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03-10-2013, 02:28 AM
Crazy night... Still a little buzzed, but let me try my best to describe what just happened.
My friend (let's call him Dave) found one girl (Nicki) at the gym he liked, gamed her, and she wanted to chill with him. He suggested my place. I agreed as long as he brought a girl for me. He did. I invited another friend (Chris) because Nicki wanted to bring another friend. Three guys and three girls... should be no problem.
All three girls were above average (7.5). Dave is a good looking guy but is beta and buys into the girl's frame more often than not. Dave does not have a lot of self-confidence. I am more of an asshole, have stronger inner game, and do my own thing. Nicki started making subtle indicators that she wanted me (strong eye contact, telling me I looked good, sitting next to me).
So Chris made out with one of Nicki's friends. Nice. Good for him. At about 11:30, Nicki wanted to stay around while her friends left (!!). I talked to Dave and he tried to make out with Nicki but she was having none of it. Weird. I talked to him and told him I thought she was into me. He told me to go for it.
So I did. And I made out with her and felt her up and almost got head.
After, she was telling my friends how much she hated me and how much of an asshole I was. She sent a text apology to Dave. And I'm just thinking to myself: don't listen to what girls say, watch what they do. We were kissing and every five minutes she would stop and tell me.. "I can't do this." But I kept going and she loved it. She wanted a strong man.
(At the end, she was telling me to pick up her phone which she threw on the phone. I refused to do it. "Pick up my fucking phone and be a gentleman." I wouldn't do it and buy into her frame. She picked it up. She told me I was an asshole for not being a gentleman. I told her I was more attractive in her eyes for not following her commands and being her bitch. She smiled... which to me meant she agreed.)
This got me thinking, why did she wanted me and not him? He is more attractive and a literally stronger guy than me (we lift). But she wanted me because of my personality. I was a cool guy. She wanted a cool guy more than an attractive guy.
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03-10-2013, 02:33 AM
a) girls dont give a fuck how heavy you lift, as long as you look athletic and healthy
b) you are cooler than dave
c) bang her the next time you see her?
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03-10-2013, 02:58 AM
Quote: (03-10-2013 02:33 AM)void Wrote:
a) girls dont give a fuck how heavy you lift, as long as you look athletic and healthy
b) you are cooler than dave
c) bang her the next time you see her?
A) Agreed
B) Agreed
C) Yep
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03-10-2013, 05:05 AM
Quote: (03-10-2013 04:47 AM)IQVX Wrote:
Quote: (03-10-2013 02:28 AM)Sleek Wrote:
I made out with her and felt her up and almost got head.
After, she was telling my friends how much she hated me and how much of an asshole I was.
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03-10-2013, 04:40 PM
If a girl gushes to her girlfriends about how great her boyfriend is, she probably finds him boring and weak. She doesn't want to lose face with her girlfriends by admitting she is dating a weak, boring man, so he becomes "nice" and a "sweetheart."
If a girl speaks about her girlfriends with disdain about her stubborn, emotionally unavailable boyfriend or fuckbuddy, she probably finds him strong and intriguing. She doesn't want to admit to her friends how inured she is with him. His strong frame makes her feel feminine and provides fuel for her hamster.
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03-10-2013, 05:57 PM
Quote: (03-10-2013 04:40 PM)TheRookie Wrote:
If a girl gushes to her girlfriends about how great her boyfriend is, she probably finds him boring and weak. She doesn't want to lose face with her girlfriends by admitting she is dating a weak, boring man, so he becomes "nice" and a "sweetheart."
If a girl speaks about her girlfriends with disdain about her stubborn, emotionally unavailable boyfriend or fuckbuddy, she probably finds him strong and intriguing. She doesn't want to admit to her friends how inured she is with him. His strong frame makes her feel feminine and provides fuel for her hamster.
I've thought about this concept before, but never actually put it into words. Job well done.
In this particular case, I asked the girl last night why she got with me. Her response? "I don't know."
I can answer that for her: game.
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03-10-2013, 09:38 PM
Quote: (03-10-2013 09:21 PM)MattC Wrote:
Quote: (03-10-2013 02:28 AM)Sleek Wrote:
I told her I was more attractive in her eyes for not following her commands and being her bitch. She smiled... which to me meant she agreed.)
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I can answer that for her: game.
I would cut this sort of stuff out if I was you. Things happen, you don't need to explain the science behind it and especially not to a girl. Their behaviours are irrational, so why give them a reason for doing what they're doing?
It should be noted that the first was a drunk mistake. Would never have something like that sober. When she said "I don't know [why I got with you]", I didn't respond (sober).
Just another example you shouldn't listen to what she says because it's probably not valid: Last night she said she regretted getting with me and not getting with my friend. Today she texted her friend (which later got forwarded to me): "No I don't regret it haha I just feel bad so tell [me] that cause I don't want [me] to think I regret it cause I don't".
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03-11-2013, 09:34 AM
Exactly mate, just rise above whatever they say. You were right about listening to her actions, because if you engage in what she says it will drive you just as bat shit crazy as she is.
I was supposed to take a girl on a second date once, I couldn't be arsed because I wanted to see my mate at his cousin's party so I just brought her along there. She was chatting to people, looking at me lovingly, kissing me all night, all that shit. She had a really good time. Anyway, she had to get a £100 taxi home because I was gonna stay at my mates and she send me about a 10 one thousand word essays saying how it was the worst date she's ever been on and she was scared all night and had no one to talk to when I knew the very opposite was true. If I'd gone back even 4 months and that had happened, I would've been engaging in he rationalisation, but I didn't. There's no point calling out lizards for their bullshit because it's just met with more bullshit.
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03-11-2013, 11:17 AM
How did you "almost" get head? Did she pull your dick out, open her mouth, lean down, and just sort of miss to the left?
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03-11-2013, 05:34 PM
Quote: (03-11-2013 02:44 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:
Quote: (03-11-2013 10:12 AM)thegmanifesto Wrote:
Quote: (03-10-2013 02:28 AM)Sleek Wrote:
This got me thinking, why did she wanted me and not him? He is more attractive and a literally stronger guy than me (we lift).
Did you really think that the most attractive guy in girls eyes is the guy who lifts the most?
How old are you?
You missed that he's better looking. Those two coupled, there is no possible way that she went for this guy over his better looking, heavier lifting friend.
Do you even lift/look good bro?
This guy is just lying. Poor guy. My advice to him is to get some plastic surgery and start taking steroids. Once he can lift up her car to hand her the phone she dropped underneath it, she'll fully give him head.
Haha you guys are shitting on a post I wrote drunk at 3AM... I'm 18...
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How did you "almost" get head? Did she pull your dick out, open her mouth, lean down, and just sort of miss to the left?
She unbuckled my pants and started going down when her brother called outside my house. Chill.
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