualizing the conversation.... it is on.... i will tease/joke with her some more, calling her nicknames "the cigarrette bandit" or something to that effect. ... it is on... i will just keep going verbally, while we share the cig back and forth... sexualizing the conversation more and more. and of course, more kino.
This is my style. My brain always find ways to sexualize the conversation and quickly find excuses to start kino escalation. An example is what happened when i went to the hospital to
see somebody(do you have a game mode?.)
I know that sometimes, my forwardness/direct game will push girls off, i dont care. To me, it screens girls that her DTF. Besides, she is the one that came over to me and take the cig from my lips and suck on it without my permission... It is open season on her arse. She open herself to all sorts of sexual harassment that will surely follows from me. What i wont do, is lecture her like she is a petulant child with " you didnt have my permission to smoke this cig."
Anyways, this will be the rough guidelines of how i would have handled the situation. I would follow the same rough approach is she were to come over and take my drink from my side and take a sip without my permission: My reaction would have been: tease/flirt/kino.
Anyways, this is how i would i played it. Since your friend got the bang. thumbs up from me. Otherwise, it will be one of those
"Was this beta?" nonsense.
Some people are too wrapped up in "alpha vs beta" dichotomy.
regards,
Nemencine