[hydrogonian]

This is going to seem like a simple suggestion, but another great strategy for rolling dolo is to choose a bar with a pool table.

Playing pool forces you to interact with others, and it prevents you from sanding around awkwardly. I swear, it ALWAYS works for me in terms of meeting new people.

And seriously, make friends with that other cool guy at the bar, whos also probably playing pool. You'll be surprised at how many girls he introduces you to, how many girls he helps you game, or how often you'll get invited to an after party with a lot of local girls.

[CJ]

(06-09-2010 12:18 AM)hydrogonian Wrote:  

This is going to seem like a simple suggestion, but another great strategy for rolling dolo is to choose a bar with a pool table.

Playing pool forces you to interact with others, and it prevents you from sanding around awkwardly. I swear, it ALWAYS works for me in terms of meeting new people.

And seriously, make friends with that other cool guy at the bar, whos also probably playing pool. You'll be surprised at how many girls he introduces you to, how many girls he helps you game, or how often you'll get invited to an after party with a lot of local girls.

Interesting theory, as I recently did this at a bar that converted a pool table into a beer pong table.

A shot flew way off course and rolled over where I was sitting with a friend - a good friend, but not the type to ever go introduce himself to the crowd or leave his comfort zone - so, as I was a little bored, I initiated conversation, and convinced the guy to shoot from where he picked the ball up.

This lead to me being involved in a later game, dominating the game and earning respect from the guys I was playing against, and then meeting all of their female friends that showed up later.

[Hard2Handle]

I think I do some of my best work solo. You have to be able to hype your self up and take risks. What works for me is when I see a girl I like I visualize me having sex with her, and then I tell myself if I don't try to talk to her then I have 0% chance of it happening or another visualization technique I use is treat her like a fat girl. Pretend she is ugly or fat and talk to her like your not trying to pick her up or show her no special treatment. How ever you decide to do it visualization is a powerful technique. Also I always make sure I have a drink in my hand, it dosen't matter what it is. I stand by a place where there is a lot of walk through and standing and waiting traffic like the bar or when I see a girl I like standing around I stand some what close to her but act like I am not paying attention and then when we happen to make eye contact I will raise my glass without saying a word and toast her or give her a fist bump. This is a great opener 85% of the time. The bottom line is when you see someone you want to talk to, first thing you have to do is be within striking distance and then it has to be a casual opener like the toast, or fist bump, or what kind of drink is that or whatever. If she is with friends i will then ask how do you guys know each other? This is just basic conversation. I never ask them their name or tell them my name, i just act like I don't care. Once they ask for your name or they introduce themselves then game is on. Let them have to prove them selves to you. I always had pretty good game, but once I started reading pickup books and sales books then my closing ration increased by 60%. Picking up women is like learning an instrument or new language. The only way that you truly get good is by studying it and practicing. Picking up women is a process that you have to prepare for. If you train properly then the fight is the easy part.

[Rocco81]

Good points H2H....the preperation and training is the hardest part. This includes your time getting beat up , using your fight strategy analogy (which I dig)...the sparring and prep is the hardest part, the fight should feel easy compared to your training. Game is not much different..except the homework reading and studying is like the skills training and the beating up / sparring is you testing out your new ideas and game and def. getting rejected a few times. Once you harden up from the simple rejections and learn to have a thicker skin and start learninng what is really going to work for you, then the rest is in the bag already.

[Hard2Handle]

I forgot to say, no matter how good you are you are going to get rejected way more then you get accepted. It's like this, if me and Michael Jordon have a free throw contest and he gets 10 shots and I get 10 shots then he will beat me everytime, but if he gets 10 shots and I get to take a 100 shots then I will win everytime. Picking up chicks is just a numbers game. Just the better you are the less shots you have to take. I used to take rejection personally, but now I understand its just part of the game. Mind over Matter, if you don't mind then it don't matter.

[Rocco81]

You don't mind and they don't matter

[hydrogonian]

(07-25-2010 03:23 PM)CJ Wrote:  

This lead to me being involved in a later game, dominating the game and earning respect from the guys I was playing against, and then meeting all of their female friends that showed up later.

Yup. In my experience, it works more often than it doesn't. Also, you escape the 'break the ice' phase of the cold approach. You can immediately get flirtatious once you play a girl in pool. If you play an alpha guy, befriending him will usually make you a beneficiary any of the work that he does that evening, in terms of meeting groups of women and being invited to parties.