[CJ]

Disclaimer:

I'm not really for or against online dating, generally speaking I just don't have the time for it, and I think the time I devote towards women is better spent on actual interactions and seeing where they go. However, you can't really dismiss the volume online provides.


My Experience:

Early Fall of last year, I had more free time and as I cycled through the booty calls of Summer, I became more jaded with the rapidly deteriorating local bar scene. I started wondering if all those "night game is dead" posts I'd seen on here were true (they're not, I was just looking in the wrong spots), thus I'd frequently check online after striking out at the empty bars.

One such night, I happened across the profile of a girl I had recently met at a bar: Tall, thin, 24yo blonde, a solid B, with only one glaring problem... a 4 year old kid. I can't even imagine how many messages she was getting online.

I'd hung out with her once after meeting her, but before I saw her online profile. We went back to her place, stayed the night. No bang, she didn't have her kid that night, but apparently her regular bed was a friend's couch. IDK, that threw me off enough that I didn't bring A game to the table, oh well. Following that night we spiraled into the vortex that is text messaging hell.

After seeing the profile, I thought to myself, "Well this girl is definitely looking for dick." So, I tried texting with her again, but it was more of the same pointless shit from before, and by this point the other pots on my stove were finally boiling.

I ran into her again, at the same bar (usually a bad sign), in December, and started talking. She was very open, and I decided to ask her what went wrong previously... yes, I knew I was risking my chance of sleeping with her, but honestly the guaranteed information was more important to me long-term, PLUS I was using her as leverage with the new waitress I was flirting with... her response was that I had stopped texting her (sure, blame me) and that she was seeing her ex off and on again, but that was over now (ha, I'll take that bet). I ultimately attributed it to me catching her in a bad time, as I was in a bit of a funk, coupled with the fact that she had probably no fewer than 100 guys to pick from between her frequent bar appearances and online profile.


The Question Is:

Have any of you had this happen? Either meeting a girl at the bar, then seeing her online OR seeing a girl online (better yet messaging her online), then randomly seeing her at a bar?

Or is this such a rare, freak occurrence, that it's not even worth analyzing?

[Sourcecode]

I recently got a new apartment..the girl next door has a friend that always comes over.
the friend..is a girl i messaged before on okc..she never answered.
She doesnt have a clue who i am. She mentioned she was chubby online.

I met her in person cause she was high as fuck at about 3 am and walked onto my balconey. in her high and drunk stupor we talked till about 4am about how she has lived in the city for a while but has no friends and is lonely.
she sucked me off...we cuddled..and she went home.
awkward night..
a week later she i came back from a mini trip and noticed she she's got a gut...
...she also introduced me to her mom...who talked to me for almost 2 hours about living in some shitty town up north and having to shovel snow.

...oddest hook up ever.

i hope, her introducing me to me mom on the second meeting wasnt a clinger sign..

[Timoteo]

You didn't do anything wrong with that girl CJ (other than not trying to get the bang that night...HA HA!). If she claims it was because you stopped texting, well...so be it. That's a reach on her part, and it's easier to tell you that than own up to it being about HER flakiness. If you've got other stuff going, the back-and-forth text convos can get tiring. She's got a 4 year old potential cockblocker, and unresolved issues with the ex. If you can't get the quick bang, she isn't worth the trouble.

[Ensam]

Next her.

As far as the issue of running into online girls around town and vice versa it happened to me all the time when I lived in a town of ~100,000 people. It did result in one notch. A girl came up to me at a party I was hosting after it was winding down. She kissed me and then said she'd seen my profile online and had a crush on me. Then we went back to my room and banged. Go figure.

In general my strategy was to ignore it and approach the girl as usual unless there was some kind of deal breaker (like having a kid) in which case I'd just move on. More awkward was running into girls I'd gone out with once or twice while they were on dates with other dudes but that's just life in a smaller town.