[BIGBOY]

Thanks for all the responses, will keep it in mind.

[Veloce]

Honestly at this point in the game, I can't be bothered to give a fuck. And I think the real issue here might be the fact that you're not getting enough strange on the side.

I've gotten incredibly lazy, so take this with a grain of salt, but if I see a guy hitting on my gf or another girl I'm with, I'll either:

1) go talk to some other girls and then head back to my girl once she's blown the guy off, or
2) if I'm feeling impatient, I'll go up, say "Hey" to the guy in a completely deadpan tone, and then wedge myself in between them with my back to the guy. It's very important to maintain the deadpan tone when resuming talking to your girl like what you just did was the most normal, casual thing ever. I've never once had a guy try to start shit after doing this, but even if he did I'd just turn around and tell him to fuck off.

[Videl]

Find the right balance. Just let her talk to others but not too much. When you think it is time to pull her away, don't talk, just do, take her away and go on the dancefloor. As you said I think it is impossible for you to stop others hitting on her. Maybe you should put a stamp on her ass and mark her with your smell somehow to mark your territory. J/k

[Captain Shadow]

At parties the gf can yap which is annoying especially when you want to mack on other girls (surely this is why you bring your gf to parties to show off) so letting her talk to others is a blessing and allows opportunities for your mischievous antics to go unnoticed. I feel you are talking about the more sinister conversations with some weasel who could be a threat. Don't let these affect your mood enjoy yourself take a piss, get another drink whatever. Of course you cant allow this sham artist too much time with your lady. When you feel like it, this could be 1 second or 1 hour you make the decisions you're the one in control right? Go over and say hey to your chick, she will introduce you to this would be casanova. Shake his hand like you would a family friend and say whats up. Most times they get blown away by your presence and shuffle away. Some crafty cunts stay, linger and attempt to plough through like you haven't caught them hands deep in the cookie jar. They will ask you what you do or what your plans are tonight etc just say 'trying to get her *thumb point to your gf* drunk and take her home'. This has never been defeated. The quicker a man accepts that with the hotter girls chancers and lurkers will always be there the better. Keep cool or keep her indoors.

[GLethal85]

It's funny how when you're out with your girl it suddenly becomes an open competition for who has the highest value.

The key is to simply have complete faith that your value is higher than anybody elses at the bar. Know that in a one on one choice against anybody your girl would choose you.

Theres a point in the relationship when you start to get bored and honestly dont even mind other guys talking to her. Maybe it will make it easier when u start the slow roll break up.

Also, let her see u talking to another girl and watch how quickly she runs over to touch your shoulder

[soup]

here:

Close your eyes.

Stop.

Open your eyes.

What are you thinking about now?

[Ingocnito]

(10-16-2013 05:39 AM)Vicious Wrote:  

I don't think you can address this situation in a vacuum. She's your GF and you have done your job in selecting her, telling her what you are about and how she's expected to behave.

Thus I say that you shouldn't "handle it". If you have done everything right up to now then she's merely being entertained by some dude that won't get anywhere.

These are the kind of interactions that will let you know if she truly is GF material or just some random slut that you've kept around longer than usual.

Great testing time. Agreed. Not time to consider any reverse psychology about the interaction.

If it's a shit test of her's.. i.e. allowing a guy to hit on her to "see what you'll do," or even worse, hit back and show any interest, she's probably not the alpha-bitch you wanna be with and feeding you crap about the role she projects toward you in the relationship, if you consider it a relationship.

[Jeimuzu]

I usually go over, drop a whatsup to the dude, then tell her I'll be by the bar when shes finished. I've not had to do this with LTR's as I am very thorough with my selection and 90% have been good girls and virgins. But with girls I am having fun with they usually grab my arm as i go to walk or within a minute creep up behind me.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

When you're there, barge into the conversation, cockblock the intruder and move her away (assuming she's willing) or make out.

When you're not there or she's not willing, act cool and analyze the guys' game, with a focus on positive. Be absolutely cool and be flabbergasted if she is not getting hit on for a change. I've once pulled off the world's most devastating cockblock in this way. It works like a charm.

[Therapsid]

(10-21-2013 06:09 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:  

When you're there, barge into the conversation, cockblock the intruder and move her away (assuming she's willing) or make out.

I agree.

Some guys are making the mistake of trying too hard to be super-aloof.

I used to do this. Big mistake.

Sometimes the most alpha thing is to claim what's yours. Girls get turned on by a little assertive possessiveness, as long as it only comes out on occasion.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

(10-21-2013 08:39 AM)Therapsid Wrote:  

(10-21-2013 06:09 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:  

When you're there, barge into the conversation, cockblock the intruder and move her away (assuming she's willing) or make out.

I agree.

Some guys are making the mistake of trying too hard to be super-aloof.

I used to do this. Big mistake.

Sometimes the most alpha thing is to claim what's yours. Girls get turned on by a little assertive possessiveness, as long as it only comes out on occasion.

However, I'd like to add that situations when someone is hitting on her while you're present are extremely rare compared to those when you're away. It's those away that count the most because no one except Saudi men can keep their girl isolated or with them all the time, and thus most danger is going to come from that direction.

For that reason, a man who doesn't know what to do while present is in far less danger than the one who doesn't know what to do while absent.

[Mike5055]

A buddy of mines gf gets major gifts from some dude that's pining after her. Like a visa gift card with $2k on it. The guy is so pathetic with his gifts.

Anyway, every time she gets them, she spends them on him (my friend). Whenever my friend sees the guy, he always thanks him for giving her the cards and how he really enjoyed whatever it was he got out of it.

It's pretty entertaining to watch.

[soup]

Why can't you just write:

Girlfriend

instead of GF

That's the problem. You spell like a woman.

[BIGBOY]

(10-24-2013 03:24 AM)soup Wrote:  

Why can't you just write:

Girlfriend

instead of GF

That's the problem. You spell like a woman.

Says the guy who doesn't use proper punctuation.

Why do people write NYC, instead of New York City?

Stop wasting our time.

[Altair]

become a genuinely kind person

the guys who defused me the best did it by being nice. It seemed like they were friendly

You ever meet a cat you could only be nice towards because of how sincerely kind they were to you

[Altair]

I seen too many guys who immediately get hostile and defensive towards other guys in regards to girls. When you're a cool guy who includes the "competition" in your fun, he's become unlikely to want to fuck with you. Game works on guys too

[The Beast1]

Honestly, you need to make sure that you are the most important man in the room.

I dated a skuzzy girl once (stupid) who would flirt with anything that had a penis. Coincidentally, being the best dressed guy with a suit and prince charming hair would immediately cause any dude trying to AMOG me to defer to my presence.

Suit game again solves this problem. When you get that annoying guy in a black v-neck coming up and acting all cocky, you can look at him, agree and amplify, and have him walk away like the fool he is. He's not getting anywhere and bad boy charm < suit and charm game especially with women of substance. Don't be afraid to pick him apart in a friendly and, "I'm interested in what you have to say!" but pick him apart in the process. You want to remain sophisticated, yet ready to fight. Strike the fine balance and work it once you find it.

Oh and walk by her and spank her ass. Blow a kiss and smile Watch the guys look at you and get that completely "Ugh disengage" look.

[sandman972]

This is an interesting thread. Iv always not been entirely sure how to react in this situation.

The alpha in me says " Fuck it let the guy hit on her, if shes that big of a slut to give out her number, or not leave him and come over to me then she doesnt respect me or value me". Yet at the same time, girls can just be naturally flirty, not to mention they love the attention, so its kind of a double edged sword.
I think its natural that jealousy fills your head, especially when you are dating someone hot and stands out, it sometimes fucks with you. Then again, it all comes back around to abundance mentality, and if you dont have any other options, especially of her caliber, then all of this jealousy will be amplified and transpire into beta behavior.
My general course of action would be after a couple minutes is to enter the conversation and introduce myself casually, in a way that doesnt show im phased.
I remember a hot girl I was dating recently came with me to the gym. Literally every dude was looking at her, and within 20 minutes some guy was talking to her. I wont lie, it fucking pissed me off. It fucked with my head. I tried to ignore it and continue on with my workout, but to be honest it ruined my concentration. At this time, I had no other options, my Oneitis was very bad, and this all snowballed into me getting burned bad several weeks later.

[Dalaran1991]

Interesting viewpoints here. In my earlier days I would definitely barge in and mark my territory but here where I am the guys are pretty bitchy and won't hesitate to get into a verbal dicking contest with you, which is annoying. So mostly I just chime in politely then transfer her to another spot. It works every single time but make it very natural and very immediate. "hey baby come here Jack wanna sees you/I gotta show you something/etc."

I've also noticed that girls here are either very polite or hypocritical. I've had many instances of going out with girls I'm gaming then I look away one moment and a guy is talking to her. The girl seems to be paying A LOT of attention to him, but every time after I move them they tell me "that guy was creepy/bizarre etc." and I was like in my head "yeah but you seem to quite enjoy talking to him".

One time I saw a girl dancing and gigling like hell with an aggressive dude. I swoop in the moment he wasn't looking and the girl be like "oh god thank you for saving me from that guy, he's so creepy". Bitches be talking....

I don't take my main girl to bar or places that are hunting ground for men, too many chances of running into other girls I'm gaming plus when I'm going there I'm on hunting mode anyway. My main girl has no business being there.

[HighSpeed_LowDrag]

"Hey bud, how's it going?"

"Uhh ... good, thanks."

"Cool. Just wanted to say thanks for the compliment."

" ..... what do you mean?"

"Wasn't sure if my girlfriend was still hot enough to be dating me. Thanks for the help, bro." Smirk.

BAM. Problem solved.

But seriously, in all honesty the best way to go about this is to be proactive. Minimize the instances where you feel compelled to mate-guard and the problem solves itself.

HSLD

[Saweeep]

Your girl flirting with another man whilst you are in the same room is often just a shit test for you.

The best thing to do is always to ignore it and carry on doing whatever you were doing anyway.

By marching over there you are showing that you see the other guy as a threat and are concerned about his status. Whenever I am talking to a woman and a guy does this I often outwardly laugh at him as it's just so pathetic.

When I was younger I used to play a game with girls in bars where I would point out a guy and challenge her to go get a bottle of champagne off him or something and bring it back to our table. Was quite good fun although I'd never do that to another man, no matter how pathetic, these days as i'm older.

[Cheetah]

(10-15-2013 06:26 PM)BIGBOY Wrote:  

For the last few months I've been going out with a girl who is pretty attractive. Any time I go to parties with her, and leave her alone to go talk with other friends or go to the bathroom, I find some guy trying to hit on her when I return. She is a bit naive and nice, so she usually talks with the guys, but never is very flirty even if the other guy is trying to be. I'm not afraid of her cheating, but I don't know the best way to react to guys trying to hit on her. As long as she doesn't look distressed or uncomfortable, I just let it be and ignore it, but I also don't want to stand back while another guy just blatantly tries to pick her up.

If I can tell she is uncomfortable, I usually just come up and put my arm around her, introduce myself, and kind of pull her away. But I'm not sure what the best way to go about it in the other situations where guys are hitting on her in a more subtle way and she doesn't look to be uncomfortable at all. I feel totally ignoring it is too passive, but at the same time I don't want to come off appearing insecure or overly aggressive every time she is talking to another guy.

How do you guys go about handling these situations?

Update her wardrobe:

[rottenapple]

In all honesty the situation can be very difficult. I've had a girl become angry as well, because I let a guy talk to her without coming to claim her (eastern european girl btw). It depends very much on the context and the girl. Worst for me here in Latin america is when guys come ask my girl to dance (which I cant). The girls here all say, 'its just dancing', and all the guys know it never is just dancing. Pick girls with quality, get ripped and maintain frame, ... then leave it up to the girl how to handle herself.

[coverdoc]

Was recently out with one of my girls, left her ass alone at the bar to go scope the other talent. Came back she was still alone and preceded to tell me how some guy hit on her. I like to use these moments as test. If I look over and see a guy gaming my girl i let it happen. If he stays longer than 2 minutes, bish is not a keeper, just a rotator and i demote accordingly.

[dark_g]

When guys stop trying to talk to your GF is when you need to worry.