[Ray]

we can share here experiences, methods, tips and tricks on becoming a alpha.
Here are the first things that come to my mind
Stop paying girls compliments for free, make them work for your atention, instead of you working for their atention
Don't fake any badass atitude, girls can feel when your faking
hit the gym or go jogging or do both, this has less relevance on being a alpha, but it helps to be fit
don't ever talk to a girl about your problems, some guys are tempted to do this mostly due to lack of experience
Get a deeper voice, breath from your gut not from your chest, this is also a good exercise if you are excitable or nervous

[polymath]

Maybe I'm the only one here, but I think the term "alpha" just sounds silly. I don't naturally think in those terms and it seems strange to me that some people walk into situations determined to act alpha.

Instead, I focus on upgrading myself. The game will follow. Be true to your passions and desires, honor yourself, and improve the world that you find around you, and things will fall into place, for the most part. Then, focus on how you interact, body language, style, everything. Study the masters of charisma (Clinton, Clooney, and so forth...the list is long), and learn from what works for them.

[Ray]

it woulded sounded better ''how not to be a beta'', but polymath is right, this is more like a self-improvement topic, actualy I consider the whole game to be a improvement to me

[Cruisen_Chubby]

If you are constantly asking yourself if you are "alpha"- You aren't.

If you constantly find yourself caring about how "alpha" you are- you aren't displaying "alpha" characteristics.

I don't know why we use such terminology to obfuscate what is essentially a cool mother fucker who doesn't care what anyone thinks of what he says or does; all the while, still capturing the heart and admiration of people around him.

So let me ask you this-

Are you cool?

How much do you care?

Do women love you?

Do men want to hang out with you?

Are you doing what you want with your life?

Do you say what you want to whom you want?



Answer these questions- then decide if you are "alpha" or not.

IMO- strategically figuring out how to mindfuck a girl at the bar by using "negs" and akward body language stances is not the way to go. You will be calculated and over all- just fucking weird.

I don't know how many times this needs to be repeated but here are the stepping stones that everyone new to game should harp on for the first year - stop with the theory bullshit and throw some practicality into your life:

1) Hit the gym
2) Develop a dressing style
3) Start talking to people (everyone, not just women)
4) Get a constructive hobby (read books, build cars, etc.)
5) Find a job you love to do

and last but certainly not least:

Do whatever it is that makes you happy, regardless of what others have to say or think about it.

If you can do this ^ ; then I will give you that stupid alpha title you care so much about.

There's a lot of paralysis by analysis on this board and in the community in general. Heartiste, Roosh, etc. all have some grade A material, but without any first hand experience....feathers in the air.

[CMan0928]

This thread serves no purpose. Read "Bang" or "The Game" and go from there, Ray.

[EasyMoney]

The blog Bold & Determined really nailed the concept of what alpha really is (as far as women perceive it, not as you or I may have subjectively defined it).

Its really simple. Just be selfish.

The more and more I think about it, its so damn true. The more I analyze what beta behavior and nice guy behavior really is - its not being selfish.

Now of course, you may say being selfish makes someone an asshole - and that's the point isn't it?

Once you realize that you have to stop caring what others think about what you are up to, once you stop seeking approval and become oblivious to disapproval, you'll be more of the alpha that women are screening for.

Its fucked up, but young attractive women don't screen for men with character. They don't have a fucking clue what character even is. Save that for the relationships in your life that matter - with friends, family, co-workers - relationships in which showing that you're not a pig matter.

[Duke Castile]

When men want to be you and women want to be with you, you're doing it right. Be cool, be solid, do what you want. Build your life. Everything else, like women, are a byproduct.