[hashem]

So I met this girl and I took her and her friends roller blading...an hour later setup. Invited 2 of my friends...who turn out to be major betas...So at least two of the girls are into me. The one I wasn't really interested in pretty much asked me for my number. Second day they show up on campus and I'm having a good connection w/ the girl I liked. I set up a date w/ her for Wednesday last week. I asked her what she was doing and then just told her we were doing something and I'd call her to confirm a meeting place. I also told her she could dress anyway she pleased, but I liked dress or skirt.

Skip to Wednesday. I am a few minutes late...she was early...she waited for me. I got her to buy the drinks..she paid. She dressed in a dress. She did not get herself an alcoholic drink. I figured I screwed the pooch on that one. I couldn't get her to switch venues...and I didn't really see the point of me drinking more alcohol. It did get chilly and windy. Walked her back to her dorm and teased her for 3 hours. She sang french for me...and when she got up to leave dissapointed, I pulled her to me and kissed her. I think I screwed up here bc I didn't consider a bang chance..as I was about to leave she asks me how I was getting home..to which I stupidly say on foot probably.

I text her friday..nadda. Call her later, phone is off. Call her Saturday, phone is off. Meet her monday and shes playing hard to get. Then my beta morons show up and start following her and her friend around like puppies. I hide my anger by pretty much opening women all over campus which was actually good. When I got tired and my moron friends are still tailing them I call one of them and tell him I'm going home. She comes back and says 'byeee'. I looked at her and did the come here sign with my index finger and she comes. I asked her whats going on and then she says something about her phone. I then asked her about her colf shoulder attitude to which she says 'nothing'. I say ok, we'll talk when I get back. I left the city the next morning. Yesterday. Intuition tells me she is head over heels for me.

I'm thinking of calling her another time and to invite her out. But I'm not sure how to approach it without betaing my tail. Expert advice on how this situation apears? I'm thinking Thursdayish after 7pm.

[JayD]

From what you have written, seems like you are the one who is head over heels of her.
Chasing way too hard.
You should have banged her on the first date.

I would wait one or two weeks before asking again.

[RCron]

So let me get this straight. It was just you and her in her dorm room and you never tried for the bang once?



Do a search on here for "First date bang recipe" by Tuthmosis. This is possibly the best single thread on the forum. Another great thread is something like "is the second date dead?" Both apply in your situation.

Also, there's a well known saying on this forum that if you have to come here asking for advice about a specific woman you've most likely lost her anyway.

Don't feel bad, do your reading, implement what you've learned and you'll get much better results.

[hashem]

No. She had two roommates in the dorm room. We were outside the building on a park bench.

Ty I figure it may be a lost cause but like you said might as well milk all the xp that I can out of it.

Ps. This is in eastern europe

[Veloce]

(06-05-2013 06:00 AM)hashem Wrote:  

I text her friday..nadda. Call her later, phone is off. Call her Saturday, phone is off. Meet her monday and shes playing hard to get.

You went downhill after this. You're giving her too much attention. Don't confront her about going cold, especially less than a week after your "date" or whatever. If she doesn't respond to your text, don't send a restart text until the week after.

If you hang out with a chick and didn't get the bang, and/or things left on an awkward note which is seems they did, don't make attempts to recover. You'll come off as needy.

Keep gaming other chicks and send a restart text in a week. When I say restart text, I mean, "What's up".

[MidniteSpecial]

Send her a dick pic.

[hashem]

(06-05-2013 07:03 PM)MidniteSpecial Wrote:  

Send her a dick pic.

I wanted to give an update. I also want to say I learned a lesson you guys have been giving over and over with this experience. Ie. always bang her on the first date.

So I went cold on her a week and then sent her the following text.

Me: What's Up?
Her: Hi. I'm studying real hard, I have exams thursday/friday. What are you doing?
Me: <doing so and so> What are you doing Saturday?
Her: I don't know. Probably studying.
Me: <didn't reply>
Her: So let me tell you how things are so you don't think I'm acting weird or anything. I went out with you just to see or know you better. I didn't really like how you acted which means we can just be friends if you are ok with it. So? are you ok with us being strictly friends since we both meet through <so and so location?>
Me: <no reply>

While the idea of a female friend might sound interesting...I don't honestly think I have the time to stick around with something like that. At the same time this is eastern europe...do you guys think I should play the social circle game? Give some bullshit let's be friends etc?

So there you have it, you guys preached it and I was dumb. I better go for the bang on my date tomorrow. At the same time you guys also preached finding other women so you don't focus on just one, thank you for that as well.

[RCron]

I wouldn't address her last text directly and carry on setting up plans for a date on Saturday. If you can get her out again game and escalate as usual. Make her either reject you hard or ignore your future texts completely.