[RickyGP]

So I approach this cute Russian girl at a coffee shop. She is doodling on her sketch pad and I open on that.

I start rambling on doodling and my experience in art school. She soon asks what school I went to. After a little bit of ramble I go into GALNUC.

I am sitting with her and although she recuperates some interest, she has that serious and stoic Russian demeanor. Looking away, looking like she is losing interest.

Before I go for the number she looks at her phone and says "my fiends are coming in a short while." We ramble for a minute longer, but the vibe feels a bit weird.

Give her a handshake and am on my way without running a full GALNUC minus the C.

Would you guys have gone for the number close in spite of the seemingly cold response?

[Christian McQueen]

Always go for it because you never know until you try.

Based on her 'friends' coming reaction it was probably a blow off. Next time, always make it seem as though you have places to be even if you don't. Introduce yourself, flirt, number close and get the fuck out.

Btw never shake her hand when you leave; it's not a job interview.

[WestIndianArchie]

(07-24-2013 08:56 PM)RickyGP Wrote:  

So I approach this cute Russian girl at a coffee shop. She is doodling on her sketch pad and I open on that.

I start rambling on doodling and my experience in art school. She soon asks what school I went to. After a little bit of ramble I go into GALNUC.

I am sitting with her and although she recuperates some interest, she has that serious and stoic Russian demeanor. Looking away, looking like she is losing interest.

Before I go for the number she looks at her phone and says "my fiends are coming in a short while." We ramble for a minute longer, but the vibe feels a bit weird.

Give her a handshake and am on my way without running a full GALNUC minus the C.

Would you guys have gone for the number close in spite of the seemingly cold response?

A girl goes cold during your ramble can mean all sorts of things
- you said something wrong
- she noticed something
- she's bored
- she's not really listening and just going along with what you're saying

Should you ask for the #?

Yes. Always. Even when you know the answer is no.

Why? Because your powers of observation aren't so good as to read her mind.

A chick might surprise you and say yes.

You can get a sense from the body language, but you can't ever really know until you ask the buying question.

You didn't ask for the #, cause you thought she would reject you, so you wanted to save yourself some immediate pain.

You traded the pain for a "what if".

The "what if's", the analysis paralysis, will do far more damage to your overall game than getting a hard no from a chick.

Indeed, pushing the interaction is what you should always do, because it extends your game. It's the the last 2 reps of your 10 rep set. It's what builds you game muscle.

WIA

[Ternarydemonite]

Rejection is part of game. With augmented self-respect, and abundance mentality, this episodes will mean nothing. Getting her number, flaked or blown off, it will mean nothing as it will be just that, a Game.

[DVY]

"My friends are coming soon" (Hurry the fuck up, I dont have all day- standard russian stuff)
"Cool" Subject change and keep it light.
2 mins in, "Hey, it was nice chatting w/u. lets chill again." Bust out phone and hand it to her.

I rarely, if ever, ASK for a #. I just give my phone with keypad screen activated. Girls know the drill.

[DVY]

^^^Rejection always hurts. Sometimes less, sometimes more. The day you feel no pain, is the day you will begin to lose pleasure. Pleasure and Pain are wretchedly intertwined.

The key thing is just "a little bit of sting", not so much that you remember it within 15 mins and def. not the next day. This level of acclimatization takes time.

A good exercise is to purposefully bomb some interactions (esp when you are just having fun and clowning around). Say something ridiculous, mime a ridiculous face, shoulder tap a girl and then pretend like it wasnt you and make sure to have fun. Whatever you think might be funny and ridiculous, DO IT.

You'll be surprised what you can get away with. Obviously, dont do this all the time. But once in a while, its a good fun refresher on how little all of this matters.

[muc]

(07-30-2013 12:43 AM)DVY Wrote:  

A good exercise is to purposefully bomb some interactions (esp when you are just having fun and clowning around). Say something ridiculous, mime a ridiculous face, shoulder tap a girl and then pretend like it wasnt you and make sure to have fun. Whatever you think might be funny and ridiculous, DO IT.

You'll be surprised what you can get away with. Obviously, dont do this all the time. But once in a while, its a good fun refresher on how little all of this matters.

Second that. Just yesterday I had some fun. I was at a bar and met a girl I've spoken to before. She isn't attractive enough (and she's from Denmark, hrhr), but I consider her a platonic friend. Anyway, she told me I should approach some girls nearby. I said, ok, but I'll only use crappy lines.

So I approached with stuff like "Do you like tantric sex?", "You have beautiful eyes and a nice dress." or "Are you looking for your dream man tonight? Because I am looking for my dream girl."

Most girls were disinterested, immediately turned off etc. But about 50% of them came back later to hover nearby.

Yeah, fun exercise indeed.