Background
Question - "Where are your friends?"
Since I've been going out solo for years, I have come across this question a lot. The odd thing is that you can go for periods of time never being asked and then periods of time when you are asked often.
Theory 1 - Feedback
When I am in a flow and charismatic, it seems like I'm rarely asked this question. When I am in my head and socially awkward, I'm asked the question a lot. It sometimes seems like a girl will ask, "where are your friends" to get rid of me. My conclusion is that being asked this question a lot indicates that there is something wrong with the way you are coming across.
Theory 2 - Shit Test
If you have a good vibe yet in a bar alone I think a girl might ask you this question because consciously she wonders why you have to go to the bar alone. If you deal with the question in an effective manner then you should be able to turn this question into an advantage.
Purpose
Like many of my postings, I am not asking for advice, I'm just trying to start a discussion about an interesting topic. As always, I'm sure some people jump in without reading the whole posting and give some silly out of context advice. I'm really just looking for what other people's thoughts are on this topic regarding what is going on in the man/woman dynamic.
Question - "Where are your friends?"
Since I've been going out solo for years, I have come across this question a lot. The odd thing is that you can go for periods of time never being asked and then periods of time when you are asked often.
Theory 1 - Feedback
When I am in a flow and charismatic, it seems like I'm rarely asked this question. When I am in my head and socially awkward, I'm asked the question a lot. It sometimes seems like a girl will ask, "where are your friends" to get rid of me. My conclusion is that being asked this question a lot indicates that there is something wrong with the way you are coming across.
Theory 2 - Shit Test
If you have a good vibe yet in a bar alone I think a girl might ask you this question because consciously she wonders why you have to go to the bar alone. If you deal with the question in an effective manner then you should be able to turn this question into an advantage.
Purpose
Like many of my postings, I am not asking for advice, I'm just trying to start a discussion about an interesting topic. As always, I'm sure some people jump in without reading the whole posting and give some silly out of context advice. I'm really just looking for what other people's thoughts are on this topic regarding what is going on in the man/woman dynamic.