[mcr]

I'm not talking about 'cheating' here... both women know I'm not settling at this point and date more than 1 at a time -- which they both seem to be ok with at the moment -- but the thing is, I'm in a small city (population 130,000).

To me, it just feels a bit awkward when crossing paths.. which can happen often with the limited size of our entertainment district and a small beach area.

Any comments and suggestions to deal with things like this when parallel dating ??

[Trotter]

I'm thinking 3-way.

[broken]

(09-25-2008 12:05 PM)mcr Wrote:  

I'm not talking about 'cheating' here... both women know I'm not settling at this point and date more than 1 at a time -- which they both seem to be ok with at the moment -- but the thing is, I'm in a small city (population 130,000).

To me, it just feels a bit awkward when crossing paths.. which can happen often with the limited size of our entertainment district and a small beach area.

Any comments and suggestions to deal with things like this when parallel dating ??

You need a 3rd or a 4th, so it doesn't look like one of them is the "other woman".

[duncanidaho]

(09-25-2008 12:05 PM)mcr Wrote:  

"To me, it just feels a bit awkward when crossing paths.. which can happen often with the limited size of our entertainment district and a small beach area.
Any comments and suggestions to deal with things like this when parallel dating ??

It's only awkward if you believe it to be so. Remove that bit of "belief" and it'll turn into a means to show greater social value, and elevate you as a prize other women would be interested in. If you allow yourself to feel awkward if that situation happens it'll definitely go against you.

[Roosh]

Who cares if you get caught? If anything it may help your cause unless you are in committed relationships.

[twigman]

You're a lucky guy!

I've been at this from the other end (the end of the the poor sod who is being co-dated), and you're always wondering whether you're #1 or #2. Nothing like something you can't have to stir up desire. Actually locks in a person more that just dating 1 to 1 - just the whole anti-intuitive logic of these things.

[Djonna]

As long as you're just dating and it's not serious, don't worry about it. If it's dating with sex involved? Someone's going to get hurt. I wouldn't want to be that woman to run in to you though. Women are different than men. For a man, he might not think twice. To a woman, it would be viewed as cheating IF you're having sex with one or the other, unless there's a mutual agreement to date others in advance. So? My advice is.... RUN FOR THE HILLS! LEAVE TOWN! LOL.... If you do like both women and want to continue seeing both, make a sure fire bet they don't cross paths. Claws will come out. But? Sooner or later something WILL transpire that one will get hurt. You might be with one woman and speak the other woman's name. You might dial the wrong number. Show up at the other woman's house for a date. Only you know best; just giving some food for thought.... but I also think it's important to think of the women involved. I understand that men enjoy dating more than one woman; it's your nature. I date more than one man; but, don't sleep with more than one man. I'm not sure that's the same situation for men. There comes a time, that being a man should make you feel like a man and doing what's right in the best interest of all parties. You WILL NOT feel good if the two women meet by accident.... You WILL, however, move on to other women; but, the women, themselves, will never forget you.

[X-Factor]

There shouldn't be an issue if you are upfront with the women you are dating. If you let a girl know, right off the bat, that they are not the only girl you are seeing right now, you have maturely and appropriately communicated to her that you are not interested in exclusivity right now.

Some people call what you are doing "spinning plates." Call it what you will, but here's what will happen. Some women will be totally offended and drop off. Others will hang around for awhile. Still others will compete for your attention even more. Hell, one might even turn into a LTR. Don't worry about crossing paths are anything like that. If you've clearly and properly communicated to each plate what your intentions are, there shouldn't be an issue.

Hope this helps.

[twigman]

Hey X - Factor. I'm heading into something like this now potentially.

IN my experience, a girl will openly raise exclusivity as an issue (it invariably happens) if you're getting close to sex . I've had this pretty much happen at the deep kissing stage. Last girl who did this to me I told her I wanted to date other people and she had a complete fit. She put the hard word on me, and guess what - I crumbled (ok this was the old me!).

The point is she was pretty much saying to me - I'm going to make it difficult for you if you keep that attitude, and I really liked her and wanted to get with her; so I complied. I should have said take it or leave it.