[Vaun]

Nothing has gotten me through this like the forum. The video above is hilarious, and I have read some of Dr. Ellis' books in the past, great stuff.

I am doing the Heartiste plan above. I naturally came to this conclusion, but this has a few more tweaks. I need to take a break from all of the texting and dependence on gaming/dating. I need a total break from it for at least a month in order to get back to myself and live without any drama in my life. I just started, but in the meantime I asked a girl out who was a former client. I knew she was hot in a low key way, polite, professional, etc, why I have wanted to ask her out for a year. Low and behold, no shit, she is also a dancer for a professional sports team. We are going out this week. It makes my ex look like a turd. Other than this I am off of online dating, and not approaching for at least a month. I can get very high quality girls. A game break, then some strategic dating with hotties will fix me of this for good.

I have read about how PUA's have dramatically awful LTR's. They game and strategize so much, that when they go to one girl, they put it all on her and create a drama filled time bomb. I dont think I am lonely, but the oxytocin was like crack. I think this might have happened to me. All of the texting, approaching, banging, online dating, etc, didnt just shut down when this girl came in. From here I am thinking about what I really want. I know I can approach and get a beautiful high quality girl if I put in some effort. Going exclusive, long term is what I like. I am not into sharing a vagina, and low quality first date bangs. I like being with a girl, and leading a relationship. I just want no drama, and that is what I will focus on to avoid, if I go there again.

[Grenblin]

(08-30-2016 07:13 AM)Vaun Wrote:  

Nothing has gotten me through this like the forum. The video above is hilarious, and I have read some of Dr. Ellis' books in the past, great stuff.

I am doing the Heartiste plan above. I naturally came to this conclusion, but this has a few more tweaks. I need to take a break from all of the texting and dependence on gaming/dating. I need a total break from it for at least a month in order to get back to myself and live without any drama in my life. I just started, but in the meantime I asked a girl out who was a former client. I knew she was hot in a low key way, polite, professional, etc, why I have wanted to ask her out for a year. Low and behold, no shit, she is also a dancer for a professional sports team. We are going out this week. It makes my ex look like a turd. Other than this I am off of online dating, and not approaching for at least a month. I can get very high quality girls. A game break, then some strategic dating with hotties will fix me of this for good.

I have read about how PUA's have dramatically awful LTR's. They game and strategize so much, that when they go to one girl, they put it all on her and create a drama filled time bomb. I dont think I am lonely, but the oxytocin was like crack. I think this might have happened to me. All of the texting, approaching, banging, online dating, etc, didnt just shut down when this girl came in. From here I am thinking about what I really want. I know I can approach and get a beautiful high quality girl if I put in some effort. Going exclusive, long term is what I like. I am not into sharing a vagina, and low quality first date bangs. I like being with a girl, and leading a relationship. I just want no drama, and that is what I will focus on to avoid, if I go there again.

This resonates with me so much.
Especially when I am learning about game, plate spinning etc. and I realize that I did a lot of this before even being aware of the RP or the Game.
And even now, post RP, I still long for an exclusive relationship with a quality girl, but the more I learn the less this seems possible. I think I am getting jaded before even starting the Game, just from my previous life experiences with women, specially the last one who told me straight up that she's not ready to date exclusively .
I'm lost and confused.