I intend for this to be a "living thread" that I'll add to as needed. My main point is to pep talk you guys and demonstrate what kinds of emails work well. I have a few buddies on Match (ranging from lawyer and doctor to valet at a 3 star hotel) and none of them know how to properly target and email. Targeting is key and emailing is even more key. Yes, it takes some time to fire off a custom email, but there is a pattern than you can draw from and once you get the hang of it you can crank out a funny and effective custom email in under 5 minutes.
I've noticed that a lot of guys on here have nothing but negatives to say about Match.com. I feel like I can help. Now I luckily fit into that category of white, 6-1, fit, handsome, good pics, cool dog, graduate degree, etc. but I would argue adamantly that Match.com is the most time-efficient tool for any form of dating. Period. I approach in bars. I make day approaches downtown where I live. But Match is awesome and should be an important part of your arsenal if you have the right characteristics. The best thing is that your competition on Match.com is fucking horrendous. I've had at least 40 dates since I moved to my new city and close to half of them have (unsolicited) said by our second drink something along the lines of "wow - this is so different from my other dates." Knowing where they're going (I'm cool and "normal", their other dates are IP guys or accountants with zero social skills/confidence) I will either prompt them further or downplay it and change the subject to something that I'd talk about on a "normal" date.
There are several factors that you need to realize to maximize your efforts. Unless you're an absolute 9 or 10 in virtually every key facet (looks, life experiences, job, living situation, etc) you should avoid wasting your time by emailing the hottest girls with tons of pictures. She gets hit up by every single guy on the site - literally dozens if not hundreds of emails per day. Move on to a niche that you're interested in - girls with heavy tats, girls who are vegans, girls who are super Christian if you have experience with that game, girls who love your football team, girls who are "foodies" if you can talk a good restaurant game, girls who are super liberal if you can talk deeply on politics, etc. etc. Find your interests, figure out what niche of girl fits some of those interests, and search for them.
I think it's very possible for you to build a portfolio of girls comparable to your range (6-8 if you're a 7.5, for example) to use as a nice confidence booster/calendar filler to supplement with your day game or social networking pickups. In my opinion you don't have to worry about being "beta" on emails - everybody is beta on Match.com and 95% of guys are also lazy as fuck in addition. You'll stand out with strong emails and then when you meet on a date you're alpha, cool, confident, etc.
Email 1)
Subject: Tell me about your trip to Amsterdam...
Judging from your profile you may have even lived there for a spell - I'm very interested in visiting (I think I'd rank it second on my hit list behind Japan) and hope to make it happen in 2013. I enjoyed reading about you - you seem like you have such a diverse set of interests and hobbies... Being an entrepreneur in such a specialized area probably means that you spent a good deal of time with horses your entire life? I'm definitely an animal lover myself, however I have my hands full between travel for work and keeping up with my (redacted) - we moved up here together from our hometown of (redacted) last year (we had previously both lived our entire lives on (redacted - witty reference to hometown area). I enjoy (redacted) though - the job opportunity that I got was too good to pass up and well... I'm dealing with the snow!
So tell me about your cooking - how did you get into cooking Indian and Thai food? I really love the healthier Thai dishes with tons of vegetables and spices. My best meal is probably broiling a filet and making some spaghetti and marinara to go along as a side dish. When's the last time that you went on a wine tasting? I used to do a good many in (redacted) but haven't been to one in (redacted) yet - lots of my new friends up here are beer drinkers.
Well I'll let you go for now, but I hope that you're having a great weekend![[Image: smile.gif]](https://rooshvforum.network/images/smilies/smile.gif)
Cheers,
Mike
Email 2)
Subject: You'd be impressed with my Netflix DVD queue
... very British comedy / Period piece / documentary heavy on my recommendations and queue![[Image: wink.gif]](https://rooshvforum.network/images/smilies/wink.gif)
So hey - I really enjoyed your profile and thought I'd drop you a line. It seems like we might have a ton in common - we're both southerners, tennis aficionados, artsy, and well-traveled. I actually played tennis in college for a couple of years and my parents are TOTAL junkies... if you go to their house I swear they will have the Tennis channel on television. It will probably be some previously recorded match from Beijing between Alexandr Dolgopolov and Radek Stepanek, but they WILL WATCH IT and will not be happy if you change the channel haha.
Tell me about what you're reading/watching as far as documentary/learning lately? I'm about halfway through that "Americans in Paris" book by David McCullough... it's pretty good. I have such an affinity for Paris that I'll swallow up anything remotely related to France - I geeked out to "Russia Against Napoleon" earlier this year and loved it.
Okay I'll let you go but one other anecdote - this morning I was reaching up in my closet to try and find my gloves for my dog's walk... I hadn't bothered to find them yet this year but I'm tired of having freezing hands on these walks. Anyway, I felt the soft leather fingers of my glove, but when I pulled at it, they wouldn't budge. Something was holding them into place, and I gave it a good yank and this huge roller blade came CRASHING DOWN on my foot. Not a pleasant way to start my week. But I thought that a random roller blade story would make you smile - I haven't used them in years but it's nice to see that should the occasion one day arise, there would be at least ONE potential roller blade buddy in (redacted)
Hope you had a great weekend,
Mike
I've noticed that a lot of guys on here have nothing but negatives to say about Match.com. I feel like I can help. Now I luckily fit into that category of white, 6-1, fit, handsome, good pics, cool dog, graduate degree, etc. but I would argue adamantly that Match.com is the most time-efficient tool for any form of dating. Period. I approach in bars. I make day approaches downtown where I live. But Match is awesome and should be an important part of your arsenal if you have the right characteristics. The best thing is that your competition on Match.com is fucking horrendous. I've had at least 40 dates since I moved to my new city and close to half of them have (unsolicited) said by our second drink something along the lines of "wow - this is so different from my other dates." Knowing where they're going (I'm cool and "normal", their other dates are IP guys or accountants with zero social skills/confidence) I will either prompt them further or downplay it and change the subject to something that I'd talk about on a "normal" date.
There are several factors that you need to realize to maximize your efforts. Unless you're an absolute 9 or 10 in virtually every key facet (looks, life experiences, job, living situation, etc) you should avoid wasting your time by emailing the hottest girls with tons of pictures. She gets hit up by every single guy on the site - literally dozens if not hundreds of emails per day. Move on to a niche that you're interested in - girls with heavy tats, girls who are vegans, girls who are super Christian if you have experience with that game, girls who love your football team, girls who are "foodies" if you can talk a good restaurant game, girls who are super liberal if you can talk deeply on politics, etc. etc. Find your interests, figure out what niche of girl fits some of those interests, and search for them.
I think it's very possible for you to build a portfolio of girls comparable to your range (6-8 if you're a 7.5, for example) to use as a nice confidence booster/calendar filler to supplement with your day game or social networking pickups. In my opinion you don't have to worry about being "beta" on emails - everybody is beta on Match.com and 95% of guys are also lazy as fuck in addition. You'll stand out with strong emails and then when you meet on a date you're alpha, cool, confident, etc.
Email 1)
Subject: Tell me about your trip to Amsterdam...
Judging from your profile you may have even lived there for a spell - I'm very interested in visiting (I think I'd rank it second on my hit list behind Japan) and hope to make it happen in 2013. I enjoyed reading about you - you seem like you have such a diverse set of interests and hobbies... Being an entrepreneur in such a specialized area probably means that you spent a good deal of time with horses your entire life? I'm definitely an animal lover myself, however I have my hands full between travel for work and keeping up with my (redacted) - we moved up here together from our hometown of (redacted) last year (we had previously both lived our entire lives on (redacted - witty reference to hometown area). I enjoy (redacted) though - the job opportunity that I got was too good to pass up and well... I'm dealing with the snow!
So tell me about your cooking - how did you get into cooking Indian and Thai food? I really love the healthier Thai dishes with tons of vegetables and spices. My best meal is probably broiling a filet and making some spaghetti and marinara to go along as a side dish. When's the last time that you went on a wine tasting? I used to do a good many in (redacted) but haven't been to one in (redacted) yet - lots of my new friends up here are beer drinkers.
Well I'll let you go for now, but I hope that you're having a great weekend
Cheers,
Mike
Email 2)
Subject: You'd be impressed with my Netflix DVD queue
... very British comedy / Period piece / documentary heavy on my recommendations and queue
So hey - I really enjoyed your profile and thought I'd drop you a line. It seems like we might have a ton in common - we're both southerners, tennis aficionados, artsy, and well-traveled. I actually played tennis in college for a couple of years and my parents are TOTAL junkies... if you go to their house I swear they will have the Tennis channel on television. It will probably be some previously recorded match from Beijing between Alexandr Dolgopolov and Radek Stepanek, but they WILL WATCH IT and will not be happy if you change the channel haha.Tell me about what you're reading/watching as far as documentary/learning lately? I'm about halfway through that "Americans in Paris" book by David McCullough... it's pretty good. I have such an affinity for Paris that I'll swallow up anything remotely related to France - I geeked out to "Russia Against Napoleon" earlier this year and loved it.
Okay I'll let you go but one other anecdote - this morning I was reaching up in my closet to try and find my gloves for my dog's walk... I hadn't bothered to find them yet this year but I'm tired of having freezing hands on these walks. Anyway, I felt the soft leather fingers of my glove, but when I pulled at it, they wouldn't budge. Something was holding them into place, and I gave it a good yank and this huge roller blade came CRASHING DOWN on my foot. Not a pleasant way to start my week. But I thought that a random roller blade story would make you smile - I haven't used them in years but it's nice to see that should the occasion one day arise, there would be at least ONE potential roller blade buddy in (redacted)
Hope you had a great weekend,
Mike
![[Image: biggrin.gif]](https://rooshvforum.network/images/smilies/biggrin.gif)
. What cheese has the fortune to be your #1? I got this incredible truffle cheese (think it's French ) from whole foods last week... I'd look it up but I'm unfortunately in (redacted) for work.