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02-10-2013, 10:22 PM
Ok, hey guys, my first post of many, which is why i popped it in the newbie forum.
A bit about my situation and myself, i live a very busy lifestyle whereby i have lile zero free time apart from Saturday night to Sunday night, and each 24 hour gap i ensure i fill, normally by picking up girls at local bars and clubs alongside i partner in hand (fellow PUA). Me on approach and close is usually fine, but when i have a feel that a girl could be a little more than judt a quick fuck, i am a lot more slower in making rash decisions.
In this case theres this girl, which i actually gamed on POF, but pulled her onto normal chatting format (whatsapp and sms) very quickly. Shes pretty ideal for me, and has tried to meet up with me several times in which i flake, always saying something "came up". This isnt because im scared of meeting, its just because i keep thinking its not the right time.
Now we are supposed to be spending the weekend together next week, but she expects a lavish hotel and wants to go spa on Sunday etc. Now my money is tight for thos full stop, but i feel really really wierd, like im letting her down if i dont give her a great weekend and "show money" so to speak.
I hope someone has been in a situation like this, if so, please givr me some advice on it. Ideally something i can message or say to her over the phone to pre empt the weekend or take control of the situation
Thanka!
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02-10-2013, 10:59 PM
If you "lavish" her she will henceforth always expect that standard.
But if you're just looking for the lay itself, is she hot enough to justify the investment?
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02-11-2013, 03:42 PM
She is to be honest. But how do you personally show you have money and your not broke without actually spending. Whats your reason you say for not splashing the money?
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02-11-2013, 03:50 PM
So you've not met her yet and she wants you to splash out on a fancy hotel with a spa the following day for a first date? I'm guessing she won't be splitting the bill for the hotel and spa?
Give me 3 good reasons why you should do this.
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02-11-2013, 04:02 PM
Is she some immigrant from East Europe? That's how you game those.
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02-11-2013, 04:44 PM
If you feel obligated to give her something of value this soon, you're not leading the interaction. Always lead, don't get pushed into doing shit you don't wanna do. If she cant handle it, then next her.
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02-12-2013, 10:01 AM
Take her camping near some natural hot springs. Chicks dig that shit.
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02-12-2013, 10:23 AM
just invite her round to yours, cook something, smash her constantly over the weekend, reversing the flow to make her cook for you after you've filled her stomach with your manly juice
that's cheap lad.
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02-12-2013, 12:00 PM
Quote: (02-10-2013 10:22 PM)MisterSSW4 Wrote:
POF, but pulled her onto normal chatting format (whatsapp and sms) very quickly. Shes pretty ideal for me, and has tried to meet up with me several times in which i flake ... just because i keep thinking its not the right time.
Is this a troll, are you nuts, or what?
You must work fast online. Message me her username so I can make a date tonight. If all goes well, then she will be "too busy" for you tomorrow. Seriously, hot girls get 10-20 messages per day, and if you don't bust a move quickly then you will be forgotten in the pile of suitors.
Meanwhile, this girl expects you to pay for a hotel and spa on first meeting?! The only girl I know like that is literally a Craig's list prostitute.
You don't even know this girl. She could be a secret internet fattie, a transexual, etc. The appropriate and sensible thing is to meet casually for coffee or preferably alcoholic drinks. That's probably what she suggested. But you were too scared and incompetent to do that.
If you really have skills at approaching and closing then you should use them. Just message her that upon reconsideration, a hotel and spa is too elaborate for a first meeting. Then bounce around drinking or something.
Unless your game is so strong that you had super-sexy chat where she needs a hotel room for the first date. But then you wouldn't be asking questions. Besides, you could always go to a hotel bar and get a room if things go well.
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02-12-2013, 09:32 PM
Ok thanks for the reply.
Im not 'scared' though, and i also know exactly all about internet trolls and i know a liar when i see one. Your taking the insensitive hard line answer which is fair enough,, but i guess i sounded more fussed than i actually am. I only really asked as i wanted a really good weekend and i'm bored of the easy one fling girls or the flaky ones and this girl seems similar to me
The question was merely more about approach to handle, not that im shitting myself. But i do admit its good info, of course i m not paying for nothing until i see her and she is the article i read online....if you know what i mean!
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02-14-2013, 03:18 PM
I agree with the rest. You MUST move as fast as humanly possible with an online prospect. Also, keep the date ridiculously simple. Drinks at a mid level restaurant/bar within 10-15 minutes of your place and if possible, have another venue to bounce to before going back to your place to close the deal.
If you get the first date bang and want repeat business or you think she's "the one" you'll have plenty of time to do your magical spa/couples massage/mani/pedi weekend.
