[MikeinMKE]

I've been single for over a year so all of my bangs have been drunken for the most part. Last night the way the date went we drank some in afternoon, then I met her and her friend out later so I wasn't really drunk when we came back to my place. That combined with the fact that this was a solid 8 helped contribute to me cumming too quickly (probably like 4-5 minutes total but that's counting me with my "hang on... gotta stop for a second". Same thing this AM. Every time she started to get into it I'd get close to the edge and have to scale back. Could tell she was unimpressed.

I know it's easy to say "who gives a fuck on to the next one" but this bugs me as it's becoming a pattern. This is like 3 times in a row that I've been subpar with a girl that I would like to see again.

If I do bang her again and perform better should I address it after ("that's more like it... I was really off my game last time..."), etc.

Anybody else have this problem?

[Matt3B]

Tactical wank will help. Or getting her to give you head before you fuck.

I've had a few times where I last about 5 minutes on the first go, then 15 minutes later can pick things up again and last over an hour. I've never had a girl been unimpressed with coming too quick on the first go because I ran good game on them. You'll have to look at what you're doing to make them not so bothered about it and happier that they got you off.

[MikeinMKE]

(01-20-2013 10:40 PM)MattC Wrote:  

You'll have to look at what you're doing to make them not so bothered about it and happier that they got you off.

I like this idea - there should be a way to craft a good line that comes across as flattery, such as "wow I was a bit early there but you felt so damn good..." Seems common sense to me - should remember to try that if it happens again.

[LooTa]

You didn't get a second go? On the odd occasion when I have gone off too early, give it an hour, maybe watch a movie or something and then you'll be ready for round 2. Only this time you've had the edge taken off and you can fuck her good, long and hard. Just think of the first round as your warm-up set.

[Matt3B]

I mean before you get her into bed, you need her feeling lucky that she gets to sleep with you, not the other way around. Letting her know you have options, instilling dread and competition anxiety into her where she wants to spend time with you and impress you to make you spend more time with her. That's what I'm talking about. That way, if you come early, she doesn't mind because she's happy she's done her job which is to keep you happy and sticking around.

Don't make it a big deal if you come early, just roll off and go to sleep or whatever. Or go back in a little while for more when you will last longer.

Give this a read, Rollo has it on point:

http://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2012/10/15/sex-debt/

[Capitán Peligroso]

Do kegel exercises. Having better control of your dick will always serve you well.

[MikeinMKE]

(01-20-2013 11:04 PM)LooTa Wrote:  

You didn't get a second go? On the odd occasion when I have gone off too early, give it an hour, maybe watch a movie or something and then you'll be ready for round 2. Only this time you've had the edge taken off and you can fuck her good, long and hard. Just think of the first round as your warm-up set.

I did in the morning but I was obviously 100% sober and I only had "bareskin" condoms and was kind of in my own head about it. I think I did marginally better this AM but it's just crazy because not 2 weeks ago I was fucking this other slut like a rock star, spanking her ass, had a thumb up her asshole, walk around and jammed my cock in her mouth, etc. Came within 15 seconds of when I wanted to - had multiple positions and went for at least 10 minutes - could have gone as long as I wanted. Ditto for another chick that I fucked on NYE and the following morning. Both of those I'd give myself an A - but the problem is I cared not one iota about seeing either of them again. They were a 6 and 7 respectively. And I rawdogged them BOTH.

This chick I was a C- with... I want to see again, is an 8, etc. So methinks the problem is mostly mental - perhaps needing a proper buzz a close 2nd and having less thin condoms a 3rd.

[bojangles]

this happened to me a few times last yaer, but I dominated the girls hard, grabbed them, pulled their hair, choked them, so they werent that bothered about it, more worried about pleasuring me than themselves.

[soup]

You might have prostatitis, in which case you need to have many more orgasms and take hot baths for 45 minutes a day for a couple months.

[Laner]

(01-20-2013 11:15 PM)MikeinMKE Wrote:  

(01-20-2013 11:04 PM)LooTa Wrote:  

You didn't get a second go? On the odd occasion when I have gone off too early, give it an hour, maybe watch a movie or something and then you'll be ready for round 2. Only this time you've had the edge taken off and you can fuck her good, long and hard. Just think of the first round as your warm-up set.

I did in the morning but I was obviously 100% sober and I only had "bareskin" condoms and was kind of in my own head about it. I think I did marginally better this AM but it's just crazy because not 2 weeks ago I was fucking this other slut like a rock star, spanking her ass, had a thumb up her asshole, walk around and jammed my cock in her mouth, etc. Came within 15 seconds of when I wanted to - had multiple positions and went for at least 10 minutes - could have gone as long as I wanted. Ditto for another chick that I fucked on NYE and the following morning. Both of those I'd give myself an A - but the problem is I cared not one iota about seeing either of them again. They were a 6 and 7 respectively. And I rawdogged them BOTH.

This chick I was a C- with... I want to see again, is an 8, etc. So methinks the problem is mostly mental - perhaps needing a proper buzz a close 2nd and having less thin condoms a 3rd.

That sounds like part of the problem right there. Never hold back with any girl. Fuck them like its the last time you are ever going to have sex, then fuck them again. The more you mentally psych yourself up for sex, meaning you are telling yourself "Wow this chick is perfect, look at her naked body, her amazing ass, tight skin" etc, etc the more likely you are going to come out short.

So, stop caring so much. Enjoy the ride but separate yourself from your mind and see how that goes.

[IRTdenialist]

It happens now and then bro, don't worry about it. Just make sure you don't become a regular 'minute man'

[Fatless]

If it looks like she was just getting started by the time I finish, my response is something like, "damn, you drive me fucking wild, couldn't contain myself on that one, ha ha ha [slap her ass]".

[Screwston]

[wi30]

Last spring I got myself into a similar situation. I went from a long dryspell into one of my best hot streaks almost overnight. Knock back a couple shots before you take her into the bedroom (either with her or by yourself when she goes to the bathroom if she doesn't drink) and you'll be fine.

Most importantly don't let it get to you, rounds 2 and 3 and 4+ will be a marathon.

[soup]

You have to understand that as a man, you can't "perform poorly sexually".

That's just feminist propaganda.

As a man having sex, you cum whenever you want to.

Sometimes it takes -5 seconds to cum, sometimes it takes 5 hours. Sometimes you cum when she cums.

It doesn't matter.

What matters is that you enjoy it when you do come.

There are so many girls out there.

[Divorco]

(01-20-2013 10:40 PM)MattC Wrote:  

Tactical wank will help.

Or just fuck another girl on the way to her house.

[GenJx]

stop caring so much. and stop trying to please her. krauser has a good post on this

[bojangles]

I think even Rollo posted on this, please yourself above the girl.

[Pappy]

The problem is you want to please her. Concentrate on fucking her for your own pleasure, that will please her.

[Pete]

(01-23-2013 10:46 AM)Pappy Wrote:  

The problem is you want to please her. Concentrate on fucking her for your own pleasure, that will please her.

Exactly. When one doesn't give a fuck one can go on and on without a break.

Also, the more you do it (4 times/week vs 1 time/week) the less you'll care, thus the more you'll be able to last.

[LouieG]

Agreed with the advice not to stress it, but controlling when you pop is good for your own purposes. Three bits of advice there:

1. Reverse kegels (look these up)
2. The muscles you use to hold back the finale are least effective when you're on top and flat against her. Use your arms to lift your torso up and you'll have a lot more control during missionary.
3. Start really slow. Give your dick some time to get his bearings before you start putting it down for real.

[Prestige]

Cardio cardio cardio is all I can say. Condoms help also.