[Bukowsky]

Text message exchange - I want to bang this girl, and I know she was hot for me previously, but the attraction might/might not have died down.

Important info: her bday is two days after mine. I'm trying to do some kind of birthday game here.

On my bday, she contacted me:

SheDevilFromHell: Hey Bukowsky. Happy birthday!! I hope you have a wonderful day in the company of people you love! I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors. Many thoughts, SheDevilFromHell

Of course, I was like "woooot??? Girl, you ain't getting off so easy!"

So after mulling it over for an hour or so, i sent her this:

Me: You have to come over to give me my present


15 minutes later:
SheDevilFromHell: What do you wish for?

1½ hour later
Me: I'm sure you'll think of something. Bring it over at 9.

15 minutes later
SheDevilFromHell: Have to work at 5. You'll just have to get your present some other day! Que tengas una buena noche, guapeton.

I was pretty sure she had to work, but I was irritated at myself for not foreseeing that possibility, and instead getting myself into a corner where she couldn't comply, and offered no alternative.

4½ hours later
Me: Ok. You can give it to me when I give you yours.

No response, which I didn't expect.

Now I can contact her tomorrow, on her day - but do any of you guys have any ideas/tips for me to seal this deal?

I've gotten her to commit to a gift, but I don't know how flakey she is - I don't think very much. But I want to kick-start the right dynamic that gets her chasing me!

So... any and all help would be awesome!

[Bukowsky]

I understand these kinds of questions are common - but since I sorta HAVE to wish the girl happy birthday tomorrow, I'd like some ideas. I reckon she's a "smooth" game kinda girl, rather than caveman style.

My initial idea:

"Happy birthday on your 25th. Drop by for your present Sunday afternoon"

or

"Happy birthday on your 25th. Let me know when you can come over for your present."

[MiXX]

sounds like a Colombian girl or Central American by her use of the word "guapeton". You will have to get out the text game, and go to her...latinas are tough to get to your house if you are not physically in her face smooching and kissing her building sexual tension, and no, text messages DO NOT build sexual tension. Touching, smelling, eye contact..all must be present for her to want to go to your place and give you your so called birthday present. A mere cocky, come and get it is not going to work unless you have already fucked her once before, and she knows what she is getting for sure.

So, stop texting, and start calling..make it short and sweet...and say "meet me here", then take it form there b building attraction, and go for a kiss at which point you offer to go back for the real prize.

Mixx

[Bukowsky]

Thanks.

I gave her a ring, but got voicemail, left a message, where I kept my voice quite calm, but I fucked up the message itself somewhat.

It wasn't dire, but it was pretty stupid. I guess I should just sit tight now?

[FretDancer]

(11-18-2010 06:50 PM)Bukowsky Wrote:  

Thanks.

I gave her a ring, but got voicemail, left a message, where I kept my voice quite calm, but I fucked up the message itself somewhat.

It wasn't dire, but it was pretty stupid. I guess I should just sit tight now?

Screw ups happen. If you think you've screwed to a point where its useless to keep going then just move on, look for more girls. If you know the situation can change to your favor then play it smoothly

[Bukowsky]

Thanks for the feedback.Well, it turned out with a medium result:

"Dear sweet Bukowsky. Thanks for your message - it was wonderful to wake up to. Bla bla bla bla i hope to see you soon. Hugs SheDevilFromHell."

So, as I was telling another member in here, this is good and bad. Good in the friendliness, bad in that this is horrible LJBF'ing. Sweet bukowsky... ugh.

To reinsert alpha-ness into this depressingly asexual convo, I had an idea for a response:

"Your welcome. Naturally, now I expect an even more amazing present than before after all that effort."

or

"Your welcome. It was late, and my brain was a mess. Couldn't stop thinking of you in your panties. Look forward to exchanging gifts."

Downside to number 2 is it is perhaps too encouraging when I really want to put this girl in her place and get her to beg. On the other hand, I'm going to Central America soon, and might never see her again, so I guess it doesn't mattter?

[MiXX]

I think you are giving her TOO much attention, and she will smell your neediness to want to fuck her. Don't call her for 1 week, ignore her text messages for a few days. Give her a sense that you have lost interest in her...then lay it thick again in 1 week, but this time...IN PERSON, and plan your logistics so that you end up back at your pad.

Seriously, if you had 3 other girls you could fuck at this very moment as fine (or better) as her, would you really be behaving this way?

In the meantime, do not spend that week thinking about her and your comeback...go pick up 3 more women in the week she does not hear from you.


Mixx

[Bukowsky]

I never sent a text. I gave her a ring late today to respond to her earlier text, but no answer, so I didn't leave a msg. She can see it was I who called.

Will let it lie for a few days/weeks/months/years.

[FretDancer]

Hey you said you are coming to Central America, what country in Central America are you visiting? I live in Honduras, if by any chance you're coming to Honduras let me know

[Bukowsky]

(11-20-2010 01:00 PM)FretDancer Wrote:  

Hey you said you are coming to Central America, what country in Central America are you visiting? I live in Honduras, if by any chance you're coming to Honduras let me know

Damn straight. I'm hitting Nicaragua Jan 14 - gonna check out the Corn Islands and Ometepe first week, then head north. I have no plans besides that. All I have to do is be at the airport in Guatemala March 16 for the trip home (with a weekend in NYC for St. Patty's).

Update:

She tried to call me that night, around 1230AM. I didn't pick up but sent her a text asking what's up, followed by another asking how the bday was.

She replied, great great and great, and asked what I was doing that night.

I was like awesome, she's IOI'ing me. So I told her I was going out but didn't say where or ask any questions in return. That was about 1AM. She didn't reply, but wrote me the next day around 5PM.

"Hey Bukowsky. I fell asleep yesterday before I got your reply! Chris and I are having a party tonight (her birthday) at bar X - you're welcome to drop by:-) just don't bring the vodka bottle this time, hehe. See you! Hug"

My response:

"Nice. I'm having my birthday with the gang tonight, too. Just not 80 of them. So we might just crash the celebration. Any particular theme?"

Her bday parties are usually pretty big, so that was a minor joke about that. I wasn't really in the mood to go in there alone. I want to get into a one-on-one situation with her - but I figured it didn't hurt to get her expectations a little up.

"The theme is adventure. Have fun."

Of course, I didn't show. I didn't plan to go, but the last text was a bit brusque for my taste from a girl who I expect to want me.

If she was indifferent, no harm done, if she wanted me to come, I've given her more gina tingles by not showing. Of course, I'm almost certain another dude she's been seeing was there too, so maybe she just wanted me there as a second option. Or as her first, and him as second. Or maybe she's just being friendly.

I am going to let this lie for today, then either tonight or tomorrow I'll tell her to come get her present.

Ps. I do have other options, but I'm just not THAT interested in them. Well, in the one - I'm supposed to meet up with her later today, but I'm afraid I'm too busy.