For 2 years I shared an apartment with an above average looking girl. Maybe 7.5-8. I was friends with her, but never wanted anything romantic with her despite the fact she was hot. I liked the apartment more than her, so I wasn't willing to fuck up my living situation.
Anyway during this time she had two boyfriends. Boyfriend #1 was definitely more macho/alpha in his attitude, despite not having any status or money. He was a student, worked part-time had a shitty apartment, and little money to ever take her out to dinner or anything. He would hang out with her about once a week, claiming he was too busy with school and work to see her more than that. They would constantly get into arguments, but he wouldn't easily back down, and I heard him yawn really loud once while she was yelling at him in tears. Haha classic. Despite treating her shitty, he was in charge of the relationship, he made her feel safe, and he told her that she meant the world to him and protected her. I noticed she would act like a little kid around him, like whine about things in a high voice, sit on his lap, laugh at every stupid thing he said, and follow him around like a puppy. After a few years she eventually got tired of him never hanging out with her, but his alpha attitude was able to overcome all his shortcomings, and his lack of attention towards her for a long time.
Boyfriend #2 was a nice guy, funny, successful, but a classic beta. He had lots of money so would invite her out to fancy dinners, take her on trips (some were flights to places like Paris for the weekend), would hang out with her everyday. But he let her control the relationship, and I never once heard her act like a little kid around him. He would make his voice higher when talking to her, instead the other way around. She would make him do things that were way out of his way or inconvenient and he would do it without complaining. I even heard her telling her girlfriend something she asked him to do, and her girlfriend was like "aww poor guy" while laughing it up. On paper this kid is 100% better guy and he got nothing but disrespect, even though he spent all his time with her, spent lots of money on her, etc.
As far as I know she is still with #2, but she is starting to hit the wall a bit, and probably wants a beta provider. Its incredible, but not surprising to many of us that #2 is treated with such disrespect, and #1 who had nothing going for him, but his confidence and attitude was able to make her completely obsessed with him. #1 hung out with her once a week and made her spaghetti, while #2 hangs out with her 5x week and takes her out to 4/5 star restaurants weekly.
Just an anecdote how success and money don't always translate into more success with women.
It was eye opening to witness this in person, and forever changed my view on how to interact with women.
Anyway during this time she had two boyfriends. Boyfriend #1 was definitely more macho/alpha in his attitude, despite not having any status or money. He was a student, worked part-time had a shitty apartment, and little money to ever take her out to dinner or anything. He would hang out with her about once a week, claiming he was too busy with school and work to see her more than that. They would constantly get into arguments, but he wouldn't easily back down, and I heard him yawn really loud once while she was yelling at him in tears. Haha classic. Despite treating her shitty, he was in charge of the relationship, he made her feel safe, and he told her that she meant the world to him and protected her. I noticed she would act like a little kid around him, like whine about things in a high voice, sit on his lap, laugh at every stupid thing he said, and follow him around like a puppy. After a few years she eventually got tired of him never hanging out with her, but his alpha attitude was able to overcome all his shortcomings, and his lack of attention towards her for a long time.
Boyfriend #2 was a nice guy, funny, successful, but a classic beta. He had lots of money so would invite her out to fancy dinners, take her on trips (some were flights to places like Paris for the weekend), would hang out with her everyday. But he let her control the relationship, and I never once heard her act like a little kid around him. He would make his voice higher when talking to her, instead the other way around. She would make him do things that were way out of his way or inconvenient and he would do it without complaining. I even heard her telling her girlfriend something she asked him to do, and her girlfriend was like "aww poor guy" while laughing it up. On paper this kid is 100% better guy and he got nothing but disrespect, even though he spent all his time with her, spent lots of money on her, etc.
As far as I know she is still with #2, but she is starting to hit the wall a bit, and probably wants a beta provider. Its incredible, but not surprising to many of us that #2 is treated with such disrespect, and #1 who had nothing going for him, but his confidence and attitude was able to make her completely obsessed with him. #1 hung out with her once a week and made her spaghetti, while #2 hangs out with her 5x week and takes her out to 4/5 star restaurants weekly.
Just an anecdote how success and money don't always translate into more success with women.
It was eye opening to witness this in person, and forever changed my view on how to interact with women.
