I was watching a movie with my GF the last night (we have been dating for 4 months). She was emotional and a bit teary from the current scene when I told her a romantic compliment (that she's got a great heart). Her reaction surprised me. She giggled. She kissed me and continued the cuddling, I just went silent and continued to watch the film.
However, that giggle kind of hurt my feelings, since the compliment was genuine and I am sparse with those kinds of "romantic" lines. After the movie, I got ready for bed and laid down. She was waiting for me, and rolled over to hug me. She usually falls asleep laying on my chest.
I was still feeling a bit pissy about the giggle and didn't hug her close or give her a big kiss like other nights we sleep together (or after fornication). She asked if something was wrong, to which I replied I was tired, but later chose to ask her if I had said something funny before. She (maybe acted) seemed surprised and asked why/when. I told her to go figure, she hinted at the film. I repeated the question, if she had found my comment funny. She even seemed unaware she had giggled. I said it wasn't very important if she didn't recall it, and that I shouldn't have brought it up - to which she got teary and apologizing. I bit my tongue and regretted having brought it up, since it made me look fucking insecure about the giggling. I don't really care about peoples opinions including hers in most cases, but since it was a rare, heartfelt compliment which was answered far from what you would normally expect, it got to me. Other than that how it escalated is bullshit, I knew it when I said it, and I contemplated asking her before thinking it was pointless.
She said she related the compliment to the scene and giggled because of the fact that a film can get her so emotional. Sure, it might have been a misunderstanding.
Conclusion. Her 1 - Me 0. Pointless discussion, I looked insecure.
Aside from last night she has said that I'm bad at chit chatting over the cell and texting, the days we don't hang out. When in touch I usually tell her what's up a la Gmanifesto, and to wear sthg hot, meet up at 8 at XXX - you know the deal. So today, for a change, I shot a "nice" text about having had a great weekend together, to which she almost immediately replied with a long, heartfelt text ab being happy with me blablabla... AND she would get better at telling me about her feelings.
So, not only did I come off as insecure, but also needy - she translated the situation as me needing confirmation of her feelings more often.
I'm confused and don't really know how to deal with this, and how to defer from this betaness surfacing and coloring her opinion of me. Normally we're easy going, spontaneous and she usually says things ab me such as being "mysterious" "a real man" "feeling so secure in your arms" "cocky" "my dream guy" and other ear warming stuff.
As usual. Thx beforehand for your input sirs!
However, that giggle kind of hurt my feelings, since the compliment was genuine and I am sparse with those kinds of "romantic" lines. After the movie, I got ready for bed and laid down. She was waiting for me, and rolled over to hug me. She usually falls asleep laying on my chest.
I was still feeling a bit pissy about the giggle and didn't hug her close or give her a big kiss like other nights we sleep together (or after fornication). She asked if something was wrong, to which I replied I was tired, but later chose to ask her if I had said something funny before. She (maybe acted) seemed surprised and asked why/when. I told her to go figure, she hinted at the film. I repeated the question, if she had found my comment funny. She even seemed unaware she had giggled. I said it wasn't very important if she didn't recall it, and that I shouldn't have brought it up - to which she got teary and apologizing. I bit my tongue and regretted having brought it up, since it made me look fucking insecure about the giggling. I don't really care about peoples opinions including hers in most cases, but since it was a rare, heartfelt compliment which was answered far from what you would normally expect, it got to me. Other than that how it escalated is bullshit, I knew it when I said it, and I contemplated asking her before thinking it was pointless.
She said she related the compliment to the scene and giggled because of the fact that a film can get her so emotional. Sure, it might have been a misunderstanding.
Conclusion. Her 1 - Me 0. Pointless discussion, I looked insecure.
Aside from last night she has said that I'm bad at chit chatting over the cell and texting, the days we don't hang out. When in touch I usually tell her what's up a la Gmanifesto, and to wear sthg hot, meet up at 8 at XXX - you know the deal. So today, for a change, I shot a "nice" text about having had a great weekend together, to which she almost immediately replied with a long, heartfelt text ab being happy with me blablabla... AND she would get better at telling me about her feelings.
So, not only did I come off as insecure, but also needy - she translated the situation as me needing confirmation of her feelings more often.
I'm confused and don't really know how to deal with this, and how to defer from this betaness surfacing and coloring her opinion of me. Normally we're easy going, spontaneous and she usually says things ab me such as being "mysterious" "a real man" "feeling so secure in your arms" "cocky" "my dream guy" and other ear warming stuff.
As usual. Thx beforehand for your input sirs!
