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Direct Openers vs. Indirect Openers in Latin America
05-24-2010, 05:37 PM
So, the standard PUA advice is that using a direct opener (one where you give away your interest when you open her- like "hey, you're cute so I thought I'd come say hi"- is something of a roll of the dice based on your looks. Here in the US, I usually stay away from direct openers.
I'm wondering if it would work better in Latin America, because over there a gringo is more exotic, and because is the culture is more used to people showing interest.
If you do direct, how would you do it en espanol? I'm thinking something like "Tengo que platicar contigo porque tus ojos son muy bonitos."
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05-24-2010, 06:40 PM
"hola, me interesa mucho conocerte"
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05-25-2010, 12:46 PM
Dude you can def. say more shit about "sexy, bonita, blah blah" when you first meet a Latina and they won't be offended, because after all that is what Latin dudes do. I for one recomend you don't do that though.
One of the reasons these women find Gringos a little more attrractive (asside from the fact we look new to them) is that we are generally more polite to women. Now I'm not suggesting that you be a beta fag, but just act as if you really are only interested to find a location on your map or a good place for a cold beer. This will show her you are friendly and not just trying to pick up, but also if she is sexy, she will be curious why you didn't just call her sexy or fine in your first opening line, like 90% of all latin men do.
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06-05-2010, 03:49 PM
You can always be successful in latin america being direct. That is the norm, plus your exotic, so it will definitely be effective. However, your quality will be limited with that strategy. I would agree with rocco with making the hot chicks wonder why you aren't all over them. Just appear as if you are more concerned with the environment and you just want to have a good time.
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Direct Openers vs. Indirect Openers in Latin America
02-03-2014, 11:35 PM
Sorry for bumping this old thread but this is a really good question. Any guys who have been to Latin America know what's best to use? I usually do direct approaches in Mexico because I like it when the girls blush. Anyone else think differently? Do you go indirect or direct in Latin America?
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02-03-2014, 11:42 PM
Im living in L.America now and I too agree with whats been said before. Yes direct openers are possible here and they can lead to succes, but your still putting the girl on a pedestral. Better to act normal, display value yourself and then the hot girl will be even more interested in the gringo who shows that he is a confident and classy man who does not seem to be needy for her beauty.
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02-04-2014, 12:57 AM
Well, to follow up, I've been to Latin America quite a few times since I made this thread 3 years ago. I found indirect works better, start off by talking normally, and then escalate from there, If she's interested you can strike up a connection pretty quickly, no need to do the romeo-talk shit.
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02-04-2014, 12:26 PM
Excellent question! Me and my spanish friend have mulled this one over a lot.
I find that I am doing better her in the Dominican Republic with a semi direct opener. For awhile I would ask directions then transition into how she is a student and maybe we can teach each other our languages. I am a thin guy, so I think it was like adding weak to weak = weak.
Now I open with "do you speak english?" then proceed in spanish or english with "what's your name? Are you a student?"
I'm showing that I am directly interested in her, but she can't quite figure out if I just want to be friends, whether I want sex/girlfriend, am just curious/bored, etc.
I adjust the mix of my opener based on how hot the girl is. I would probably not throw in a "you're pretty" with a 9. Whereas with a shy 7 I might, especially if there isn't a big audience.
I continue about how I live in the area. Ask what she is studying, does she like to cook, etc.. She still doesn't exactly know whether I am going for the sex. But I am being confident about why I am talking to her: I want to get to know her. I want to see her again. I am not hiding that fact.
If it is a few girls, or there is a large audience I might open indirect, just to avoid being awkward. But my friend goes direct with mixed groups.
Another thing I noticed seems to help is the body language. I usually face directly towards her in a confident way. If I feel some fear from her I might turn to the side or step back on a heel. My friend says I need to smile more (I am working on that). I also try to hold eye contact well.
Eye contact is critical. I will stare at a girl until she stares back. Then I approach. Better use of my time then approaching girls that aren't even noticing me. Though I will if she is really hot.
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02-04-2014, 02:56 PM
In Brazil being direct and gross works the best in night game.
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02-04-2014, 02:56 PM
Would be great to see this thread grow. Any new contributions would help as I am going there soon. So MidWest has no need to say sorry for bumping it lol. I never even knew this thread existed.
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02-04-2014, 09:25 PM
I think by using the word "gross" hes trying to display his opinion on direct approaches in general.
In my opinion indirect game is too fake and pussy (beta, whatever word you want to use).
I'd rather validate her as quickly as possible through a direct approach. But I don't use any cheesy lines as I've seen mentioned in this thread. "Hola como estas" works fine for me.
If she doesn't want to talk to me with a basic opening like thay...NEXT. There is an unlimited amount of girls who will. Will not waste my time beating around the bush with indirect talk.