[Soy El Unico]

I have been casually seeing a girl (solid 8.5) for the past month. We've slept together, and she's definitely interested, but I also know for a fact that her boyfriend (a guy I know, but am not good friends with) is still pursuing her. The ex boyfreind doesn't know the specifics of what's going on between us, but he is suspicious and has made it clear that he is still trying to hookup with her. Of course, the girl still has feelings for him, and I know her well enough to realize that she is the type to sleep with ex boyfriends.

To complicate things more, there is a third guy who is also interested in her, and I'm almost positive they hooked up before I came into the picture. I don't know what the extent of their current relationship is, but they definitely still see each other, so I guess it's safe to assume they're still hooking up(?).

So... how do I keep this girl interested, already knowing there are two other guys on her radar? I'm guessing I shouldn't confront her at all about these other guys, and perhaps step back and play the aloof game a bit? These other two guys are chasing her, so should I be the guy who sits back and doesn't care?

She texted me about hanging out this week, and we made plans, but I already feel like I've made myself a bit too available to her.

Any advice would be much appreciated!

[thegmanifesto]

"These other two guys are chasing her, so should I be the guy who sits back and doesn't care?"

Absolutamente.

Play it smooth and just swoop her here and there. Let the other cats sweat it out.

Now all you need is a few more girls like her and have all the girls orbit around you.

Now That's Gangsta like Shyne http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=enZRB_TjJ00

[Dash Global]

G's plan is good if you dont want a relationship with her imo ie girlfriend. However if you want something more than a causal hookup here and there you need to act and act now. If she is truly a 8.5 and is fun with a good personality than you prob need to lock that up if you can. This doesnt happen by sitting back, trust me from personal experience. I did this and found myself on the outside looking in. Had I been more assertive I would have easily won her over this other lame ass guy. You dont wanna come off as cleangy and desperate. You need to game it just right. Lock her up. Still see other girls if you want, just dont let the girl found out about it. Hope this helps.

[Soy El Unico]

Thanks for the advice. To be honest, before I knew the extent to which these other guys were chasing her, I didn't really care how things turned out. Now, given my competitive nature, I am fully cognizant that there are other guys trying to bang, and I'm feeling that primal twinge of jealousy kick in. I really don't want a relationship, but I also don't want other guys having access to where I'm putting my dick. I guess I want to know how to get her (or any girl for that matter) focused more on you when there are other guys in the picture? When casually sleeping with someone, does it just go with the territory that the girl will probably have other guys in the loop?

[thegmanifesto]

I wouldn't girlfriend this girl from what you have written. I would just swoop her. Sounds like she is playing the field heavy.

"I guess I want to know how to get her (or any girl for that matter) focused more on you when there are other guys in the picture?"

So many factors. As a rule of thumb, be different than the other guys. Which generally speaking means more aloof, more G and do more fun sh*t with her. And swoop her good.

"When casually sleeping with someone, does it just go with the territory that the girl will probably have other guys in the loop? "

Hell yes. Especially in big city America (NYC, Las Vegas, Miami Beach, LA etc) you can bet other guys are hollering at her non-stop. Even more since the girl is attractive. And even more since it sounds like she is not that hard to swoop (no offense).

(Hell, I might even throw my hat into the ring. Shoot me her number. Just playing.)

Maybe not in small town America. But I don't know, I don't do small town America.

[Dash Global]

u wont keep a 8+ from hookingup with other guys without being in a relationship with her. its the nature of the game.

if you dont want a relationship than ur gonna need to just try and block out the fact that she is prob fuking 2-3 other guys on the reg also.