Okay I'm looking for a unifying way of looking at game and social interactions. I had the thought of imaging the perfect social dynamic and working back from there to see how our current society compares to that.
Imagine if every guy and every girl dropped all the pretensious bullshit and just pursuited what they really wanted. If people were not hiding behind their own fear, what would that look like?
Say you were at a bar. There would be no bitch shields. There would be no clicky groups. Everyone would be easily approachable. In fact, girls would be approaching guys. Actually there wouldn't even be approaching, as people would just pair up until they were ready to move on to meet new people and exchange numbers. It might look something like speed dating. Except that speed dating is a highly organized event, and people are being babied.
Actually, there might still be groups of people, perhaps taking a break from the one on one interaction (and bangs in the bathroom). But the groups would be very fluid. If one member wanted to leave to spend the rest of the night with a stranger, the remaining people in the group would be 100% okay with that. Because they themselves would probably meet other people. There would not be resentment like "why did she ditch her friends to talk to him?". Everyone would recognize that we are here not to hide in familiarity but to learn new things and have new experiences with new people.
The reason I think it might help to imagine this ideal scenario is because everything is else can then be looked down upon as simplistic and inferior. You can then see the negative effects that group mindthink and insecurities have in social settings. And you can also take advantage of the lack of momentum of people in general.
If we were to compare the social world to atoms, a PUA would be like a highly energized and free floating electron or ion, bouncing from atom to atom. While cliques would be represented by densely packed nuclei with the potential of reacting with the electrons floating, but generally just doing nothing.
Imagine if every guy and every girl dropped all the pretensious bullshit and just pursuited what they really wanted. If people were not hiding behind their own fear, what would that look like?
Say you were at a bar. There would be no bitch shields. There would be no clicky groups. Everyone would be easily approachable. In fact, girls would be approaching guys. Actually there wouldn't even be approaching, as people would just pair up until they were ready to move on to meet new people and exchange numbers. It might look something like speed dating. Except that speed dating is a highly organized event, and people are being babied.
Actually, there might still be groups of people, perhaps taking a break from the one on one interaction (and bangs in the bathroom). But the groups would be very fluid. If one member wanted to leave to spend the rest of the night with a stranger, the remaining people in the group would be 100% okay with that. Because they themselves would probably meet other people. There would not be resentment like "why did she ditch her friends to talk to him?". Everyone would recognize that we are here not to hide in familiarity but to learn new things and have new experiences with new people.
The reason I think it might help to imagine this ideal scenario is because everything is else can then be looked down upon as simplistic and inferior. You can then see the negative effects that group mindthink and insecurities have in social settings. And you can also take advantage of the lack of momentum of people in general.
If we were to compare the social world to atoms, a PUA would be like a highly energized and free floating electron or ion, bouncing from atom to atom. While cliques would be represented by densely packed nuclei with the potential of reacting with the electrons floating, but generally just doing nothing.