[Dkby]

I went to this club on Monday.
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[eradicator]

text her to meet up this weekend. bring her home for more drinks and run tuthmosis' first date bang recipe.

[Dkby]

Unfortunately, she isn't available during weekends (out of town).

[PompeyChris]

You mentioned that you kissed a lot and maybe this was a problem?

I sometimes feel you need to hold back on this so they can get that endorphin rush when you really up the kissing in a bed/sofa whatever.

You can show sexual intent through a kiss every now and then and a lot of contact.

Thats my view, I wonder what the more experienced guys think on that?

Aside from that, she may have been burnt in the past and have some issues to get over. Just meet her again and show intent. She might hint at a reason why this time. But you need to make the judgement call on whether she will put out soon or not.

Don't waste your time.

[aphelion]

Sounds like she's either cheating on a boyfriend or has some personal issues (like just got dumped or something). Have empathy, don't get pissed at her, and if she has to cut it short, be understanding. If her eyes filled up with tears there's a reason for it.

[Sebastian]

I am sure she is gone. Her limit was letting you touch her boobs outside of her clothes and you crossed that.

I am sure you did that logically. 'I met this chick from the bar. she came to my place. we kissed a lot. what's wrong with taking her tops off or even fingering her?'

Unexpected results happen all the time.

I met this chick from match at a coffee shop. I thought maybe I would get a good night kiss and go home. I ended up getting a blow job while taking a shower together.

It already happened and something like this will happen again as long as you hit on chicks.

[Dkby]

(10-04-2013 03:54 AM)PompeyChris Wrote:  

You mentioned that you kissed a lot and maybe this was a problem?

Well, I stayed under 5 minutes at the bar. However, that wasn't the case back at my place.

(10-04-2013 04:51 AM)aphelion Wrote:  

Sounds like she's either cheating on a boyfriend or has some personal issues (like just got dumped or something). Have empathy, don't get pissed at her, and if she has to cut it short, be understanding. If her eyes filled up with tears there's a reason for it.

I will keep this in mind when planning next date. I probably shouldn't push with my place next time because she could have mixed memories about it and could go cold.

I will contact her again on Monday, and see where this heads to.

[CJ]

(10-03-2013 09:09 PM)Dkby Wrote:  

I went to this club on Monday. Did my first approach by the book on a 6 who was there with her friend. I followed all instructions from the book and eventually we made out very well. Too bad I had no logistics planned (I didn't think my first approach would turn out like this). I took her number.

I texted her next evening and set up date for Thursday. Followed the book again and there were no problems.

We met up in the city centre and went to a coctail bar. I did the "single arm move" and we made out again. After some kissing and talking, I suggested that we go to another venue.
We walk there and she holds my hand tight all the time. We get there, but there are too many people, so we don't enter. I suggest that we go to my place and she agrees.

So far this is text book, and perfect. Did you know the second place would be too crowded? That's an awesome move if you did.

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Here's where I did the bad move.I stayed on her tits for about a minute and then I don't know why I slightly moved zip on her hoodie. There's when she pushed my hand away and stopped with the kiss

How is this a bad move? If you're making out and feeling her up, getting her clothes off is the next logical move. Relax ass, you're on the right track.

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When I got back, she was like nothing happened, but she said that she would head home... I'm on stall point now. When should I contact her again? I have no idea why she got wet eyes and what does that mean.She did french kiss when I dropped her off without any resistance (she was actually waiting for it), so I guess that's a good sign?

So, basically what happened is she just wasn't ready yet. This will depend on the age and experiences the girl has had. Maybe she is a virgin? Or just has very little experience.

Just keep doing what you're doing, you'll get a little further each time and her resistance will gradually break down.

I'd also keep gaming and looking for other girls on the weekends, since she has kindly left those open for you.

[Dkby]

(10-04-2013 05:59 PM)CJ Wrote:  

So far this is text book, and perfect. Did you know the second place would be too crowded? That's an awesome move if you did.

I checked it out on my way to the date, and it was pretty packed at that time already, so I could suspect it would be even worse later.

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So, basically what happened is she just wasn't ready yet. This will depend on the age and experiences the girl has had. Maybe she is a virgin? Or just has very little experience.

My friend also pointed out that she could be a virgin and just freaked out because she didn't know how to handle it.

[bike0369]

(10-04-2013 04:51 AM)aphelion Wrote:  

Sounds like she's either cheating on a boyfriend or has some personal issues (like just got dumped or something). Have empathy, don't get pissed at her, and if she has to cut it short, be understanding. If her eyes filled up with tears there's a reason for it.

^. I had almost same thing play out for me a month ago in Japan. This chick and I were quite high on wine, and it was all going very well, and suddenly I hit the dead-end. Incidentally, she was very out spoken, but even then once she had these tears in eyes, she couldn't speak. Our libidos went down, and once she composed herself she told me that she broke up with her bf only 10 days ago - which was like a day before she came to Japan, and that she couldn't do this. I agree with Aphelion to give her space and be understanding if this happens, as she will remember it. And if you do well and she likes it, she will later reward you for it.

[Dkby]

Need some help on this one again.

Went on second date two weeks after the first (described above).

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[AneroidOcean]

(11-06-2013 10:40 AM)Dkby Wrote:  

I'm kinda confused. Did I do everything I could and there was really no possiblity of closing the deal, or I missed something out which prevented me from getting a bang?
She's been at my place four times already, she doesn't mind me touching her anywhere, but still I can't get on with undressing.

Why haven't you placed her hand on your dick or pulled it out?