Quote: (10-30-2013 02:27 PM)scorpion Wrote:
A man wants to stand out from the crowd, a woman wants to stand out in the crowd. A subtle but important distinction.
To ultimately demonstrate his superiority to the larger group of lesser men, a man must be prepared to go without its comfort. He must show that he is not only unafraid to face the crowd's judgment, but that he is capable of doing without its support.
In contrast, being the weaker sex and reliant on social networks for support, a woman can never afford to stand out from the group. She must not be separate from the group, but rather she demonstrates her fitness by being the most exemplary member of the group. She does the same thing as everyone else in the group, but hopefully does it better.
You see this truism illustrated perfectly in this picture. All the girls wearing the exact same boots. Why? Because that's what they're supposed to do. They all got the boot fashion memo and they followed it. They don't want to be "that girl" who is caught not wearing boots when everyone else is doing so. That would place them outside of the safe confines of the group and open them up to social ostracization from other women.
The flipside of this is male peacocking. A man who flagrantly and confidently stands out from other men only raises his value in the eyes of women.
This is why women are such hopeless followers of popular fashion and social trends in general. They simply have to keep moving and remain in step with their peers.
Women herd; men peacock.
Excellent observation. I've continually noticed that women, whenever a popular new character comes out or there's an awards show, flock to get the
exact same outfit that they see on the celebrities they worship. Men may cop the style or try to emulate some of the wardrobe and the vibe, but at least we try to make it our own.
Needless to say, this winter in my toggle coat, a Burberry/Lacoste scarf, Parasucos/501's, Zegna shades, sinister black leather gloves (girl I opened last week with them on, 'You look like an assassin.') and double-buckle dress boots. Rakish.
I saw no less than ten girls today, in not even a heavy-traffic area, in these dumb knee-high brown boots.
About 10% of women can pull them off (coincidentally, usually the same percentage of women that would look good in anything).
At least they're better than Uggs.