You make some valid and good points...but you also make some retarded ones.
I've been in China for 5 years and agree that some things suck, and some things are great, the great out weigh the suckiness, otherwise i wouldn't still be here.
firstly, badwolf:
Are you this guy?
http://asiandatingmonthly.com/5-things-t...ese-girls/
at the bottom there is a guy who posted some pretty negative stuff about China...sounds kinda the same as you (I wrote the original article)
Secondly,
I'd like to talk about what you wrote, as i feel you're giving a kinda skewed perception of China.
Quote: (12-05-2013 08:14 PM)BadWolf Wrote:
Having lived in alot of the major cities here and every one that you've mentioned so far I will tell you this. Your first year its nearly impossible to find a job in the south without some experience. So if you are smart you'll go up to XINJIANG - Urumqi, for your first stint. Join EF or Pattison or some bullsh1t up there. Corporate schools usually suck ass but you'll get your experience that you need teaching kids, it is very very important that you learn to teach children, discipline and control them. You will be judged on your ability to control a classroom and get respect from them. Watch as many 'Dog Trainer/Whisperer' type shows as you can find on TV because its the exact same thing when you are teaching kids. A good role model would Seargent Hartman from Full Metal Jacket, I'm NOT kidding.
1. I started in Shanghai, teaching at an after school/weekend English training program for kids at 10k a month, 5 years before.
Its still possible to do this and not necessary to stay in some back water out of the way place (although I think for food Urumqi would be unfuckingbelievable!).
Teaching kids - yeah, its dancing monkey time, not actually about education.
What you've said here is really good.....except the full metal jacket part.....
With kids - have fun with them, reward them for good behavior and let them clearly know the rules, over and over again, and you will be fine.
Kids need constant reminding of the rules, as they are very simple minded.
Quote: (12-05-2013 08:14 PM)BadWolf Wrote:
Don't get roped into this bs about how the kids are cute and the people are friendly 'and want to learn english', thats pure BS. The kids are little bastards and will try and make your life a living hell if you don't know how to deal with them. The adults will do their best to stab you in the back after the initial 'honeymoon' period is over. You must realize that you are an entertainer, this is not 'true' teaching, if there even is such a thing. If you become boring to the students, you will be replaced, period. Game can only take you so far when teaching adults and you will be endlessly cockblocked by manginas and white knights, for some reason, whom are all attracted to teaching and think its some sort of prestigious career choice. You will rarely make friends unless you are very PC or gay friendly, there are alot of feminists here as their degrees are useless for pretty much everything else. There are three types of Western women in China.
The majority of kids you will meet will be ok, there will be a certain bunch who behave like wild animals and will do things that will disgust you beyond belief, smaller cities are the worst.....bigger cities the kids are more civilised...
About teaching, you're pretty on point.
The feminists....? I see soooo many hot Chinese girls...that I barely talk to Western women....there simply is no need and they mostly don't compare well with the Asian girls or the European girls I meet, Shanghai has a lot of really really good Ukrainians, Polish girls, Russians, Khazakstanians and Romanians.
Quote: (12-05-2013 08:14 PM)BadWolf Wrote:
1. Prostitutes
2. Fat, Frigid, Fugly ass Feminists
3. Students, who are usually fat and fugly or become so after a yearlong stint without male contact.
Again......
The 'ugly' Western girls here are pretty desperate as no one likes them, cause of the large amount of available Chinese girls.
But why would you even bother talking to them or having anything to do with them anyway?
As i previously said, there are a lot of hot 'white girls' from various places, pretty easy to find and accessible in Shanghai/Beijing.
Chinese food, pretty much all over China is the same, it sucks, its disgusting and there is very little redeemable about it. The Chinese food restaurants in North America don't serve this slop k? Most of that food is VIETNAMESE... whomever told you that American food is Catonese food is a liar. I went to Guangzhou thinking the exact same thing and when I dug into a Cantonese buffet I was quickly brought up to speed. Mostly everything here is made exclusively out of salt... its like munching on blocks of salt. I use to love eating American Chinese food... I would go to a buffet every week, sometimes twice or three times. I HATE Chinese food in China with a passion, its oily, salty, at times slimey, and almost always DISGUSTING. The taste varies from gross to inedible, I think I can count on one hand the number of dishes I can eat after visiting 10 or so provinces. They use something here called GUTTER OIL to cook it with, google that.
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Ok....this is where you start talking some retarrrrrdddddded shit.
Chinese food back in Western countries is fatty salty shit, it sucks.
Chinese food in China can be REALLY REALLY GOOD or REALLY REALLY BAD.
It has taken me a while to find some good restaurants as Shanghai/the people here are focused on making as much cash as possible and don't give a fk about if they are producing quality stuff or not, this does change if you start spending 10 to 20 $ per dish.
There is a 'Hong Kongese' restaurant called 'Gang Li/Charm' and it has pretty awesome food, dinner for two there sets me back about 45 AUD.
My next favourite is Sichuan food or Yunnan food, a decent restaurant selling this, dinner for two....$35 dollars - super super super good food, super worth it.
Gutter oil is used for cooking street food or the disgusting cheap as shit gross restaurants, which should be avoided anyway, in whichever country you are in.
Really Cheap food in China, that's good?
Enter the world of 兰州拉面 - it's 'lan zhou la mian'
It's a muslim part of China that makes pretty decent cheap food, you only spend 2 dollars to buy a bowl of noodles and it's good shit!
It is not the best food in China, but if you wanna go on the cheap it's great.
another option is 'ma la tang' 麻辣烫
Which is a spicy soup where they chuck in all different means and veggies and they boil em and then you eat it, again you can put in noodles....in winter i eat it with lots of different veggies (the meat is a little dodgy...) and eggs - cheap and tastes great.
I will agree that a big part of Chinese food is oil.....a lot of food can be quite oily, but you can always find particular things that arent (the la mian i mentioned, xin jiang food isn't too oily and its so good).
Quote: (12-05-2013 08:14 PM)BadWolf Wrote:
NOW, Xinjiang is an entirely different animal. The food up there is NOT Chinese food but it IS fantastic. Everything I ate up there was good, I never went hungry, not even once. Why? That's where all the muslim Chinese hail from and their cooking is out of sight! The pay is fairly low but its more than enough to live on and the women are really decent people. The Chinese also don't have as many bad habits up that way as they recently had a big fight. (I can't go into details or I'll get a knock on my door).
In a 2nd tier city, don't accept anything less than 10,000 with the exception of Urumqi or the outlying cities and provinces (dalian, hainan, lanzhou). A first tier city you should be looking at 13,000 for the bare minimum. A 3rd tier city will probably pay around 8 to 9000 per month. Try not to get a school provided apartment as it will be sh1t and they will use it against you later on. Have them hook up an independent apartment where you deal with your own rent/utilities, that way if you change schools, they can't yank it out from under you... and yes they will. You will hear alot of horror stories from China, most if not all are true. The 'unseen' culture here is incredible and very frightening. Chinese have a strange habit of stabbing people in the back, its generally why no foreigner has many Chinese friends, and you should really question the ones that do. Chinese also LOVE to play political games in an office and will have people spying on you and reporting back from DAY 1. Having been here several years and worked at plenty of schools, I can tell you, it goes on almost everywhere. When Chinese need you, they will lavish you with attention and be seemingly greatful for everything, when they have a choice, they will be extremely harsh and non-commital. You will meet alot of guys here you initially think are nuts or 'jaded' until you understand what Chinese and China really is. I'll give you an example, I tried to leave a school once when my contract was completed, they said they liked me and I was a good teacher and that if I tried to leave they would sue me and throw me out of China. Then they showed me the contract where they had signed my name for me and said that they already sent it into the government. So you think I should go to the government and complain right? Wrong, imagine Mexico x 10. (Can't say anything bad or someone will knock at my door)
I totally believe you about the Xinjiang food - everything i've ever eaten in Xinjiang restaurants has been fucking awesome.
I wouldn't live in a Tier two or three city - there is almost nothing decently Western and that will destroy your mind for the first year.
Better off living in Shanghai or Shenzhen as you can experience both Western life and Chinese life.
Agreed - do not let your school manage apartments or anything, just get on craigslist and find someone who is renting one room for 2000k a month, live there.
You do not want Chinese schools controlling you - very bad idea.
Asia isn't a place that values directness and honesty, it's a place that values power, success and cunning, so don't expect people to 'do the right thing' because 'doing the right thing' in the West and 'doing the right thing' in China are totally different.
For example, if your gf in the West cheated...her telling u about it (owning up to it and being honest) is kinda admirable and better than just continuing to lie, its an effort to be honest with you.
your gf in China would never tell you, as it would make both of you lose face and would damage her social standing....in her mind it would be better to let you and her maintain face and just forget about it.
The spying thing is also totally true - I think i experienced that in every single school i worked in.
Quote: (12-05-2013 08:14 PM)BadWolf Wrote:
Chinese don't like it when a foreigner speaks fluent Chinese, be very aware of this. They like it when you can speak like a baby but they detest anyone that truly understands their language.
Why am I here? I'm married to one. I spend my days inside my home or over at a friends house and very rarely do any of us venture outside. There are quite a few horrible things that you don't know about in China. Lookup http://www.chinasmack.com
I'm not sure if you are familiar with this but the Chinese are EXTREMELY rude people and they are either too stupid or too ignorant to acknowledge it.
Their culture works something like this: Someone does something terribly rude to someone else but no one will call them out on it. If you step in and say something then you lose face and the rude person loses face. So now you have a culture of extremely rude people all walking around and doing whatever they like because the polite people allow them to do so. If you try and point this out, you will be publicly ostracized by the group and people will deny even seeing you. How does this factor into your stay in China? Well when someone either blatantly lies to you, steps in front of you in a line up, p1sses or sh1ts openly on a street corner (usually into a garbage bin) or blows their nose into your soup or on your shoes (northern provinces), you are not allowed to say anything. If you are trying to enter a cab and someone runs and jumps in the other side, you are not allowed to say "Hey WTF? I got here first". So pretty much, unless you are a rude, arrogant, prick, this will drive you up the wall.
If I could do it over again, I would never have left Korea. I highly recommend you go there or Japan FIRST. If you are still interested after reading this then PM me because my wife is also a recruiter and we can help you line up a job. ![[Image: biggrin.gif]](https://rooshvforum.network/images/smilies/biggrin.gif)
There is a reason that people from HK and Taiwan don't like the mainlanders.
Oh and welcome to the club : http://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XMTQ1NDYwODA=.html
你会讲流利的中文吗?
Also W T F did you marry a Chinese girl for? you seem to hate China....that just seems like the most retarded life choice ever....
Also there are lots of great things about China, seriously lots of super great things....so it's kinda shitty you're pushing such a negative thing onto this guy....
The way their culture works:
Yeah what you said about how they don't like confrontation and try to save face is true....putting up with bullshit though? I don't do it.
If i see people smoking inside shopping centres or inside schools or doing something I don't like, I tell them to stop it.
I do agree on Going to Japan or Korea first....but keep in mind if you do that, you won't like China afterwards....as Japan and Korea are kinda easier for Foreigners to get along in.
Also to the guy who started this thread...you'd be nuts to look him up for a job.
Badwolf - why did you marry the Chinese girl?