[chvrches]

I went on a date 10 days ago with a girl i met at a music festival, we had a small chat and i asked for her number. We met up the day after and had a good time, it was mostly a sit and talk date where i got to learn her better, and she seemed cool. But there was no kino which is weird for me, because usually i would have kino on the first date and escalate further on the 2nd date to a potential lay. But i didn't have it with this one, since i felt the atmosphere wasn't right. It felt like a friendly date even though she has showed clear signs of liking me and lots of IOI's.

Now i did 2 mistakes. I haven't messaged her since the date because i have been so busy with school. 10 days passed already. Second mistake i did was picking a bad venue, a cafe full of people. So kind of hard to kiss/kino there. Yesterday she liked an old picture of mine and i see it as a sign that she wants to hear from me again, or curious about why i haven't texted her since the date.

Im thinking about sending her a restart text and see if she's up for another date, which im sure she is. But where exactly do you suggest i take her on this 2nd date.

Which venue would be better for more kino/escalation. And how do i go about removing this "friendly date vibe" and pushing some sexual intention into it? Im afraid i didn't show my real intentions when i had the chance.

EDIT: she doesn't drink alcohol

[nola]

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[Noir]

You live and you learn. At least you are aware of your mistakes.

Send her a message, something like "I have been busier than a one-legged man in an ass-kicking contest. You alive?"

(replace with one-armed man in a ass-spanking contest for a more sexual vibe, if you can control it from there)

Take it from there, build some comfort and flirting again and then hit her with the "I am doing x on x, join me"

Make the date active and sweaty, get her blood flowing. This should be your replacement for the alcohol-free women.

Most guys rush back into the 'lets meet up immediately' and get flaked on.

Either way, experiment and report back. What works for you, me and anyone else might differ.

[RatInTheWoods]

You could go make or break message:

"Hey we have to have our third date, because sex always happens on the third date with nice girls!"

At least you will avoid another friendly date, and know one way or another....

[AceP]

(05-28-2018 06:20 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  

You could go make or break message:

"Hey we have to have our third date, because sex always happens on the third date with nice girls!"

At least you will avoid another friendly date, and know one way or another....

This might seem to forward lol.

As for @OP's case. Yeah, my usually go to tactic even if I didn't manage to get very sexual with her, I am extremely flirty (sexually), so she definitely knows that "the dick" is there and she wouldn't be too surprised when I stir the conversation into "chill at a place"

I'd start with more sexual teases is see how she responds to that.