[Veloce]

(01-26-2013 09:44 PM)murrb Wrote:  

I just talked to her on skype because she was posting all this stuff on facebook how she missed me. So we talked and she told me what went down and showed me all the text messages she sent the guy. He was coming on to her hard and she said he was just really awkward and was saying things like "If I was murrb I would have canceled my trip to thailand to be with you" I'm 99.9% convinced nothing happened unless she is a straight up serial liar and conjured up the text message conversation.

Careful here, she crossed a line with this one. I'd say at this point she IS passive-aggressively showing you that she has other options. She's doing this in order for you to commit to her. I've seen this move plenty of times.

Your response is 100% dependent on what you want. If you want to gf her proceed as normal, though be careful with girls that pull that passive-aggressive move or are otherwise too outward in revealing how much male attention they receive.

You want a girl that says shit like, "I can't wait until you're back so I can cook for you/rub your back/blow you."

Not a girl that says shit like, "I can't wait until you're back so I can stop hanging out with these awkward guys that hit on me."

If I were you I'd play her. Given how hard she's missing you she's probably going to ask you if you fucked any other girls. To that I'd reply,
"Look, I like you. That should be enough. To date we have not discussed exclusivity, so whatever happened in Thailand is frankly none of your business." This will drive her NUTS, but will force her to respect you since you're playing by the dating "rules". Ball's in your court after this move, so do what you want, push for threesome, etc.

Don't ever ever ever fall for a girl's bluff. She can go on and on and on about how many options she's got, how many guys are pining after her. If a girl tells you that, it means that you're her first pick and she's trying to tie you down. You tell her she's free to do whatever she wants; you're a man that follows his own desires.

[Teddykgb]

Sometimes I think I want to pursue a relationship but then sometimes I think Im just sick in the head and just want to lead someone on into liking me more than I like them.

[Alpha Hunter Zero]

^Too many internal conflicts of interest. You should do what YOU feel like doing, not what you think will please others around you or on this forum. After all it is YOUR life and time that will be affected by a decision. Whatever you decide to do, whether its continuing to see the 21 yr old chick or getting rid of her and chasing new prospects, there really is no negative outcome. Should you decide to stay with her you get to practice and hone your LTR game and gain valuable experience for the long run. Should you decide to let her go you get the chance to practice and perfect cold approaching, gauging interest, demonstrating high value, witty banter, etc all the way to getting the bang. Dont hold on to her out of fear of having to start from scratch if you really arent feeling that much of a connection. There are PLENTY of girls out there, all you have to do is use the right bait and be patient. The choice is yours.

[Duke Castile]

"I can't tell you what to do. If it were me, and I wanted something, I would act like I was worthy of it."

Let her hamster chew on that.

[bojangles]

damn Fisto

[Teddykgb]

I'm still in Thailand and I talked to this girl on skype the other day and she told me she thinks she caught her mom trying to do a background check on me. I'm kind of worried. I dont have anything to hide other than maybe that I frequent this site but does that seem weird to you guys?

[Alpha Hunter Zero]

She might be lying but if you arent a criminal in disguise with murder/ robbery or any other felonies and misdemeaners then stop worrying so much. Just stay alert and keep your eyes and ears open.

[bojangles]

Man don't be arsed, even if you are a criminal so what. Is this an LTR or are you slaying pussy elsewhere? Or both?

[Teddykgb]

(02-04-2013 07:43 AM)bojangles Wrote:  

Man don't be arsed, even if you are a criminal so what. Is this an LTR or are you slaying pussy elsewhere? Or both?

I knocked out 3 girls on my trip to LOS so far but I will be heading home soon. All 3 came from pipelining on TF

I have never been in a ltr before so I kind of want to see what it is like. Once I get my new pad set up in the next few months I will start shopping around a little harder for some side action but I am still fairly new to this stuff.

[mental]

Interesting...
Charming...
These two have served me well when I didn't know what to say, they always get confused because they aren't sure if you're complimenting or teasing them.
Edit: "nice..." also works well.