noun
a person’s regular female companion with whom they have a romantic or sexual relationship: he lives with his girlfriend
(from Oxford Dictionaries)
One of the reasons I got into game was to be able to select a proper girlfriend when the time, and the girl, was right to settle down. I still believe this.
I've been actively persueing the PU lifestyle for a little over six years now. I started out as a virgin nerd with much to learn and turned into a woman slaying machine that is setting up his own real business now, has a consultant sidejob (personal improvement) and is breaching the lower strata of (inter)national politics. All thanks to PU. I have several girls on rotation in general and am never having trouble getting new ones in. All girls are of good quality too, seven and up. Some are local, some are out of town, most are from the university I attend which offers the 3rd largest variation in nationalities in the world, so you can imagine the look of my worldmap.
But enough establishing that I'm not a beginner for the preamble. This thread is in the newbie forum for a reason.
For all my girls on rotation, escapedes and whatnot, I've never had a girlfriend. Not before I got into PU, and not while practicing it. Now if one would follow the Oxford Dictionary I quoted at the beginning of the thread, a girlfriend would be considered a regular romantic or sexual relationship (how sex is not a prerequisite might be another good discussion for a different topic). So if having girls in rotating would constitute having a girlfriend. Ok, thanks, this thread is over....
But my personal definition of a girlfriend, and that of friends around me, is just a bit different. Your girlfriend is a significant female person with which you like spending time, do boring things with, bang on a regular frequent basis, show to your family, possibly want to live together with in time and have your kids with.
I tried several times to turn one of my regulars or a new girl into my girlfriend, whenever a rare 'keeper' comes along. Then I would identify signs of oneitis in me, switch back to abundance mode to get the beta out of my system, and basicly fuck it up with that girl. I have no idea how I do it, what I need to do, or what I'm doing wrong, but they always end up not as my girlfriend. Often out of rotation too.
I'm thinking several reasons could be my problem, including:
- I'm walking away too quickly when things even get a little tough;
- I'm not committing enough or know how to;
- I'm too set in my PU ways;
- I turn too needy when I identify a keeper, fuckup and disengage;
- I don't know what to do with a girl besides take for drinks and fuck;
- I'm not (un)interesting enough to have as a boyfriend.
Basicly, I don't have a fucking clue on how to actually get a girlfriend.
To use the words of Leeloo in the Fifth Element: Playas Halp!
a person’s regular female companion with whom they have a romantic or sexual relationship: he lives with his girlfriend
(from Oxford Dictionaries)
One of the reasons I got into game was to be able to select a proper girlfriend when the time, and the girl, was right to settle down. I still believe this.
I've been actively persueing the PU lifestyle for a little over six years now. I started out as a virgin nerd with much to learn and turned into a woman slaying machine that is setting up his own real business now, has a consultant sidejob (personal improvement) and is breaching the lower strata of (inter)national politics. All thanks to PU. I have several girls on rotation in general and am never having trouble getting new ones in. All girls are of good quality too, seven and up. Some are local, some are out of town, most are from the university I attend which offers the 3rd largest variation in nationalities in the world, so you can imagine the look of my worldmap.
But enough establishing that I'm not a beginner for the preamble. This thread is in the newbie forum for a reason.
For all my girls on rotation, escapedes and whatnot, I've never had a girlfriend. Not before I got into PU, and not while practicing it. Now if one would follow the Oxford Dictionary I quoted at the beginning of the thread, a girlfriend would be considered a regular romantic or sexual relationship (how sex is not a prerequisite might be another good discussion for a different topic). So if having girls in rotating would constitute having a girlfriend. Ok, thanks, this thread is over....
But my personal definition of a girlfriend, and that of friends around me, is just a bit different. Your girlfriend is a significant female person with which you like spending time, do boring things with, bang on a regular frequent basis, show to your family, possibly want to live together with in time and have your kids with.
I tried several times to turn one of my regulars or a new girl into my girlfriend, whenever a rare 'keeper' comes along. Then I would identify signs of oneitis in me, switch back to abundance mode to get the beta out of my system, and basicly fuck it up with that girl. I have no idea how I do it, what I need to do, or what I'm doing wrong, but they always end up not as my girlfriend. Often out of rotation too.
I'm thinking several reasons could be my problem, including:
- I'm walking away too quickly when things even get a little tough;
- I'm not committing enough or know how to;
- I'm too set in my PU ways;
- I turn too needy when I identify a keeper, fuckup and disengage;
- I don't know what to do with a girl besides take for drinks and fuck;
- I'm not (un)interesting enough to have as a boyfriend.
Basicly, I don't have a fucking clue on how to actually get a girlfriend.
To use the words of Leeloo in the Fifth Element: Playas Halp!