[lush1]

I'm doing a job that is ok but I'm never really going to excel at it. I'm 32 and am not really good at anything, no skills etc. The only thing I've ever had a real talent for is being able to charm people and make them feel happy/good about themselves.

I think that career wise one should always do something that utilises their natural talents.

I worked in sales and was terrible at it as I felt uncomfortable pressuring people into making decisions, I am not a pushy character (part of my charm is that I am so easy going). I'm wondering if I were selling a better product this might change?

Can anyone suggest a field that I could work in so my interpersonal skills aren't wasted? The only thing I can think of is some kind of promoting/hospitality type thing. Also becoming a personal trainer as this ties in with my passion for making people feel good and positive about themselves.

I've considered escorting but looking around there is a hell of a lot of competition and rates are pretty low as a result, I also just can't see there being that much demand for it. Maybe if I marketed myself in a different way to the competition?

Thanks

[Thomas the Rhymer]

Do you want to utilise or neutralise your natural charm?

Escorting? Are you trolling?

If you're that desperate and you're not trolling, may I suggest:
Make-up artist
Hairdresser
Masseuse
Biokineticist
Receptionist

The top two are dominated by gay guys but a heterosexual male can apparently turn the careers into a pussy pipeline if he plays his cards right.
But they all revolve around making other people happy.

[lush1]

Utilise it - bloody iPhone! I'm not desperate, I don't think my post came across that way. Im doing alright with other business ventures but my day job doesnt involve me doing something I have a skill for. Masseuse is actually something I've considered however I could never give a bloke a rub down. I did once consider having a nail bar thing but competition is insane and I have absolutely no experience. If I could go back ten years hairdressing would be the one but I feel it would take too long to get at a decent level.
Giving women a shit hair cut aint gonna make them feel good about themselves!

Why would I be trolling re escorting? Is it not correct that some men make a living from this?

I post without ego (femine trait right there), I'm straighter than a laser beam but a lot of my characteristics are somewhat feminine. And i know it doesnt fit in with the 'alpha' bullshit but nothing in this world is black and white. We can't change who we are but we can embrace who we are and use it to our benefit.

Will look further into the masseuse thing, cheers for the suggestions.

[RawGod]

I suggest stopping drinking for a start.

[lush1]

Please stop RawGod, my sides are splitting.

[lush1]

Can a mod please change the title of my post!

[WanderingSoul]

Prostitute.

Or you could work in a restaurant or be a bartender. Actually, a good one may be pharmaceutical sales rep. My ex's step-dad did this and made good money with only a communications degree. Not sure what else is required to get one of these jobs, but he seemed to do well for himself.

[lush1]

That's a good shout rio - bartender is something that I've been thinking about also. Would preferably be an intimate upmarket place where you can get to know your customers rather than just drink-money-change. Bars in the UK aren't really set up like the US with everyone sat at the bar so it would be important to work at the right venue.

The pharm sales has got me thinking... If there was some way of selling beauty products to women, or some kind of plastic surgery or treatment etc. Problem is with lack of decent sales experience it would be difficult to get an in so may have to come up with my own product.

[Don]

(05-05-2013 04:47 AM)lush1 Wrote:  

I'm 32 and am not really good at anything

[scorpion]

Personal training actually sounds like a good fit. The entire business basically revolves around forming a casual friendship with your clients and shooting the shit with them for an hour while you guide them through a workout. 90% of people who hire personal trainers do it for the companionship and to just have someone else keep them accountable in the gym. I watch the trainers in my gym do routines of the most useless, laughable shit with their clients week after week, but they keep coming back. If you're easygoing, like talking to people and have a decent level of fitness yourself you should look into it.

[Fitzgerald]

Medical fields are always good, maybe respiratory therapy or something, and they pay very well.

But c'mon, you're not good at anything? Are there things you know you could be good at if you had the motivation, time, or energy?

[lush1]

When I said 'im not really good at anything' I should have perhaps italicised the 'really'. I'm fine at most things it's not like I'm useless. It's just the only area where I really excel is in interpersonal skills, and fitness/training. I think my skills could be applied to management but I have too much of a rebellious nature for that lark, can't stand politics/bullshit/arse kissing.

Thanks scorpion and fitz.

[Hades]

Why don't you open a bar?

[Kickb]

If he's not good at anything, I don't think opening a bar would be a good idea. Plus that costs money, and he might not have been good at saving money.

I'm just joking.

I'm sure you're good at something. Have you thought about being a roadie for a band? You might be able to work the trickle down bangs game.

[Fitzgerald]

(05-05-2013 11:00 AM)lush1 Wrote:  

When I said 'im not really good at anything' I should have perhaps italicised the 'really'. I'm fine at most things it's not like I'm useless. It's just the only area where I really excel is in interpersonal skills, and fitness/training. I think my skills could be applied to management but I have too much of a rebellious nature for that lark, can't stand politics/bullshit/arse kissing.

Thanks scorpion and fitz.

I'm kind of in the same boat with you. Can do a bunch of things, but am merely adequate, or just mediocre in many of them, with few highly developed skills or talents.

Personal training could be good, but from what I've heard, the pay isn't that great unless you could reach a celebrity status, and there's probably a shelf life to how long you could actually do it.
If interacting with people and making them feel good is your passion, and truly your thing, go with it, you've got lots of options for application. I'm quick to suggest medical fields because people will always be getting sick and the pay is good, but the work can be difficult. A good bedside manner and ability to make people relax and feel like people is great for it though. I've also worked in sales and found that it's a myth that you have to be pushy, people can be gamed into buying. I'm a laid back dude myself and hate high pressure work environments.

If you have any entrepreneurial tendencies, why not try producing a fitness video or website that showcases your people skills? Perhaps you could gain some local celebrity?

[The Beast1]

You have to have some interests that make you unique.

I have that same natural charm. I also was halfway descent fixing computers. They'd break and I would use Google to fix them.

Sure enough, they have careers and well paying jobs for people like that. It's called IT.

If you know how to use Google, you can work in IT. Hell, you can work as an auto mechanic too (another side hobby).

Either way, I took my natural charm and my experiences with computer and now work in IT support. Imagine a tech support guy that is really social? Yeah they're rare but the good ones are paid very well.

[Bad Hussar]

^^^Actually "fixing computers" is pretty damn good idea. Lots of clueless women who can't do simple things like set up Outlook. Go to their house to do it. Charge a call out fee and a per hour/minute fee. Typically they will talk your ear off while there, but hey, you're getting paid by the minute.

Your Gigolo idea:
Well, good luck with that. Would be interesting to research actual real-life gigolos. I think that you'll find there are very few of them, and the ones that there are are exceptional in a few ways. Tall, charming, well traveled, speak multiple languages etc.